A guy who can never be seen naked, ever!

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  • shanniepk
    shanniepk Posts: 98 Member
    This is really tough. Sometimes I hate that we are such physical creatures. We are our worst critics for sure and tend to obsess over our own flaws. Maybe think of this as another hurdle in your journey, whether you choose surgery or weight lifting or just learning to be comfortable with it. Sounds like you have some choices to make, but you should feel so accomplished on how far you’ve come. You are a young attractive man and have a whole lot of life ahead of you which undoubtedly will bring more ups and downs. It’s all how you choose to face them:).
  • hxcfrankie
    hxcfrankie Posts: 2
    I know exactly how you feel. I lost 150 pounds starting from 320 and down to 170. Now I weigh 197 (I put on mass because I was skin and bones at 170) with a current loss of 123 pounds.

    I was also single my entire life. I was always the "fat kid" that no girl wanted. I did in fact gain a lot of confidence after I had lost all the weight. It changed my life and changed me as an individual for the better. Although I was no longer self conscious about my weight, I still felt that way towards my excess skin. I fixed one problem but inevitably developed another. My "man boobs" are deflated. My gut is a pool of skin. I also suffer from loose skin around the pelvic area like you mentioned and I am dealt with the detriments that come with that.

    I am now 21 years old and a month ago I started dating a girl who I've known for quite a while before we started dating. It's very difficult for me to open up to her in regards to my body even though she tells me she doesn't care. I was worried that she would run to her friends and tell them about my situation with my body and I'd feel ridiculed and embarrassed. Fortunately I am starting to feel more comfortable with her and she has been very understanding. She respects my decisions if I am not comfortable in certain situations. We are focusing on building a healthy relationship and as each day goes by I feel myself becoming more and more comfortable. I am sure that one day I won't even think twice about my body around her.

    No piece of advice is going to help cure your insecurities. I know that because I was once on your end where people told me to just "not worry about it." I did want to share my story with you though to show you that it is possible to feel more comfortable in your skin like I do now. Don't give up on yourself.
  • Philllbis
    Philllbis Posts: 801 Member
    There are a lot of of open minded people here. Damn, women acepting guys that are 300lbs? Where were you a year ago when I was a fattie???? You mean I can still eat cheetos, pizza and cake andstill get the girl?
  • dazzer1975
    dazzer1975 Posts: 104 Member
    I don't have any advice as such, but your story touched me. I am part way through my own journey (for the 3rd and FINAL time) and with being my heaviest ever and 38 years old I am expecting loose skin and the thought terrifies me.

    I just wanted to show some support and solidarity for you mate, all I can think of saying is that you have done the truly hard part by turning your life around, but i know that doesn't help with what you face now.

    All the best man and take care.

    BTW you deserve every happiness, with loose skin or not, I am sure you will achieve that!
  • laurynwithawhy
    laurynwithawhy Posts: 385 Member
    There are a lot of of open minded people here. Damn, women acepting guys that are 300lbs? Where were you a year ago when I was a fattie???? You mean I can still eat cheetos, pizza and cake andstill get the girl?

    I would definitely date a guy who was 300 lbs - IF he was actively taking steps to be healthier. I have a friend who is 330 (down from almost 500) and he works out and eats well. I would date him in a heartbeat. Oh and I love cheetos, pizza, and cake, in moderation of course!

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