8 months of trying...fail...depressed, need help

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  • Valkieran
    Valkieran Posts: 4
    It is hard to lose weight when you are stressed. Instead of eating take a walk. The exercise is a wonderful way to get rid of the stress and I find that after exercising I don't want to eat as much. I walk 30 minutes everyday. I also change the size of my plate and eating utensils. I bought myself a set of the Disney Princess Children's plates and I use those to eat my meals. You eat smaller portion sizes and you might find that you are satisfied. I have lost 49 lbs since Oct. 31, 2012. I have 16 more to go to hit my goal. Its easy to get frustrated, but work your program and it will work for you. Don't look for fast results, celebrate every loss, and accept the small gains. I'm confident that you will succeed in the long run!!!
  • CacauCorreas
    CacauCorreas Posts: 1
    Hey, Nikita! You look so beautiful on your profile pics. Look, maybe you just need to go easy on yourself. I am facing the same problems when it comes to go to the gym. I go monday, then tuesday, then wednesday I feel to tired ... Thursday I eat pizza for dinner and friday I am already giving up. Every week is a fresh star heheheh But, what I've lerned from this experience is that no matter how many calories you are consuming or what people say you should do, You have to feel great about yourself. Even if you eat more than you should, go to the gym, go out for a long walk listening to your favorite music, dance in front of your TV ... Just keep moving ... This anxiety towards food usually leaves me as long as I keep moving... It naturally goes away. Give it a try! And please, look at you ! You are a very beautiful young woman :)
    Hope you feel better soon!
    Lots of kisses, from Brazil :D
  • Valkieran
    Valkieran Posts: 4
    You need 1200 calories to maintain your body every day. Let my fitness pal set a calorie goal for you.

    And I'm Lisa, 46 from Chicago
  • metacognition
    metacognition Posts: 626 Member
    Hi Nikita, it is lovely to meet you.

    I have trouble with binge eating and emotional eating. What I've found that helps is to avoid keeping sweets in the house except in small amounts, and to eat small meals during the day that have some protein in them. The protein helps to suppress appetite.

    Instead of looking at your weight and thinking of how difficult it will be to lose it all, focus on making small changes on one day and not thinking about the end goal. Each day is a new start. Do something now, instead of waiting a day or even an hour.
  • bdahlia13
    bdahlia13 Posts: 26
    I agree with others! First of all, you are already beautiful! Don't despair so much! Next, do up your calories a bit by calculating your TDEE -20%. I THINK that you will feel less likely to eat junk food when you increase your calories and eat more protein rich foods (meat, nuts, greek yogurt...). Try to eat throughout the whole day. I am still new to this myself and I feel like "giving up" when the scale doesn't move the way I want it to, but I trust MFP and those who have experience. :) If you have a gym membership, attend the classes and don't be shy! You are there for YOU, don't feel judged by anyone! Just be patient and don't worry! Good luck!
  • suzclark66
    suzclark66 Posts: 13 Member
    I agree with Connie! 1100 isn't enough! On days that you exercise you need to fuel your body up so it has the energy for the workouts. 1500-1600 is what my trainer had me on. Try seeing if certain foods affect your body...I know for me the minute I eat pasta, potatoes, or bread...i gain! Some people...dairy affects them. Aim for a balance of carbs, protein, and fats. If you reduce any of those too much, the minute you go back on them...you will gain. Don't give up! You can do this!!!
  • howgoesyourlove
    howgoesyourlove Posts: 22
    Pick one thing you will do differently THIS week, and do it. Just one. Whether it is going to the gym three times, taking a walk, researching some ways to replace unhealthy comfort foods with healthier options...whatever. Do it for a week. Next week, add another small goal.

    I did not develop my bad habits in a day, and some of them are really challenging. It doesn't seem so overwhelming when I tackle one thing at a time.

    Thanks so much for the reply. I am trying to cut down on my whites. Shall keep you posted! :)
  • howgoesyourlove
    howgoesyourlove Posts: 22
    It is hard to lose weight when you are stressed. Instead of eating take a walk. The exercise is a wonderful way to get rid of the stress and I find that after exercising I don't want to eat as much. I walk 30 minutes everyday. I also change the size of my plate and eating utensils. I bought myself a set of the Disney Princess Children's plates and I use those to eat my meals. You eat smaller portion sizes and you might find that you are satisfied. I have lost 49 lbs since Oct. 31, 2012. I have 16 more to go to hit my goal. Its easy to get frustrated, but work your program and it will work for you. Don't look for fast results, celebrate every loss, and accept the small gains. I'm confident that you will succeed in the long run!!!

    Hmmm...children's plates! I love the idea! i'm on it! Thanks so much!
  • howgoesyourlove
    howgoesyourlove Posts: 22
    Hey, Nikita! You look so beautiful on your profile pics. Look, maybe you just need to go easy on yourself. I am facing the same problems when it comes to go to the gym. I go monday, then tuesday, then wednesday I feel to tired ... Thursday I eat pizza for dinner and friday I am already giving up. Every week is a fresh star heheheh But, what I've lerned from this experience is that no matter how many calories you are consuming or what people say you should do, You have to feel great about yourself. Even if you eat more than you should, go to the gym, go out for a long walk listening to your favorite music, dance in front of your TV ... Just keep moving ... This anxiety towards food usually leaves me as long as I keep moving... It naturally goes away. Give it a try! And please, look at you ! You are a very beautiful young woman :)
    Hope you feel better soon!
    Lots of kisses, from Brazil :D

    Thanks dear! I am feeling great today. I dressed up, wore heels and put some eye liner...hehe! Thanks a lot for your encouraging words!
  • howgoesyourlove
    howgoesyourlove Posts: 22
    Hi Nikita, it is lovely to meet you.

    I have trouble with binge eating and emotional eating. What I've found that helps is to avoid keeping sweets in the house except in small amounts, and to eat small meals during the day that have some protein in them. The protein helps to suppress appetite.

    Instead of looking at your weight and thinking of how difficult it will be to lose it all, focus on making small changes on one day and not thinking about the end goal. Each day is a new start. Do something now, instead of waiting a day or even an hour.

    Thanks a lot. I am trying to walk daily and cutting down on my carbs...let's see... :)
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    I am Nikita from India aged 25.
    I've been trying to lose weight since last 1 year...joined a gym, tried to track calories by making charts on excel and even tried all diets. But with fail. I lose 2 kgs and again get back to eating, gaining back what i had lost.

    My job is very stressful and hence, i do a lot of emotional eating too. Sometimes, i feel i am never full (hungry all the time) :'(

    Today, i just want to give up...my arms, stomach, waist...everything feels so heavy and yet i feel drawn to food...it's my support system and i feel i cant do without it :'(

    is anyone out there facing the same thing? Does anyone have any tips, advice to break this chain... I've cried a lot thinking i wont ever eat again and then i get back to it...

    Please help....thanks...

    1) accept that you're not perfect and you are going to fail some days and eat more food than you want.
    2) don't get upset when 1) happens
    3) replace the emotional eating with emotional "working out". many people discover that exercise fills the hole in them they were previously filling with eating.
    4) don't deprive yourself of food. it never works and leads to binging later. if you really, really want something, then eat it and adjust the rest of your food for the day (or the next two days) to accommodate it.
  • howgoesyourlove
    howgoesyourlove Posts: 22
    I agree with others! First of all, you are already beautiful! Don't despair so much! Next, do up your calories a bit by calculating your TDEE -20%. I THINK that you will feel less likely to eat junk food when you increase your calories and eat more protein rich foods (meat, nuts, greek yogurt...). Try to eat throughout the whole day. I am still new to this myself and I feel like "giving up" when the scale doesn't move the way I want it to, but I trust MFP and those who have experience. :) If you have a gym membership, attend the classes and don't be shy! You are there for YOU, don't feel judged by anyone! Just be patient and don't worry! Good luck!

    The problem is I am vegetarian (lots of Indians are vegetarians through their family). now, even after trying chicken, fish, etc i dont like the taste as it never developed. So for proteins, I eat lentils, milk and yoghurt (but again, well the taste). Now I have decided not to go for taste and focus more on health. Fingers crossed! Thanks a ton for your support!
  • howgoesyourlove
    howgoesyourlove Posts: 22
    I agree with Connie! 1100 isn't enough! On days that you exercise you need to fuel your body up so it has the energy for the workouts. 1500-1600 is what my trainer had me on. Try seeing if certain foods affect your body...I know for me the minute I eat pasta, potatoes, or bread...i gain! Some people...dairy affects them. Aim for a balance of carbs, protein, and fats. If you reduce any of those too much, the minute you go back on them...you will gain. Don't give up! You can do this!!!

    Thanks a ton! :)
  • thetwentysomethingmum
    thetwentysomethingmum Posts: 5 Member
    Hey I think most us can say we have been there! Dont stress you look like you are in your healthy weight range. My suggestion would be 1. Make sure you eat - dont skip meals because then 3you will be hungry and may end up choosing a baD option over a good one. 2. Focus your excerise on toning up - because you look to be slim work on toning up and that muscle that you build will give your metabolism a kick up the backside. 3. Focus on the great things your body does for you - I understand that this can be tricky when you feel down in the dumps but try and stay positive. Good luck hope you have a happier day tomorrow.
  • YaGigi
    YaGigi Posts: 817 Member
    I feel so much better... Going to sleep with a positive mind...
    Tomorrow will be a new day :)


    I think you already look great and just have beautiful features!
    Do you go to gym?

    Or maybe you should do some dancing. I've danced Arabic and Indian dances for 15 years and it always kept me in perfect shape (until I moved to the USA and got all stressed out, stopped dancing too).

    Don't stress out much and don't hurt yourself with worries. You do look very beautiful in that picture. And believe me I'm tough on compliments.

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