Progress, not perfection

I have been snooping around reading so many success stories on here and am amazed by each and every one of them. I am not done with my weight loss journey, but I've been at it 2 years and have seen amazing results so I wanted to share my story until now. My story should start with the fact that up until I was 21 years old, I never had any issues with my weight. I gained and lost a bit in college, but nothing major. When I turned 21, I ended up pregnant with my daughter, unexpectedly. Her father stuck around until i was 8 months pregnant and was never heard from again. it was a difficult pregnancy, i was on and off bed rest for the last 12 weeks and gained 70 pounds during the 9 months. After she was born, I went back to college to finish my teaching degree. When she was 10 months old, I met whom I thought was a wonderful man. Maybe he was wonderful because I wanted to move out of my mothers home. During that time I got back to my pre pregnancy weight and felt great. About a month before I married the supposed man of my dreams, he became increasingly controlling and protective and little warning bells kept going off but I chose to ignore them. Within months of getting married, the fights, name calling, rage and anger started. Within the first year and a half I gained all my weight back and kept it on. My then husband, I started to realize, was, and still is, addicted to pain killers. Stealing them from his family members and mine. When we got to our 2nd anniversary, he didn't even acknowledge the day. I hated my life and thought losing weight would help my marriage. I got on Phentermine, and walked 12 miles daily and spent 2 hours at the gym daily doing cardio, Zumba, and weights. I lost several inches but not a lot of weight.i was working full time as a para professional and part time at the gym to make ends meet and support his drug habit. By the time we were close to year 3, I finally had enough when he threatened to take my daughter (whom he adopted) and I would never see her again. I filed for divorce the next day, then found out I was pregnant from a 1 night stand I had a week before with a coworker from my gym. I am not proud of it, but after trying 2 1/2 years for a child with my ex husband, I kind of saw it as a sign from God that I was doing the right thing in leaving my ex. It was a messy divorce, and my ex made the choice to never see my daughter again. Again, I gained a lot during my pregnancy with my wonderful son. i chose to not let his father know about him. he was taking himself on and off bipolar meds, and threatened to kill me several times. 2 kids and not much income, I struggled to make ends meet, let alone eat healthy. When my son was 18 months old, I met my wonderful dear husband. He, too, had struggled with an abusive ex and marriage. We got engaged after 6 weeks, after 3 months we were married. We will have been together 3 years Labor Day weekend of this year ???? we went for our honeymoon to Las Vegas, at that time I thought I was over weight but by no means obese. I topped the scales at 235 lbs. I struggled walking up stairs, couldn't play with my kids. Our first day in Vegas we walked the entire strip. When I awoke the next morning I could barely move I hurt so bad. My legs, feet, back.........I had never felt that way in my life. We were there 4 days, and what should have been a wonderful weekend was the most miserable time of my life, due to my weight. When we came back, I started on Atkins. I also used my elliptical 7 days a week. I got burned out quickly and just kept with Atkins. I lost 35 pounds the first year and since last August I've lost another 30 pounds!! I REALLY need to tone up, my belly is awful and so are my bat wings. Sorry for such a long story!! I've been stuck at this weight for 10 months, but recently started running. Hoping to lose 30 more pounds and tone up.



Starting weight: 235
Starting pant size: tight 18w
Starting shirt size: 2x or 3x

Current weight: 175 (ish)
Current pant size: 12 or 14
Current shirt size: XL and some L


Here are some pictures:

My husband and I in Vegas at my highest, 235 pounds


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Last summer at 195 pounds


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Here is one of my starting weight, and me now. Also there is a close up from October of 2011 and July 2013

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Sorry, first time using tinypic!! Oops

Replies

  • kateauch
    kateauch Posts: 195 Member
    Here are some pictures:

    My husband and I in Vegas at my highest, 235 pounds

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    Last summer at 195 pounds

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    Easter this year

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    4th of July


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    Here is one of my starting weight, and me now. Also there is a close up from October of 2011 and July 2013

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  • silken555
    silken555 Posts: 478 Member
    ellie, for your images to show, you'll have to make the IMG tag lower-case...:) You may also need to resize them down a little because some are cut off.

    Awesome story and congrats on the continuation of a successful journey!
  • IamMeMa5
    IamMeMa5 Posts: 12
    Great job.
  • beniky
    beniky Posts: 24 Member
    Congrats! You look fantastic so far!
  • clarinetmajor
    clarinetmajor Posts: 44 Member
    Awesome Job! Way to go!!!
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    ellie, for your images to show, you'll have to make the IMG tag lower-case...:) You may also need to resize them down a little because some are cut off.

    Awesome story and congrats on the continuation of a successful journey!

    Thanks :-) it was my first time using tinypic, but I finally got it. Someone quoted me and changed the pics for me, not knowing they were so big. I apologize
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    Touching story! Having survived a 5 year abusive relationship myself, I can relate to a lot of what you wrote here. I'm proud of you for not letting the awful parts (and men) derail you from your success. You look AMAZING!!!! :drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    Touching story! Having survived a 5 year abusive relationship myself, I can relate to a lot of what you wrote here. I'm proud of you for not letting the awful parts (and men) derail you from your success. You look AMAZING!!!! :drinker: :flowerforyou:

    I'm sorry to hear that, and thank you. I realized the pain he caused emotionally (he wasn't physically abusive) didn't need to stick with me and I refused to let me daughter think being treated that way was ok. Good luck to you!!
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    Congrats! You look fantastic so far!

    Thanks!
  • FindingMyself24
    FindingMyself24 Posts: 613 Member
    Awesome transformation!! You look great!
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    Awesome transformation!! You look great!

    Thank you! Looks like you are on a good track, too ????
  • CaptainHNNNGGG
    CaptainHNNNGGG Posts: 205 Member
    nice job
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    Thanks????
  • Jan3D
    Jan3D Posts: 49 Member
    I love your "Progress not Perfection" topic - it's such a good lesson. You are so inspiring, successful and beautiful! Thanks for the inspiration! Congratulations.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Awesome chica!
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    I love your "Progress not Perfection" topic - it's such a good lesson. You are so inspiring, successful and beautiful! Thanks for the inspiration! Congratulations.

    Thanks! That's been my dads mantra for as long as I can remember. I have always liked it and find it more than appropriate for my journey ????
  • vanessalillian82
    vanessalillian82 Posts: 350 Member
    You're doing great! And I'm sure you'll reach your goal. Slow and steady is the way :)
  • GamerGirly
    GamerGirly Posts: 158 Member
    I can relate to your story in more ways than I am willing to admit.

    You're a courageous woman and I commend you on your triumphs.

    You have gone through hell and back and you're still smiling.
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    I can relate to your story in more ways than I am willing to admit.

    You're a courageous woman and I commend you on your triumphs.

    You have gone through hell and back and you're still smiling.

    I'm glad to be able to inspire someone. I am so sorry you have had a similar experience ???? no one should have to live through that.
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    Thank you to everyone! You have been a wonderful support! :-)
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