No one notices my weight loss

quiltlovinlisa
quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
in Motivation and Support
I keep thinking it's coming, it's coming but *sigh*, I'd really like someone to notice.

I'm certainly not working on a healthier me for the kudos, but it'd make my day. I'll keep working on it. Someone will notice eventually.

Edited to add, sorry, that really was whiny.
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  • DainaLC
    DainaLC Posts: 18,937 Member
    You have lost about the same amount of weight as I have, congratulations!! When you are around people who see you every day, sometimes they don't notice right away. Give it time, and above all, never give up! :flowerforyou:
  • rose228822
    rose228822 Posts: 186 Member
    I so sorry that no one has noticed your weight loss...I didn't have anyone notice until I lost about 10 lbs...keep motivated and don't give up!
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    You have lost about the same amount of weight as I have, congratulations!! When you are around people who see you every day, sometimes they don't notice right away. Give it time, and above all, never give up! :flowerforyou:

    That's very true. I also started barely fitting into a size 18w and now I'm barely fitting into a 16w... (comfortably in a straight 18) So there's not *that* much difference size wise. I know it'll take a while. I'm working on the toning exercises to help firm stuff up and boy do I need a lot of firming.

    Thanks. I'm not quitting. I want to be a healthy weight and I'm not there yet! 75 more pounds to go!
  • CraftyWeeWifey
    CraftyWeeWifey Posts: 17 Member
    I've found people start to notice when I've lost around 10% of my body weight. Also I know with friends of mine who have lost a lot of weight, I don't notice when I'm seeing them often, then suddenly I'll think "didn't they used to be a lot bigger?"
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Go see someone you don't see that often. People who see you daily don't notice. Make a series of coffee/froyo/ice cream/boba meet ups with people you rarely see at a strip mall that has all that. Make each appointment with each person at a different place until one of them compliments your weight. When you get that first compliment, text everyone else cancelling your date and then come on here and log the cals u consumed. It'll be worth the overage.
  • HMVOL7409
    HMVOL7409 Posts: 1,588 Member
    Honestly? Some don't say anything with regards to weight no matter what. For me, I find it distasteful to comment unless that person brings it up. I have a coworker desperately trying to lose weight and people keep asking if she's pregnant. I have people asking if I lost more weight, nope I've actually put on 10lbs. Things don't bother me the way they do others and I have seen the negative side to this. To me, it's rude to even question but you can call me crazy on that if you want. Just keep working hard, for you, and don't worry what anyone else thinks.
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    I'm not worried. Maybe just a little whiny today. Thanks friends. Back to the grind.
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    Maybe they have noticed and are jealous. Be happy!
  • orangebuttercat
    orangebuttercat Posts: 143 Member
    a lot of people may have noticed, but not said banything because perhaps you haven't volunteered information that you are losing weight..

    They may not want to imply...Wow you have lost weight , because we know you were sooo much heavier a while back..or something like that, Perhaps in misguided politeness.... But people do notice, once someone says something others will follow.

    Youre doing grreat!!
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    I don't talk about what I'm doing IRL because I don't want to be that obnoxious "hey look at the changes I've made" woman. You know, the one that seems to imply that you should be making changes too, cause that's all she can talk about, calories and exercise. lol

    I save that for here. *wink*

    Plus I've made these changes before and they were never long term. Life hit me like a truck a number of years back and it's taken a long time to gain control again.
  • shadow2soul
    shadow2soul Posts: 7,692 Member
    a lot of people may have noticed, but not said banything because perhaps you haven't volunteered information that you are losing weight..

    They may not want to imply...Wow you have lost weight , because we know you were sooo much heavier a while back..or something like that, Perhaps in misguided politeness.... But people do notice, once someone says something others will follow.

    Youre doing grreat!!

    This is probably the reason.

    I haven't had comments either, but the only person I talk about weight loss with is my husband (he's trying to lose weight as well) and people here on MFP. I also know that most of my friends consider it rude to comment on another person's weight.
  • LizAnn925
    LizAnn925 Posts: 20 Member
    Don't worry, and don't be discouraged! If anything, be more encouraged to lose even more! Don't take offense to it. When you see the same people every day, it takes them a long time to notice anything. I lost 16 pounds this year and my boyfriend just now noticed it...because I told him...especially don't expect guys to notice things haha
  • tiger4nikki
    tiger4nikki Posts: 112 Member
    People that see you every day may not notice before someone that only sees you every couple of weeks or a month. Hell, I couldn't even notice that I had lost myself. But my hubby noticed because we don't see each other except for the weekends because of work. I work days and he works 4p-2a.
  • MadDogManor
    MadDogManor Posts: 1,530 Member
    I've had one person at work mention my weight loss. Now every morning she looks me up and down, like I'm something to be ogled instead of a co-worker. It's very uncomfortable, and I wish we'd never talked about weight. I don't say anything, because it's none of their business. You know what you've done and what you're working on - that's awesome! Keep it up :-)
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    I've had one person at work mention my weight loss. Now every morning she looks me up and down, like I'm something to be ogled instead of a co-worker. It's very uncomfortable, and I wish we'd never talked about weight. I don't say anything, because it's none of their business. You know what you've done and what you're working on - that's awesome! Keep it up :-)

    That would be uncomfortable!
  • jadethief
    jadethief Posts: 266 Member
    I think (most) people are cautious about remarking on someone else's weight loss until it's really obvious. It was around 30 lbs before the ones who knew I was dieting started commenting and about 35 lbs for others to start asking if I had lost weight. And still other people know there's something different about you but can't quite put their finger.

    I had one co-worker who kept staring at me one day and finally I said, "What?" And she said, "You're so pretty, really pretty with your new earrings. . . . . ." (they weren't new) ". . . . ..and your makeup. . . ." (been wearing makeup everyday for the last 6 months). . . ."looking all girly girl." lol, I think what she noticed was how much weight I've lost in my face, lol. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry, lol
  • KAYRRIE
    KAYRRIE Posts: 201 Member
    lol, I know how you feel. It took me getting into the 40's lost for someone to really notice something but I am pretty heavy so I understand. It does feel good though to have someone notice your hard work without you nudging them, "do you notice something?" lol. They'll notice eventually, just keep up the good work.

    Edit: They sure do notice the big guy who lost less but whatever lol, I didn't notice his loss. Must be me.
  • Happyme2009
    Happyme2009 Posts: 233 Member
    You lost 25 lbs and nobody notices? They must be blind! Unless you are one of those half-a-ton person, ( which I think you're not ), it's impossible for 25 lbs to go unnoticed. They must be jealous!
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  • loislenski
    loislenski Posts: 89 Member
    I've only ever had a couple non-immediate family members tell me that I looked good/looked like I had lost weight. Honestly though, I wasn't too overweight to begin with. Plenty of people have told me though that I don't look like I need to lose weight, which I guess is pretty close to saying it looks like I've lost weight. :)
  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
    do something nice for yourself every 20lbs...like hair,pedi,mani etc ..people notice that stuff more...sneaky eh...hahah
  • stephaniemejia1671
    stephaniemejia1671 Posts: 482 Member
    As long as YOU notice I think that does the job. I understand you wanting the kudos though.. I haven't gotten them either, I give them to myself all the time, ALL THE TIME lol. If you aren't your own cheerleader.. who else will be?
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    As long as YOU notice I think that does the job. I understand you wanting the kudos though.. I haven't gotten them either, I give them to myself all the time, ALL THE TIME lol. If you aren't your own cheerleader.. who else will be?

    Good point.

    I'll give you kudos. :)
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    do something nice for yourself every 20lbs...like hair,pedi,mani etc ..people notice that stuff more...sneaky eh...hahah

    True, people do notice that type of thing more.
  • AmandaGuele
    AmandaGuele Posts: 7
    Hey, that may not be true!

    Believe it or not, I've discovered a lot of people notice it, but won't say anything about it. That happened with me. I had lost so much weight, and NO ONE NOTICED (at first). The first time someone said something to me, it was because I brought it up, and she insisted that she saw a difference but didn't really ever come across the topic in conversation/didn't want to offend me and make me think I had looked bad before the weight loss.

    ^^Oh, and that was after losing 30 lbs too.

    Plus, it's difficult for people to notice things like that right away. You lose weight so slowly that it doesn't really hit a person how much slimmer you are until they look at an old photo of you. Think about it: they see you ALL the time. If they saw you at the start of a month, and then hadn't seen you again till the end, THEN they would probably take note instantly.

    Don't take it personally, and keep going :). Remember, you're not doing this for other people, you're doing this FOR YOU. As long as YOU notice a difference, that's all that matters. At some point, it'll hit people how much you've progressed, but for now, wait patiently ^_^.
  • KathryneJY
    KathryneJY Posts: 83 Member
    I am pretty forthright with my fitness goals, so people don't mind commenting. Because I make a point of walking every day at work, and come back all sweaty, people know I'm on my journey. I lost a bunch of weight a few years ago (50 lbs) and people didn't start noticing it until I hit 25-30 lbs lost. When you're big like I was (210 lbs), that first 20 lbs isn't that obvious to people. But soon, people will start commenting. Then comes the "you're losing too much" comments and you feel like you have to start explaining yourself.

    That's why I don't keep it a secret. I don't talk about it unsolicited, but I'm open to people who do comment and don't get offended when people point out that I have lost weight. Most people ask if I went for a run or something (I am a heavy sweater and walk very fast on my 40 minute lunchtime walks), and I just say yes, and they get all interested in my fitness regime. After that, the comments come rolling in.
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    You lost 25 lbs and nobody notices? They must be blind! Unless you are one of those half-a-ton person, ( which I think you're not ), it's impossible for 25 lbs to go unnoticed. They must be jealous!

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    and they may not feel comfortable saying anything
    post some before and afters and u are sure to get some comments!

    I figured I'd wait until I was under 200 before posting pictures. :)
  • verptwerp
    verptwerp Posts: 3,659 Member
    Congrats on your weight loss ........ 25 pounds is fantastic ...... keep on truckin' !
  • themedalist
    themedalist Posts: 3,218 Member
    As others have said, there's a bunch of reasons people may not have said anything.

    I've lost 50 pounds and and now at my goal weight and size. I lost 25% of my body weight and many people I know that I don't see that often have never said anything about my weight loss. It's a little perplexing but I shrug it off.

    Congrats to you!
  • dgb26
    dgb26 Posts: 77
    I'm responding to this because my answer is slightly different than the rest I have read.

    I am down 37 lbs...and when I see photos of 37 lbs ago, I cringe. The difference is shocking.

    I was about to spat off a response that nobody has noticed....blah blah blah. BUT THE TRUTH IS---THEY HAVE! People have been saying things about "I look skinny, I look great, am I working out?, I look strong, my shoulders look broader, my face looks thinner, my waist looks thinner". When I really think about it, I have heard all of those things. The problem lies with the fact that my weight and my appearance since I've been losing the weight is ALWAYS on my mind. Therefore I always need compliments to keep me happy. Its like, its on my mind, it should be on theirs too. But its not. They have said their comments and moved on. I've noticed people lose weight before myself, but rarely mentioned it more than once or twice. I can live with others doing that to me.

    This thread and my own reflection of this realization has really helped me. I get it now!

    Think really hard...have you really heard no comments? Do you even know the people who you kind of expect compliments from? I was guilty of both of those.

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