How many times have you wanted to give up?

freyaheart
freyaheart Posts: 220 Member
edited January 31 in Motivation and Support
I am at my wits end with this whole process! I want to chuck my scale out the widow and just eat an entire cake and give up. I have been trying to lose since November 2012 and grand total since then I have lost 13 pounds. I lost a ton of weight when I started then put some back on, lost some more and I have hit a serious plateau and i have not budged out of the 220s.

I hear family and friend say to me that I keep looking thinner but I am just not seeing it and I think they are being nice, as a matter of fact I think I look heavier.

I have been eating a lot more salads, I used to want nothing to do with them, I go to the gym or do some kind of workout at least 4 days a week and I am just so frustrated!!

Working out feels like a chore sometimes and I just can't turn away my favorite foods (chicken wings, chinese food and desserts). I know I will not lose all my weight in a day, week, month but I am seeing no progress at all personally, at least recently. If you want to look through my pictures there is some change. My most resent is my current pic.

I really just needed to get that off my chest and hopefully get some supportive replies.

*Gets off of soap box*

Replies

  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    Since I started in June I haven't once thought of giving up. In my previous yo-yo life, obviously did want to give up and did. I don't think I was emotionally ready at those times.

    Anyway, maybe if you open your diary to the public people can maybe give you some insight on areas you could work on?
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    A million. I started in October 2008, at 231, with a goal of losing 91 pounds. Given up and got back up more times than I care to admit. Last summer I was at 80 pound lost, I felt fantastic, looked great, and yet I stopped, and I slid. Hard. Now I'm back, with 28 pounds to go, and I am hoping to make it to goal by year's end. Some days I believe I can do it, others, like today, I find it hard to believe that I can, and I sabotage myself. But I will keep trying until I make it.

    I hope that helps.
  • guessrs
    guessrs Posts: 358 Member
    Several times. I asked myself, how much do you want this? I said to myself, I want this weight loss a lot, more than anything else, more than overeating. Then I said to myself, suck it up, keep moving, make great healthy choices and get to work. I had to be tough with myself if that makes sense.
  • Pearsquared
    Pearsquared Posts: 1,656 Member
    I have moments like that. When I do, I make a list of healthy foods I enjoy, and exercises I like doing, and then I forget about what I'm "supposed" to do to be healthy, and I just eat and do those things.

    A short list for me would be something like:

    Foods:
    Eggs
    Bananas
    Strawberries
    Greek Yogurt
    Onions
    Cucumber

    Exercises:
    Walking
    Dancing like a madwoman to kpop
    Dance Dance Revolution

    It seems odd, but it does help me. I guess it helps put into perspective that losing weight is not all about salads and sit-ups (unless one enjoys salads and sit=ups, in which case they'd be in the list above).
  • I think most people have not only wanted to give up, but actually gave up in the past. And fingers and toes just can't count high enough to tell you how many times.

    I don't know if it will work yet, but this time around I'm trying to change one thing permanently about my lifestyle each week that will lead to a healthier life. Some weeks it is related to exercising more or differently, other weeks it is eating healthier. My first week I switched to eating at least 5 times a day, but only enough to not be hungry each time. This week I'm trying 4 different vegetable-heavy recipes to see if I like any of them. Pizza where the crust is made from zucchini and no bread has me most curious.

    Changing something each week has been going really well so far. Last time I lost weight I got frustrated constantly, every meal was frustrating for not being what I wanted, every workout was too long, too hard, or too something. This time, I wind up focusing a lot more on whatever change I'm making and trying to figure out how to make it work instead of the negatives. I also look for healthy alternatives instead of caving to my desires. When I got a craving for ice cream I strolled down the aisle of the grocery store trying to find something I could eat frequently without sacrificing my health, and I found frozen greek yogurt. I really, really liked it and it will fulfill that craving for ice cream at least some of the time. I figure it's at least one small step in the right direction.

    I'm not sure if that helps or is even on-topic, but I do wish you much success in achieving your goals.
  • atibrat
    atibrat Posts: 70 Member
    I want to give up and have given up many times.

    I have recently noticed that many of the people on MFP that have been successful have one thing in common.
    They log on everyday. Even if they do not want to, do not eat healthy that day, even if they binge. I really believe it
    is not about being perfect but not giving up.

    I have not changed my diet in the last 2 weeks (why my diary is not public) but I did notice that just because I am
    logging on here I am eating a little less, moving a little more and it has made a little difference. I will take that.

    I can not say I will be able to diet everyday. I can not say I will eat healthy, not binge or exercise everyday but what I can
    do is say I will log in EVERYDAY no matter what. I know if I do that just logging in will help me do something different
    that day that will lead to success. My goal is t log in to MFP for 365 days in a row. No matter what.
  • Bridgetthegre
    Bridgetthegre Posts: 85 Member
    I have to agree. Not giving up is the key. In the beginning, I wanted to give up a dozen times a day. I still think about throwing in the towel at least a couple of times a week. There have been a few days when I've eaten far more than I should. But, I figure, just like Scarlett O'Hara, tomorrow is another day. When I first started, I decided I would do the very best I could for ONE YEAR, logging in every day. Then, if it didn't work, I'd give up and eat fake cheese and cookies until I died. I've only been at it 3 months, but I really think when that year rolls around, I won't be eating the quantities of fake cheese it would take to actually kill me. You just have to keep chugging along. Put off giving up until tomorrow. <g>
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
    Everyday I want to throw in the proverbial towel but the only place that is gonna get Me is back to where I started or even heavier. I have only lost a little under 2 lbs in the last 3 months and have been very frustrated but I refuse to quit
  • sally_jeffswife
    sally_jeffswife Posts: 766 Member
    Lots of times...when I have to go somewhere and wear a bathing suit in public, when I have to go somewhere and dress up "alot" in a dress, when I am around friends that are super skinny and have a high metabolism and I just don't. But then there are times you make yourself get out and do stuff and you see lots of other people just like you or you see lots of other people not working out that have gained "alot" of weight cuz of it. Or you run into someone you haven't seen in awhile and they tell you you look great. Then you just keep going. Its hard and you wanna give up but when you keep up for sometimes even a month more you can drop a whole couple clothing sizes and then when you feel your clothing start to get baggy or start to wanna fall off then you get happy and it makes you wanna keep going. Or I suggest you take a photo each month when you actually see the difference in them and how much muscle even you can pick up you will wanna keep going.
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