Afraid for my relative.

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  • BriHealthy150
    BriHealthy150 Posts: 54 Member
    People can say whatever they want to their overweight relatives/friends, but in reality they need to realize for themselves that they are unhealthy. What did it in for me was I weighed myself and was over 300 pounds- something I never wanted to see. I give weighing yourself as a suggestion to my friends who can't get motivated and my friends who ask the same question as you about their relatives, but I make it crucial to remember to not get upset by the number they see- but only to use it to motivate them to get back to a healthier weight they used to be. Nothing is more of a shock than reality. But instead of letting it get them down, it might help them to realize they really need to get healthy.
  • hladams8110
    hladams8110 Posts: 27 Member
    Thank You for the help everyone! I love this person regardless of what they look like or eat, I don't want to make them do anything, I'm just concerned and I think I'll just try to be a good example, offer good food when I'm around and ask if they want to go workout with me.

    It might be a good idea to invite them to some physical activity that's not as formal as 'work out' -- like going to the park, something -- it's a lot less intimidating.

    Good idea, right so I'm not saying hey you're out of shape and need to work out but hey come walking with me or throw the frisbee.

    My mom and I will often challenge each other to a fast walking race to the entrance of or down an aisle in a store. She was morbidly obese for most of my childhood and I often had to walk very slowly for her to be able to keep with me and its fun for her that sometimes she beats me now. Maybe you could try things like that with this relative.
  • CycleGuy9000
    CycleGuy9000 Posts: 290
    People can say whatever they want to their overweight relatives/friends, but in reality they need to realize for themselves that they are unhealthy. What did it in for me was I weighed myself and was over 300 pounds- something I never wanted to see. I give weighing yourself as a suggestion to my friends who can't get motivated and my friends who ask the same question as you about their relatives, but I make it crucial to remember to not get upset by the number they see- but only to use it to motivate them to get back to a healthier weight they used to be. Nothing is more of a shock than reality. But instead of letting it get them down, it might help them to realize they really need to get healthy.

    Thanks for the good advice, Wow you really lost a lot of weight! Congratulations! How do you feel now that you've lost so much?
  • CycleGuy9000
    CycleGuy9000 Posts: 290
    Thank You for the help everyone! I love this person regardless of what they look like or eat, I don't want to make them do anything, I'm just concerned and I think I'll just try to be a good example, offer good food when I'm around and ask if they want to go workout with me.

    It might be a good idea to invite them to some physical activity that's not as formal as 'work out' -- like going to the park, something -- it's a lot less intimidating.

    Good idea, right so I'm not saying hey you're out of shape and need to work out but hey come walking with me or throw the frisbee.

    My mom and I will often challenge each other to a fast walking race to the entrance of or down an aisle in a store. She was morbidly obese for most of my childhood and I often had to walk very slowly for her to be able to keep with me and its fun for her that sometimes she beats me now. Maybe you could try things like that with this relative.

    Thank you for the advice, I'll keep that in mind.
  • 1longroad
    1longroad Posts: 642 Member
    I have a good friend at work who is as overweight as I was prior to me changing my eating habits. She is on insulin for type 2 diabetes, b/p meds and doesn't check her blood glucose. When I started changing things up, she was 'encouraging' me to eat what she was eating, etc. she constantly told me that she would be there to 'pick me up when I fail'.

    I finally just asked her to help me watch what I eat and to help me realize my goals. Since then I have seen her start to make some healthier choices as she feels the responsibility to 'help' me. She still won't address her weight with me or to me, but I see her asking me a lot more questions now. ;-)
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    No one likes unsolicited advice. Also, I'm sure he is well aware that he isn't eating healthy and that he's gained some weight.

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