Dating Sites?

I'd probably recommend Tinder. I wrote an article on it a while back and was interviewing users on there. It seemed like everyone using it had legitimate reasons and it matches you by proximity (you have to click each other). Seemed to have minimal weirdos as well

I would say - don't try MySingleFriend, do try speed dating.

MySingleFriend is great but it has a huge drawback - there is no way of knowing who has a free membership and therefore can't read emails or write back. The reasoning behind this (which I sort of agree with) is that if this was obvious then the people with free memberships would never get any messages and they want everyone to get messages. But ultimately, when you become a paying user and you start sending people messages, you don't know if you're not getting any responses because they're rejecting you or because they simply can't read your message and won't pay $$$ to do it. So overall the satisfaction level was pretty low.

For about the same money you can actually MEET actual people in a speed dating situation.

If you go online, studies prove that when ladies write to the gents first, they have a much higher rate of getting a reply, so don't be shy - if you see a dude you like, drop him a line! if you don't know what to say, comment on something in his photo (s).

Online dating is a lot of fun, and in worst case scenario you'll have fantastic date stories to tell for years to come!

tips???


if you plan on traveling to meet someone, you must talk to the person on camara....
don't believe everything..... I guess I wouldn't really ask much while talking to the person online because you aren't looking at their face
don't rush things out
usually perfect model pics are fake profiles (not all)
try to get a date after talking for 2 weeks-- before 2 months

MeetUp.com is a good place to meet people with common interests for socializing, friendship, dating. They have groups made up of every interest you can think of, and these groups have "meet ups" (activities) based on the interest subject. It is a national thing (maybe even international, not sure), and then broken down by state, city, even zip code.

For instance, I am in a horror movie group, singles over 40 group, walking/hiking group, I love the 80s group, AOK (acts of kindness) volunteer group.... things I enjoy and organized activities with like-minded others. While not a dating site per se, I know of many people who have met their match while participating in these casual, no pressure meet ups.

It is free to join the site - some groups then have dues, some activites have costs associated with that particular activity; each group has a coordinator(s) and their own specific requirements for joining. I recommend at least checking it out.

Good luck!

It's fun and easy and really cheap entertainment. I met my husband on Match.com. After my divorce, my best friend decided it was time for me to get back on the horse. She paid for a 1 year membership and set up a profile for me. Then she called and said, "Hey, I set you up a Match profile. Here's the login info. You might want to go change what I wrote about you. Right. Now." She always knows how to get my butt in gear. Ha ha!

okcupid is cool.

First, NEVER i repeat NEVER trust anyone online. I know this seems a little backward but until proven in real life it is all just a lie. This will save you some heartache and pain down the road.

2. It's all just online until you meet. It's not a real relationship until you meet.

3. Dont give up the goods via webcam or photos until youve met and he's seen the goods in real life. Nice dressed full body pics are fine but nothing more than that.

4. Talk to everyone. Be open to a million flirts and chats. Just dont make it look obvious no one likes to see a cereal onliner.

5. Just be open to meeting friends, going for coffee, or meeting up with you when your out with friends.

6. No pressure on anyone this isnt real life it's not a relationship. You are simply talking and getting to know each other.

7. If he lives in the same city and doesnt meet you in a month for something as simple as coffee he's just playing you.

8. Long distance is fine as long as you both understand nothing is real until that first meeting. I've had online guys say they love me and I used to tell them I wont know if I love you till I meet you.

9. When meeting for the first time public place.

10. Trust your gut instinct if it says run..you run and run fast.

11. Have fun, flirt, be silly, and just keep your options open.

PS-I've broken most of these and paid the consequences.

MFP not a good enough dating site for you?


just go check out some of the topics in chit chat

I thought this was a dating/hook up site?!?!

Thanks Again for the advice. I'm going to go for a pay site I think, which one is the do you think is my best bet? I know of Match & E-Harmony is there a better pay site. I'm looking to just get out there and get to know more people, not looking to "hook-up". I have alot of friends (female & male), I'm not against making more friends but looking to go on dates and seeing what else or who else is around. Thanks again for all the help.

I saw some great advice lately, basically it said you should join the site that has the people that match what you are looking for!

Most sites let you browse the members for free, so first have a free browse on various sites and see what the guys are like - most sites have a particular profile of members that tend to join them.

Then join the one where you see the calibre of people you are interested in.

Good luck! *hugs*

I met an ex through Plenty of Fish and that went well for a year. I just recently met another guy through that and so far so good. I completely agree with the whole there are a lot of people out there looking for a hookup or being completely fake but if you keep them talking long enough before meeting you can usually weed those ones out (unless you're looking for that sort of thing). Beware of the clingers. I've had my fair share that I've had to block on my phone, thank goodness I met them and they didn't know where I lived. Also, don't believe everything you read, guys and girls both know how to sell themselves on paper. Most of all just have fun. If you're meant to meet someone you're meant to meet them. I've made quite a few friends off that site and I have no regrets.

mfp is what I use...