moving on from divorce

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!! GOing through a divorce is one of the hardest things I belive to have to endure in life.. esp in your case with kids... I am recenly divorced and had a hard time as well. My ex made fun of me, his parents were even worse... SO... my advice to you is to do what you want.. YOU want to look sexy... then do it... I know how difficult it is seeing him lookin even better. but YOU CAN DO THE SAME.. follow the program, take the kiddies for walks outslde ( stay outta the floods you have) lol.. (MY parents live in Iowa city.) and try to make you happy.... good luck to you and you will be better in the long run... Don't cry becasue its over, smile because it happened DR SUESS. :flowerforyou: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

You're not short and pasty - you're petite with porcelain skin. And your children weren't the only beautiful ones in your profile.

We're all here for you.:flowerforyou:

don't let him take your self esteem--really. You are wonderful and beautiful and you have beautiful babies. What he has is superficial and most likely temporary. You are on the path to the most you've ever been! Good for you, girl!!

YOU CAN DO IT GIRLIE!!!

Your new goal??? "SCHEXY BISH BY DECEMBER!!!"

Heres what you will be, a wonderful loving mom who put her kids first and this is why she did not get that tan or that new man. You will eventually become the older mother whos kids love and adore her and would do anything for her. You will be where they are at every holiday when they get older and can choose which parent to spend the holiday with, You are where they will want to be when they need a place to crash over the summer home from college. You will be the one that they ask to walk them on parents night at any sporting event. You will be the one they confide in and YOU yes YOU will be the one that when they graduate from Highschool/college they will look at you and say Thank you for sacrificing yourself and Putting us first.
Daddy on the other hand will be the one who cared so much about himself and his wants that he got a tan and a new woman. Daddy will be the one that cared so much about himself that he can look like a peice of dried fruit with his 3rd new woman that he's already on the outs with at every holiday alone eating a tv dinner. Daddy will be the one who's told by his kids NO your not welcomed around me or anyone I love, NO you may not come to my graduation, NO you are not welcome at My wedding and please don't ever call me again, I wasn't imporatant enough to you then, so I shouldn't be now.

I'm speaking from experience when I say that kids remember this stuff, No matter how old they are now, they do remember. Please don't worry or think another second about there dad, but focus on them what they need. You'll be stronger and they will be to they need more love and attention now then ever because they are far to young to understand adults. And I promise you will be better off without and so will they. You deserved to be loved and to love! Be Strong.

Forget him, except for his child support and visits with his kids :laugh: :laugh: Who cares?? Care about yourself!!! You are the most important person right now!! Some people migh say, "what about the kids?" But you know, if you are not well then you cannot take care of them the way they need to be taken care of...You are a beautiful woman and a great mother!!! You will be just fine!!! Give yourself time to lose the baby weight, enjoy your children and focus on getting healthier and emotionally stable. Don't worry so much about getting in another relationship, that will too come with time. You are too vulnerable right now...focus on your new life, new beginning, and your children. We are here for you!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: