Deleting Friends

FiftyandGettingBetter
FiftyandGettingBetter Posts: 611 Member
in Motivation and Support
Sad to say. How long do you wait before deleting some one? When they have not logged in for 3 days, 1 week, 30 days. Chime in and let me know.

Hope you Sunday is a GREAT one,

Rich
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  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    I just don`t add friends then I don`t have the whole deleting thing going on :tongue:
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    1 week.
  • greypilgrimess
    greypilgrimess Posts: 353 Member
    I usually give them at least a month. People can go away for a couple weeks and not have access to the site (I don't take my laptop on holidays and my phone doesn't do apps). They might have fallen off the wagon and really need some support when they get back.

    I gave up earlier this year, and didn't log on for about 3 months. I'm very fortunate my friends didn't remove me, because I'm keen to get back on track and it was nice to see some familiar faces. (Thanks guys!)
  • 43932452
    43932452 Posts: 7,246 Member
    One when they ridicule me, Two when they barely log, Three when they deactivate and finally if I
    never have any exchange of talk, support or commodity with them despite 'my' efforts.
  • cenafan
    cenafan Posts: 398 Member
    I stopped adding friends (except people I know in real life) as I was tired of the requests for "mutual" support which seemed to be me supporting them and them never even acknowledging my existence.
  • mspoopoo
    mspoopoo Posts: 500 Member
    I wouldn't delete anyone unless they were mean or abusive.

    I'm not that up myself and precious to delete people for no reason.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    havent ever deleted anyone. you'd be surprised how many come back, and that gives me hope.
  • wendybird5
    wendybird5 Posts: 577 Member
    I give it a month. Some times people have stuff going on - vacation, family emergencies, surgery, a death - and they can't make time to log in here because they have more urgent things to deal with.
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    I usually delete if I notice inconsistent behavior or I feel the person is a friend collector(I usually delete anyone who has over 200 friends on there list).
  • thesupremeforce
    thesupremeforce Posts: 1,206 Member
    I don't delete people based on set periods of time. I rarely check on that anyway. If I'm going to delete someone, it's usually because that person's behavior isn't something I want to deal with reading in my news feed (which happens rarely).
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    Sad to say. How long do you wait before deleting some one? When they have not logged in for 3 days, 1 week, 30 days. Chime in and let me know.

    Hope you Sunday is a GREAT one,

    Rich

    If they never support me or say a word to me, ever, even though I support them, that annoys me and I may delete them.
  • FP4HSharon
    FP4HSharon Posts: 664 Member
    Before I friend someone I check their posts to see if they're positive or negative people, never-give-uppers or whiners...don't add whiners/negative. Then if after I friend them, it seems the posts are all about them, instead of a 2 way conversation, then I delete them. Or if they seem to have given up on MFP, but I don't have a set amount of time, would depend on how things were before they stopped logging on. Been active since February, & had 8 friends at one time...3 deleted because they stopped being active, 2 deleted because it was all about them, but very happy w/the 3 I have, lots of 2 way encouragement. In fact 2 of them became "friends" over posts on my page. It's ridiculous to have so many "friends" that you can't even keep track of them.
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    I go through my list every few weeks and delete inactives, unless I know them in RL, or I know that they're out of vacation or some other reason.

    No harm, no foul. If they recommit, they can always send a new FR.
  • tiger4nikki
    tiger4nikki Posts: 112 Member
    The only reason I would delete anyone is if they were a mean, hateful person. I will be going away in about 2 weeks because I am having surgery. I don't know how many days it will be before I feel like coming back. I have also decided that for the 1st week after my surgery, I am not going to worry about my intake AT ALL. I will need extra calories to heal and if I gain a pound or 2 back, so what? I also won't be able to do ANY kind of exercise for 6 weeks, other than walking once I feel up to it. This may be a little set-back for me, but after the 1st week or so, I will start counting my intake again. Hopefully after 2 weeks, I will feel like walking. You just never know what is going on with a person. I wouldn't worry about deleting them.
  • Mrs_Bones
    Mrs_Bones Posts: 195 Member
    When it gets to the point that they haven't signed in for over three weeks and haven't made any mention of going away on holidays or needing to take a break... I think it's time. For me anyways! I want to surround myself with supportive people who are doing their best and by keeping numbers down that way, I can be really supportive too.
  • sub10orbust
    sub10orbust Posts: 706 Member
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  • cwaters120
    cwaters120 Posts: 354 Member
    I only delete if its more than a weekend (without notice - your friends usually mention going on vacations) AND habitual lapsing. Other than that I only delete whiners (I don't know why I can't lose - then you check their diary and its full of junk or blank and no exercise logged). I know it seems harsh, but my journey is important too and I only want the positive and dedicated facing me every day. :ohwell:
  • _EndGame_
    _EndGame_ Posts: 770 Member
    I've only deleted 1 person, and that's because she spent the entirety of her posts talking about inane rubbish, that wasn't remotely diet or exercise related. I like motivational talk, success stories, peoples achievements, if I wanted to read a load of BS, I would scroll through my Facebook news feed.
  • tbetts23
    tbetts23 Posts: 303 Member
    Interesting... I have been having my own sort of pity party. I have not logged a damn thing but I've been stalking my friends. Just by being on my feed they had inspired me enough that I have decided that I'm going to do things "right" again. If they had deleted me...who knows. Also I have friends that I started with that haven't been on for months. We started together and I hope to be there when they're ready.
  • marciebrian
    marciebrian Posts: 853 Member
    changed my mind... never unless they are mean to someone
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Once a week when the woman in my life gets her period and she makes my life miserable, I go on a rampage and take the anger she let out on me, on my friends list and delete anyone and everyone that gets in the way. I just randomly click things like whack-a-mole and see what comes out of it.
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    Once a week when the woman in my life gets her period and she makes my life miserable, I go on a rampage and take the anger she let out on me, on my friends list and delete anyone and everyone that gets in the way. I just randomly click things like whack-a-mole and see what comes out of it.

    your woman has a period every week? OMG sorry Taunto
  • bert16
    bert16 Posts: 726 Member
    Sad to say. How long do you wait before deleting some one? When they have not logged in for 3 days, 1 week, 30 days. Chime in and let me know.

    Hope you Sunday is a GREAT one,

    Rich

    If they never support me or say a word to me, ever, even though I support them, that annoys me and I may delete them.

    ^^^ this. And also if they haven't logged in for a month or more and I don't know why (some of my friends will tell me they're taking a break from logging and think they'll be back; I won't delete them, since they gave me the heads up). I don't think it's about being self important or mean; quite the opposite, actually. I intentionally keep a small list of friends so that I can support them individually on a regular basis and just expect some reciprocity, since I know those who don't have anything to say to me nor log in regularly certainly won't miss me. And if others want to use different criteria to manage their friend lists, that's great! This just works for me.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Once a week when the woman in my life gets her period and she makes my life miserable, I go on a rampage and take the anger she let out on me, on my friends list and delete anyone and everyone that gets in the way. I just randomly click things like whack-a-mole and see what comes out of it.

    your woman has a period every week? OMG sorry Taunto

    Either that or she's just genuinely pissed at me always :(
  • Stargrace2
    Stargrace2 Posts: 48 Member
    I don't delete for inactivity, who knows why they are away, or when they will return.

    However, I am not interested in people who are on fad diets, or eating an unhealthy or unreasonable method. I try to get to know MFP friends enough to know if they're on a doctor specific diet or some such, but I use these people to motivate and spur me through my own progress, it has to be healthy in order to do that.
  • lstnlondry
    lstnlondry Posts: 1,794 Member
    I usually give them at least a month. People can go away for a couple weeks and not have access to the site (I don't take my laptop on holidays and my phone doesn't do apps). They might have fallen off the wagon and really need some support when they get back.

    I gave up earlier this year, and didn't log on for about 3 months. I'm very fortunate my friends didn't remove me, because I'm keen to get back on track and it was nice to see some familiar faces. (Thanks guys!)

    My thoughts exactly! 1 month away and yes to taking time off myself and loving the support!
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,341 Member
    I delete when they haven't logged for aaaaaages, but generally leave them there. I will delete people who are chronically undereating, have ED behaviour, constantly ask for advice then ignore what's given to them and keep complaining that nothing is working, and I've deleted a couple people who've gotten a little creepy.
  • Stump_Likker
    Stump_Likker Posts: 2,059 Member
    I dlelete when they deactivate. I don't care if I don't hear from them ever. They're not bothering me so...
  • T0FatToB3S1ck
    T0FatToB3S1ck Posts: 192 Member
    3 days and they are deleted. If I accept their friend request and we don't socialize at all (commenting on each other's progress) then they are deleted. I'm not a big collector of friends. I delete people regularly.
  • pollypocket3
    pollypocket3 Posts: 51 Member
    Is their a limit to how many you can have as friends? Why would you want to delete them if they are inactive? I could only see deleting someone if they were rude to you - it isn't like they're posting to hog the news feed.

    But I do see why others delete more regularly they have their own valid points. :smile:

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