Don't call me skinny.

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  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
    I have had people tell me i look good, and I have thought about lifting up my shirt and saying "how is having fat rolls on my back and a semi big belly looking good?" Heck, I'm still 174.4 and on a short person, it's noticeable as can be.

    I can't wait until the day where I have muscles showing, where I don't have to cover up every ounce of my skin and maybe for once in my life I can wear a bikini. I still have a ways to go but one day, I will get there.

    Btw, you look amazing and beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • FitCurlysue
    FitCurlysue Posts: 23 Member
    Holy crap was that a good rant! Granted I've never been told I look "skinny" because I've been overweight and then eventually obese (where I am now) so not like that would come up. But I hate - HATE - that word, "skinny". That word to me isn't healthy. That word to me doesn't mean one takes care of themselves. And it certainly doesn't meant to me that the person has good muscle either. Being skin and bones is not the look I'm going for, ever. Knowing me I'd have some snarky comment back at them depending on who the person was that said it. :(
  • ViktoryaC
    ViktoryaC Posts: 124 Member
    First off, I feel your pain. Unsupportive people are the worst, esp. ones who don't mind their own beeswax. But.....I miss being called skinny. I used to get it all the time, and loved it. Now I'm "The girl who used to be skinny" or "Vicki who gained all that weight". I'll take skinny any time. But unwelcome comments are, well, unwelcome.
  • cappri
    cappri Posts: 1,089 Member
    I like being called skinny, it feels way better than being fat. Most people mean it as a compliment and those that don't, well they would find something else to hate on anyway. I honestly prefer skinny to fit, just my personal preference.
  • Missjulesdid
    Missjulesdid Posts: 1,444 Member
    I'm 246 pounds and I already have people telling me I have lost enough weight... I can only imagine their dismay when I lose another hundred pounds.


    And to be called a skinny cow? That's just weird....
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member


    I want to shout at people when they call me a skinny cow and say "well at least I'm not a fat cow like you" but I don't, because that is rude. Why is it ok to ridicule the slim but not the fat? why do people turn against you when you have worked really hard to get where you are. In a room full of people if someone shouts "Yo Skinny Girl" nobody would bat an eye. If I shouted "Hey Fat Girl" everyone would look at me and tut and give me dirty looks and probably throw a few insults at me.

    Remember I have now been at both ends of this scale. I am slim, I was overweight, I was obese. I have seen it all, I have heard it all. I have had insults for being big and now for being slim.

    Jealousy.

    Just ignore it. Or start firing back if you really want to shut people up.
  • tmm_0127
    tmm_0127 Posts: 545 Member
    Lots of people still don't get that body shaming ANY type of body is wrong and hurtful. They also don't understand that sometimes their opinions of other peoples' bodies should just be kept to themselves.

    And seriously, who's calling you a skinny cow? I don't think they should be on your friends list.
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    Some people think skinny is a compliment, almost the ultimate compliment (many women in my family think this). Curvy is also a euphemism, that doesn't really describe body shape very well either. I have my own opinions on the definition of curvy, but I don't want to derail your thread.

    The only thing "real" women have in common is that we all have vaginas. :)

    Pretty comes in all packages, and most importantly from within.

    Considering all of the "fat" discrimination and mistreatment out their, for many people, insulting "skinny" people feels like a small way to combat all of the messaging that tells you that you are worthless/lazy/ugly/etc because of your weight. The best way to deflect it to leave weight out of the conversation altogether. Healthy is as healthy does.

    Another alternative comment? We focus so much on judging and categorizing women based on looks and not character, I'd prefer if you'd evaluate me on my merits, and not the scale." ;)
  • Pearliture
    Pearliture Posts: 24
    I sometimes wonder the same thing. I have worked wirh the same people for 5 years and been with me bf for 10. My co workers met me when i weighed about 275 then on top of tjat I then continued to gain til I was in the 300's. My bf met me when I was around 220 he has watched my weight fluctuate until I decided I seriously needed a change. I asked him WHY IF YOU LOVE ME SO MUCH DID YOU NOT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT MY WEIGHT. His response was I said nothing because I love you, besides how would the conversation go " honey ilove you but you are getting fat" then you would lock yourself in the bathroom and i would have ended up single. No thank you. I would love to know why there is a double standard it is impolite to point out someone gaining weight or being fat be it is perfectly acceptable to share your opinion about someone losing a lot of weight and being " too skinny" especially for me right now i am told " you have lost enough" and to that i say you may think so but my scale begs to differ and my bmi still tells me i am obese.
  • volume77
    volume77 Posts: 670 Member
    bc theyre jelous
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,654 Member
    Curves are beautiful. No curves are beautiful. Somewhere in between the two is beautiful. I think we keep forgetting that bodies come in all shapes and sizes and they're all bodies -- awesome, amazing machines that sometimes people treat like a frat house and sometimes like a temple :)

    You look great, and if you (and your doctor) feel you are fit and healthy, screw 'em. You can always say "I like ALL types of bodies, and I've worked hard to get mine where it's good for ME, so shush now, we can rock it together in our own way."

    "Curves" is now a euphemism for obese, because I guess a medical term is negative now, and that's silly. I'm fat. I'm obese. I get it. Doesn't mean I'm not hot and awesome. I'm losing weight so I can be healthier and live longer because I have 4 kids, and I have zero desire to rag on someone who is fit and healthy because I'm not there yet! People need to buy a frickin' clue and mind their own business.

    Be happy for you! Too fat/too thin, they are relative terms with lots of factors that really need to involve physicians, not random co-workers who like to judge. Keep it up! <3
    QPTBPE (Quite Possibly The Best Post Ever :flowerforyou:)
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    I would love/can't wait to have this problem.
  • leadiax3
    leadiax3 Posts: 534 Member
    I get called too skinny. I am at the low end of normal\healthy bmi. So ya i love it. I used to be 20 pounds heavier. I like little me better than full figured me. I have always wanted to be skinny and now i am. I people r negative about it i just dont care... To me their lil twisted remarks feel like compliments for my hard work.
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    One of my least favorite parts about taking care of myself. The comments people make. I lost 15 pounds a few years ago and everyone was always telling me to stop....you're too thin, etc. So annoying! Should I go around telling my overweight friends they are fat??
  • HRLaurie614
    HRLaurie614 Posts: 260 Member
    (clapping and nodding).

    Very well said!!!!!
  • gspea
    gspea Posts: 412 Member
    You look great!

    I always tell people, "I"m not skinny I'm fit!"

    It shuts them up. If they keep saying I'm skinny I just flash a leg and say "I'll squish you I swear!"

    I am definitely stealing this. I hate it when people call me skinny, especially since I'm 165lb, just doesn't compute.

    I so can relate. at 160lbs I am constantly being told I am skinny and tiny.

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