after 10 years of diet...i discovered the reason why i fail

stop diets once and for all. they are temporary. if you want permanent change, then do something permanent

stop diets once and for all. they are temporary. if you want permanent change, then do something permanent

^this. And what the other user said about bored eating. I'm a bored/emotional/stress overeater myself and it's not necessarily whether you are home or not. It's just if you have something to do or distract you.

Boredom, at work or at home, is my biggest enemy where eating and weight are concerned.

Also, sitting on the couch or laying in bed watching TV, surfing the internet or playing video games burns very few calories.

If you look at it like a diet, then you will treat it like a diet. Diets are, by modern definition, evil, strict, restrictive periods of time where you must feel like a failure if you eat this "bad" food or that "bad" food.

Reality is: track your food, stay within your calorie goals about 90% of the time, hit your macros (40% carbs, 30% protein, 30% fat is a common ratio, but try it and find what works best for you in terms of your types of food and your weight loss success). If you are honest with yourself when filling out the profile on MFP, it is designed to eat back exercise calories to maintain a healthy deficit. If you work at all, then set your daily to lightly active and not sedentary, and...this is the most important part...be patient. Weight loss isn't something that is linear and it doesn't work on your timeline. When you make adjustments, give them 30 days or more before making another adjustment.

Be honest with your logging, both calories and exercise...don't log cleaning the house unless you actually put in an honest workout. Get a HRM (heart rate monitor) with a chest strap, use this to get a better idea of the calories burned during cardio sessions, and get some lifting routines in for muscle preservation and body composition, and lifting heavy means lifting what challenges you. Get to a gym if you can, and if you can't, do an internet search for body weight exercises and look for auctions or local sales of cheap gym equipment like bench press.

Eat what you like, just make it fit. If you want a piece of cake or a cookie, or pasta, or whatever...work it in and sometimes you may need to work it off. If you have "trigger foods" like pie or cake...then only have small portions available...I'll buy a donut or two at a time, and not a box of a dozen because I'll eat the whole box.

Again, pick something and stick with it, be honest with it and yourself, eat real food, exercise, be active, get rest, take breaks every now and then, like a week or two where you eat at maintenance about every 3-4 months, then get back to it. Don't believe everything the scale says, put faith in clothes, pictures comparisons, measurements. Be patient...and you'll succeed.

You keep having this realization and then go right back to the same thing. If you want something to work you have to stick with it.