Don't call me skinny.

Why is it ok to ridicule the slim but not the fat?

It's not okay to make fun of someone's weight, whether she is fat or slim. However, I completely disagree with your implied assertion that it is not generally accepted to ridicule fat people. It most certainly is generally perceived that it is okay to ridicule fat people, particularly those who are obese. Jokes, mean comments, snide insults, snickers, stares - fat people get them all.

Again, it's not okay for people to make fun of your weight, but you certainly aren't alone. Ridicule is not the burden of the slim.

Both my wife and get that, as well as snide comments about how "active" we are. We are always running, racing, cycling, swimming, hiking, etc, and are very carefull about what we eat.

It always amazes me the amount of people (whom 95% would be considered overweight, and are the ones complaining about it) give us grief about how "thin" we are or about how much we do, or that we order grilled chicken with a water instead of the double baconator, large fry, and a jumbo softdrink...

I have had to bite my tounge a few times when I wanted to say..I'm not actually that skinny, I just look that way compared how grossly overweight you are....... instead I smile...

I can really relate to your post and I feel your frustration, it's aggravating to be told you're too thin by people who don't really understand what a healthy body is. You can be healthy and still carry extra weight. You can be thin and still not be healthy. I like the comment "I'm not skinny, I'm fit" because it's similar to how I explain my efforts. I am not trying to get skinny, I'm trying to get healthy. I'm trying to get stronger. I'm trying to get faster. I'm trying to build endurance so I can do the things I love longer and without pain. I'm trying to make the quality of every day the best it can be and by eating healthy (and I eat a ton) and exercising, I'm enjoying life and feel better than I ever have. I'm also very lucky to be involved in a fitness class called Derby Lite (rollerskating for fun/fitness) where we have women of all ages, sizes and fitness levels. If there's one thing I've learned, you can't judge a woman's fitness by the size of her booty. We all have our strengths and weaknesses and we need to support each other in our efforts to become healthier and stronger - as for beautiful - well, we already are...

I get this too! I am still technically overweight! I still have a belly to lose. People tell me I should stop now all the time. I even get it on occasion from my wife! It is really frustrating. I don't judge people who are overweight or obese, because I have totally been there (about 120 lbs. heavier at one time).

By your pictures, you do not look "skinny", you look fit and healthy and happy! Good job! Enjoy your success for you and your family and don't worry about what others think or say.

I have had people tell me i look good, and I have thought about lifting up my shirt and saying "how is having fat rolls on my back and a semi big belly looking good?" Heck, I'm still 174.4 and on a short person, it's noticeable as can be.

I can't wait until the day where I have muscles showing, where I don't have to cover up every ounce of my skin and maybe for once in my life I can wear a bikini. I still have a ways to go but one day, I will get there.

Btw, you look amazing and beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!

First off, I feel your pain. Unsupportive people are the worst, esp. ones who don't mind their own beeswax. But.....I miss being called skinny. I used to get it all the time, and loved it. Now I'm "The girl who used to be skinny" or "Vicki who gained all that weight". I'll take skinny any time. But unwelcome comments are, well, unwelcome.

I'm 246 pounds and I already have people telling me I have lost enough weight... I can only imagine their dismay when I lose another hundred pounds.


And to be called a skinny cow? That's just weird....

Lots of people still don't get that body shaming ANY type of body is wrong and hurtful. They also don't understand that sometimes their opinions of other peoples' bodies should just be kept to themselves.

And seriously, who's calling you a skinny cow? I don't think they should be on your friends list.

I sometimes wonder the same thing. I have worked wirh the same people for 5 years and been with me bf for 10. My co workers met me when i weighed about 275 then on top of tjat I then continued to gain til I was in the 300's. My bf met me when I was around 220 he has watched my weight fluctuate until I decided I seriously needed a change. I asked him WHY IF YOU LOVE ME SO MUCH DID YOU NOT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT MY WEIGHT. His response was I said nothing because I love you, besides how would the conversation go " honey ilove you but you are getting fat" then you would lock yourself in the bathroom and i would have ended up single. No thank you. I would love to know why there is a double standard it is impolite to point out someone gaining weight or being fat be it is perfectly acceptable to share your opinion about someone losing a lot of weight and being " too skinny" especially for me right now i am told " you have lost enough" and to that i say you may think so but my scale begs to differ and my bmi still tells me i am obese.