10 month old not sleeping at night- Help?

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  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I suppose don't have kids isn't particularly helpful at this point.

    Ick- and people ask my why I don't want them.

    I grew up on baby hot toddy's- best thing ever for teething babies- but I"m sure that will bring the wrath of mothers everywhere upon my mother for doing that- but both my brother and I turned out just fine :D
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  • wannabpiper
    wannabpiper Posts: 402 Member
    What a generation can mean! My boys both were adamant family-style bed babies and would cry for hours, too, if not brought to bed with us. Our daughter, however, has found the solution with her little one. At 10 months she was brought to our household and was firmly planted in mom and dad's bed. After much research, our daughter began a rigid bedtime ritual and it truly has worked. Here it is:

    1. dinner
    2. walk, play, etc. for an hour
    3. bathtime - lots of fun and positive time together
    4. play in the nursery/baby's room for as long as it takes for baby to get tired
    5. sing a nursery rhyme together for one or two rounds
    6. kiss and put baby down in crib

    She cried horribly, and after 20 minutes, Kate went in and patted her and walked back out. After that, every 10 minutes Kate walked in and patted her and walked out.

    It's best to start this on a Friday night and be sure baby doesn't get much by way of naps that day. It's good to ensure she doesn't get any more nap than absolutely necessary, because you want her to be very tired at bed time.

    Very difficult, and our daughter cried a lot at first feeling mean and a bad mom, but they're all sleeping so much better now that our little one is in her own crib.

    Occasionally they regress, too, and she begins the soothing technique all over again.

    Good luck!
  • jboccio90
    jboccio90 Posts: 644 Member
    I co-slept with my daughter, she also had issues with sleeping through the night.

    I personally couldnt do the CIO method, to sad for me to hear.

    I guess I figured, time is so precious and I do not know what the future holds so if she wants to sleep with me at night then I will put up with her feet in my back haha

    And honestly, it is such a good bonding time I dont know how many times she will wake up, give me a kiss then go right back to sleep.
  • Artemis726
    Artemis726 Posts: 587 Member
    Something I didn't see mentioned...I'm curious about her daytime schedule. Perhaps she is having too many or too long of a nap which is affecting her need for sleep. Maybe if she was cut down, she'd be a better nighttime sleeper for you. Good luck!
  • carolyn0613
    carolyn0613 Posts: 162 Member
    Have you come across Jo Frost Supernanny? She has some really good advice about all sorts of parenting issues and bedtime is one of her specialities. She's written books as well as her TV shows.

    her advice is to do controlled comfort where baby is put to bed awake and left to settle themselves to sleep. At the first crying/waking/fuss you comfort as normal and then leave her to settle herself back to sleep. Next time you go in, you are a little bit more distant, no chat and just a brief comfort. Third and subsequent times you say "back to sleep, goodnight darling", and leave the room. This way she will know you are there and will come to her but she's getting nothing of what she wants (bottle/get up/in your bed). Jo Frost swears that after a week of this, she will be sleeping through the night. and SO WILL YOU!!

    However tough it is to be tough with the child, it's surely not as tough as this sleep deprivation - you know that's true! You've got to do it because it's not fair on her not getting a good night sleep either
  • strongmindstrongbody
    strongmindstrongbody Posts: 315 Member
    I feel for you. My youngest was an absolute horrible sleeper for his first 3 years. Co-sleeping was the only thing that worked. If you do try CIO, please still be attentive. Don't go in the room on a whim, obviously, but listen for head bunting on the crib and wall and choking on mucus from too much crying. This happened with my son.

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