I am quitting smoking - but I feel a strong urge to smoke
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Ok, so I quit smoking last Friday (last smoke was on Thursday) - so, now I am on day 5 and let me tell you - Pyhysically, I really want to smoke now. Yesterday I felt the same. But; the trigger for me to quit is that I got a strong cold because of the smoking (before that day I quit for a week - I smoked a lot on Thursday so that really hit me).
What often triggers me to smoke: stress from my study (which peaks close to exams), boredom from studying long days to succesfully make the exam. Coming Friday I have an exam and I am studying really hard, it will be fine (that's not the problem), but still it's an important exam so I feel a bit more stressed.
The thing is - I don't want to smoke, I know that it may be helpful for my study, but I should stop using it as a stress control, because it is bad for my health on the long term (common knowledge), and I notice it now on the short term (my cold. But also it's bad for my breathing during sports).
Any tips on how to control my stress levels and how to deal with the urges to smoke?
BTW; my experience is that as time passes it gets easier to do no smoking. I think the first 3 weeks are the toughest. Unfortunately, there's an exam after week 1 and a deadline for a thesis after week 3, making these weeks quite tough.
Writing this I really feel like going to get a pack of smokes only thinking about these deadlines. But I should not!
What often triggers me to smoke: stress from my study (which peaks close to exams), boredom from studying long days to succesfully make the exam. Coming Friday I have an exam and I am studying really hard, it will be fine (that's not the problem), but still it's an important exam so I feel a bit more stressed.
The thing is - I don't want to smoke, I know that it may be helpful for my study, but I should stop using it as a stress control, because it is bad for my health on the long term (common knowledge), and I notice it now on the short term (my cold. But also it's bad for my breathing during sports).
Any tips on how to control my stress levels and how to deal with the urges to smoke?
BTW; my experience is that as time passes it gets easier to do no smoking. I think the first 3 weeks are the toughest. Unfortunately, there's an exam after week 1 and a deadline for a thesis after week 3, making these weeks quite tough.
Writing this I really feel like going to get a pack of smokes only thinking about these deadlines. But I should not!
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I promise you it will get better soon. The first week of no smoking is the HARDEST, after about 10 days you will stop wanting one as bad. I quit after a 20 year habit last February, the craving and insomnia are the worst.. stick with it..
Oh and drink lots of water.. it helps with the urges. Every time you want to smoke, drink water.
Good luck!0 -
How frequently do you wake during the night to have a cigarette? Why is it that you can sleep undisturbed for hours at a time without smoking?
When you smoke, you never feel better - - your withdrawal symptoms just stop. When you put it out, they come creeping back. When you're not smoking you feel worse - - not the other way around.
This is all a trick. The reason that you have a building compulsion to smoke is because you're thinking about it. The actual physical withdrawal symptoms are already over, my friend.
When you feel that compulsion to smoke a cigarette, just imagine that feeling as the dying screams of the future tumor that you're preventing from murdering you right now. It will shrink and shrink until it disappears; both this self-inflicted compulsion to smoke, as well as the potential that you'll experience emphysema, cancer, etc.
*Proper attribution: concepts in this post are adapted from Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking0 -
Thanks for the advice. I will drink water right now!!
I will not get cigarettes this evening. No way. It's better to go through these hard days now then to do it later. I've been smoking for 3.5 years now and most of the time I thought I was close to quitting. I should stop fooling myself and actually get it over with.
I did quit for 4-5 months earlier this year. That was good, now let's do it again and now forever.0 -
YOU CAN QUIT. Stay strong. I used an electronic cigarette to help me :-)0
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Thanks delicious! I never wake up at night for a smoke, so I agree with you there.
I also believe that is not really physical, but more mental. It has to do that I remember smoking really well (it was only 5 days ago) and that I feel stress now, that I associate strongly with getting a smoke.
Good metaphor - the dying screams of a tumor. Will think of it as that, helpful!0 -
I just went through this a few months ago, and it was the worst! For the first three days I craved cigarettes pretty much whenever I was awake. It sucked, and it was torture! You've just got to suffer through it like a soldier. I suggest:
Running (or any exercise that makes you feel out of breath)
Gum
Carbonated beverages (I drank soda water to avoid calories)
Stay busy and distracted
Avoid being around smokers for a while
But mainly, it just takes pure willpower and determination. You will be thanking yourself for making this decision soon, I promise. If it makes you feel any better, I quit months ago, and I still crave a cigarette from time to time. It does get easier though. Good luck!0 -
Ex smoker here. 10 years free of my addiction.
The thing you must realize about smoking is that the stress you are feeling is withdrawal from nicotine. The addiction aspect is what causes the stress and drive to smoke. Once you are free of the addiction you will no longer feel that intense anxiety or stress to inhale the poison into your lungs.
When you feel the urge to smoke take slow deep breaths of air I to your lungs and that will help to calm you down.
Also drink lots of cold water to flush all the nicotine out of your body.
Take walks or some other exercise.
Call someone and talk about your grief at stopping smoking. Do NOT hang out with or talk to smokers.
It is a journey like losing weight is a journey. It takes time to feel steadily calm again without cigs but it can be done.
Try to give yourself lots of love and kindness and remember you are doing the single most important thing you could ever do for yourself health wise.
In addition to deep breathing, drinking water and exercise, buy a jar of whole cinniman sticks and suck on one when you get a nicotine attack. It gives you a sweet tasting oral preoccupation.
It helped me till I felt better. Also I chewed lots of sugar free gum.
I'm sure others will have better suggestions but I know you will feel amazing when you kick it for good.
Congratulations!0 -
I quit smoking September 25, 2012 and haven't looked back. I was a 2-3 PAD smoker there at the end...depending on how hard I was partying. The first couple of weeks are definitely the hardest, but it does get better. I'm now "addicted" to fitness instead as that is how I initially got over those urges...I'd have an urge to smoke and go for a walk..or drop and do some pushups...or jump rope or whatever. Ultimately it all evolved into a solid fitness plan and I hardly ever think about smoking anymore...there are occasions, but they are rare these days and it's great to be free.0
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Thanks monkey3253 and healthygreek - I have read all your excellent advice and will do what you say, they are good ideas:
- taking walks
- exercise/running
- gum
- carbonated beverages
- staying busy
- avoiding smokers
- drinking a lot of cold water
- calling someone to talk about stopping smoking & the difficulties
- taking slow deep breaths of air
Actually, I will go to get water, a coca cola and gum now soda/sweet machine (or whatever you call that thing in english), take some deep breaths and when I leave university I will take a long walk (in the fields -the opposite direction of the place where I can get smokes).
Thanks for this huge amount of good advice! Will check this thread tomorrow again and inform if I made it (of course I will). If I fail during the coming weeks, I will post it! Also if I make it.
Will log out now - should stop thinking about smoking.
Thanks again everyone!
Edit: cwolfman - also thanks to you - pushups are a great idea too, will also remember to do that!0 -
I smoked for 18 years at least 20 a day. Then I stopped from one day to another. Without anything. It's been 6 years now and I am very happy. Now I like to chew sugar less chewing gum :-)
But I feel much better, my taste is a lot better and I don't smell and I save money.
Kepp on doing the nice work and quit smoking. Good luck to you0 -
I quit smoking many years ago. Like others have said, the first week is the worst.
Remember the phrase, "This too shall pass." Wait a few minutes and the craving will go away. It will ALWAYS go away.
Chew gum
Eat sugar free candy
Eat carrots or something similar for stress (low cal with some density)
Drink water
Drink some fragrant tea like peppermint (it smells great)
Take a walk
Good luck! You can do it.0 -
Thanks for the support.
I've not done any smoking. I am on day 6 now!
I called a good friend to tell him I am seriously quitting now, so that he knows. I said I have cravings for smoking, but that I don't want to fall back. I told him that he may hold me accountable. So, by telling him I made this quitting a lot more serious, because if I fail, he will know (I don't lie to him), and that would be embarrassing!
And I have my gum! So, with that in my pocket, I will start day number 6!0 -
by the way I don't have any urge to smoke right now. It's morning and I still have a cold, so I don't feel like smoking. Will probably get cravings later in the day, but it makes it easier that it's not all the time.
This too shall pass, indeed.0 -
Hey I quit smoking last Weds (last smoke on Tues) so I have made it 1-week smoke free. I hadn't been too tempted to smoke...until yesterday. I woke up and really wanted a cig in the garden with my coffee before having to leave for work. Then I fancied a smoke when I got off the train in London. Then I wanted a smoke mid-afternoon. Then I went to the gym...and I didn't want to smoke.
I resisted the urge all day and then after the gym the urge was gone. I know I wanted to smoke as I was anxious about something at work, but I also liked to smoke in order to break the bordom. I am studying too and having that 5-10mins away from my desk was my 5mins of peace. I miss that. I am keen to keep away from the ash so if oyu are looking for a friend to help keep you stron please add me, as I know I could use the help!
Kate0 -
I've added you as a friend. Let's go for it!
How do you stay smoke-free? Are there people who hold you accountable? How do you plan to deal with the cravings, like the one of yesterday that you describe?
Anyways, it's really good that you finished the first week. My experience from quitting for 4-5 months earlier this year that quitting smoking gets easier and easier. The first days are the most difficult, the first weeks are still difficult (but already less), and then the first months become quite easy already. I think cravings is something for life, but the frequency will go down exponentially. My experience was that it was something like this:
First week: many cravings per day
After 1 week: some cravings per day
After 1 month: cravings only some days per week.
After 3-4 months: cravings only once every few weeks
It went that quick, it was quite easy to not smoke after I got through the first month.
What will eventually remain after months is those moments that I think will be there for life: friends having a social smoke together (and you want to join), people smoke cigars at a campfire or something (I am a student so this happens ) and they offer you one or you get a lot of stress and need to pull yourself through that period and you know smoking was helpful there. The first 2 that I mention tempted me, the last thing I mention is what got me back to square one; first I smoked a package in a week (and that was enough) and then I got back to my old quantity.
But, anyways, those situations are not the norm. My point is that if you pull yourself through the first month and then the first 3-6 months, it'll be a cakewalk - but you need to stay on your guard for those situations that you know are difficult - not for some time, but for life. I made the mistake to let my guard down and will not do that again.
Ok you see I am telling you this, but I am also telling myself all of this . Anyways, good luck!
Cheers,
Jasper0 -
go to whyquit.com it has excellent documentation on what is happening to your body at each stage of quitting. It also has information about how long each crave lasts. Not as long as you think. I would also join quitnet.com. I have been there for 7 years but never paid the fee. I stay in the free side. It is good to be in the forums with others going through the same thing. You will never regret not smoking, but you will regret it if you do smoke again.0
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Hey Jasper, thanks for the add
I'm quite similar to you as I also stopped for a few months recently before picking it back up again (when things got extreme)! I'm looking forward to when this gets easier too! Like you, I'm a student, so social smoking is/was my biggest downfall. I liked to smoke with a drink in my hand, outside in a beer garden or at a house party/ BBQ, with or without my friends. More recently I ended up being the only one smoking and that's not cool.
My tongue feels funny today, I had a look in the mirror and it's not furry, so I guess something good is happening?! ha, I'm coping with cravings by drinking water and crushing my teeth! Ha sounds like a weird thing but smoking has stained them a little so I guess this is penance! I need something to do with my hands though, especially at the pub...
Kate0 -
I can't tell from your profile whether you are UK or US, but is there a Stop Smoking Service in your neighborhood? It may be useful to have someone on board who can discuss your way forward and possibly medication (nicotine replacement or smoking cessation products) to help you through to being smoke free.
National UK number: Call Smokefree: 0800 022 4 332
Website: http://smokefree.nhs.uk/ways-to-quit/local-nhs-stop-smoking-service/
all best
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If youre on day 6 mate then its more the habit your body is craving in my opinon. To ease this you can get nicotine free ecig oil.... its what helped me quit and it made the process easy.... dont even use the ecig anymore... couldnt have done it without that tho
Crappy garage brought ecigs dont work tho - imo only the ones with the clearomisers and actual ejuice work0 -
@C4RL05 - Haha, I'm neither from the US or the UK, I'm Dutch . Thanks for the great advice! I found an organisation that offers coaching to stop smoking for free - 8 conversations over 3 months, the first one 30 minutes, the others about 20. Professional coaches, paid by the government. They also have a free number that you can call if you have difficulty. I have saved that number on my phone and will call it if I am close to failing or if I have an important question.
@benjib84 - I prefer to do it without any nicotine. Should I fail, then I'll get an icig. Promise .0 -
Quit smoking on July 21, so I am nearing the one-month mark. (Yay me!) I have been using a free phone app called Cessation Nation that tracks all kinds of stats including days quit, money saved, time saved and more. It has been my saving grace on hard days. I just look at how long it's been or how much I've saved and it keeps me from going out for a pack. Some days I check it every half hour!
I quit cold turkey after 40+ years at a pack a day. If I can push through this, you can too!! Over the years, I tried lots of different methods from hypnotism to gum to patches. Right now, I'd love a cigarette but then I'd be back to square one and have to start all over again. Totally not worth it.0 -
Last April I lost my mom to lung cancer. At the time my two siblings and me were all fairly heavy smokers. My brother quit smoking cold turkey the day my mom was diagnosed and then picked it back up at the end....when that's your fallback to stress that's what you do. We tried to help each other quit but we all live in different parts of the US so it was hard. One day I get a package from my brother and its one of those electronic cigarettes that you can recharge and use over and over and you add the fluid to it. I tried it a few times but didn't really care for it. I contined on smoking cigarettes. I didn't like that he thought he could make me quit if I wasn't ready.
Fast forward to this year July. I decide I need to get healthy. Both my parents passed away before age 60 so when I turned 30 and realized I could be halfway through my life it was a huge wake up call. I joined a gym, I'm eating better, I quit smoking. I'm using the electronic cigarette with the lowest nicotine level fluid. It helps when I have cravings because I'm doing something with my hands that mimics smoking. I don't use it too much throughout the day, and I try to go outside with my kids when I start getting on edge and wanting a smoke. I've been cigarette free for 3 weeks now and every day is different. Some days are harder than others and some days I don't think about smoking hardly at all.
You can do it.0 -
I've quit for 10 days now and it's a lot easier now than the first handful of days (when I made this thread) - cravings are rarer now and less common, and I think it's partly because of your support and advice in this thread that I feel strongly motivated and able to keep on going! So, thanks!
@Lisa - thanks for your support! Great that you quit, Three weeks is a lot! Keep on going, you can do it! And a little advice: never let your guard down, the cravings forsmoking become rarer and rarer through time, but they keep occuring (every few weeks or months) and it's good to prepare yourself for that!
@gaylel - congratulations, very good that you did it!0 -
I quit cold turkey 5 years ago... it was the best decision of my life! I tried sunflower seeds the first day and it killed my mouth! So I used Certs to suck on throughout the day and when I really got a craving I would chew cinnamon gum! Cinnamon is a natural flavor that helps curve nictoine cravings.
Handling stress was the hardest part of quitting. I felt like all my issues were amplified and harder to deal with. Just breathe and know that it gets easier and easier everyday!
Best of Luck!0 -
it will pass. just hold strong.
i quit smoking over a year ago. i just got a job at a casino that you can smoke in. i have never wanted a cigarette so bad in my life. but then i think of how hard it was to quit and i do not want to have to do it again. then i think about my daughter and my health. i think about how hard it would be to run or ride my bike because i have no endurance and can't breathe.
smoking is not worth it. do you really want to have a nasty leather face when you are 40?0 -
So glad you posted this because I was actually about to also!! Today is Day 1 for me. I know, "How many day 1's have you had?" But seriously. I've been smoking for 11 years! And I'm only 29! I'm going to be 30 in October. My nephew's 1st birthday just passed. I want to be there for him when he gets older. Not sick or in wheelchair with oxygen or or a tracheostomy or worse....
Have you tried Nicorette gum or the patch? I have a patch with me at work right now. We can't smoke here anyway (or take smoke breaks) so at work I'm usually okay. I guess it's a mental thing. I know I have no choice. It's after work, drinking with friends or sitting at home on the couch watching TV that is the hardest part. Like someone else mentioned, drinking water helps. Go for a walk. Clean. Do some jumping jacks or jump rope. Or try an e-cigarette if you'd like and you MUST smoke something. I tried them but they actually bothered my lungs more than a real cigarette! I was probably smoking it too much.
If I could have been there when my stupid 18-year-old self bought my first pack of cigarettes when I started college...I probably would have tackled myself.
Best of luck to you. Just keep telling yourself "I got this! I can do this!" You ARE stronger than a cigarette! It's an inanimate object! It does not have control over you!
ALSO, look at this timelime of how quitting benefits you: http://health-and-wellness.net/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/2456490-6113014803-smoki.jpg
Last but not least, when I quit for a year in 2006 I used the patch. Also had moral support from my fiancee who was also quitting.
Does anyone have any thoughts on Chantix? I want to try it but I've heard horror stories about hallucinations and horrible nightmares.
I'm so dreading this weight gain as well....UGH!! :sad:
I wonder if they have a quitting smoking group! If not, we should!!
ETA: Quote from drugs.com Chantix review: "When I get a craving, I take a deep breath and hold it as long as I can. It kind of simulates the smoke going into my lungs and satisfies my craving."0 -
I quit,,, you can do this!0
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I quit cold turkey after 20+ years smoking after reading Allen Carr's Easy Way book. I can't even tell you when I quit because it's another life away, seriously.
Most, if not all, things are centred and reinforced by the brain IMO. You get the noggin' right and all else will follow.
Want to quit smoking? Easy once the brain is fully on board. Want to drop some fat? Enlist the subconscious and ease the path. Visualise the goal, think positive, etc.
You can't resist what you don't want. If you don't crave it there is no willpower required.
It sounds airy fairy and hippy dippy to some but I believe we just need to get out of the way of our lives sometimes, stop freaking thinking so much and tune into reality.
Hey, look, after 20 years toking away on everything going sometimes and trying to avoid reality I feel the need to satisfy an urge sometimes but I realise it's just a brain thing and I can do better using other means of relaxation.
If anyone wants a pointer towards Allen Carr then drop me a message. I get more satisfaction on MFP from pointing people this way and helping address their smoking issues than anything related to fat loss.0 -
Thanks everyone!
Well, yesterday was interesting. I am at home now and I saw my father and brother smoking several times, but I did not have any desire to smoke that day. Nor did I have today. I guess I've had the worst now.
@YeahTangerine - great that you quit for 5 years already. And I agree, stress management is the most difficult part of it. I hope to learn to prevent stress instead of managing it - zero stress = zero smoking risk.
@Valeriemartin - yeah there's so many disadvantages of smoking - I actually think there are no real advantages; smoking seems to help with stress, but I think it creates more stress then it takes away. It may be nice to smoke with people - but other people will think less of you when you smoke. It may feel good, but smoking is bad for your sense of smell and taste, so other things feel less nice; and as you get less healthy you'll feel even worse. And then there's all the other disadvantages we know so well. Conclusion: not a single good reason to smoke.
Anyways: keep on going! Don't fall into that trap again, and if your job makes it impossible for you to resist smoking, you may wish to find another job because your health is worth so much more.
@Laurenz1017 - day 1, very good! That's the worst, but once you get through the first week it'll be so much easier already. If you are tempted, remember that it'll pass quickly. I am on day 10 now and I find it quite easy now, I am not sure that it'll stay this easy, but it's so much better then a week ago.
I don't use any nicotine at all (no patches, no ecig). I use normal gum sometimes to distract me from the urge to smoke, which really helps.
About the graphic: I love those lists of advantages, it's really motivating to know that my health is improving as time passes!
And about the weight gain - last time I quit I gained 10 kg in 5 months. Then I took 6 months to lose 17 kg. Now I am monitoring my weight daily (using a graph) to make sure it stays stable; if I gain a bit, I'll do more exercising (which also helps to clean up my lungs).
A quote from the internet:
"Smokers often find it difficult to quit smoking and make other
lifestyle changes such as exercise and diet at the same time. This is
why it is important to begin a regular exercise program several months
before the expected date of smoking cessation. Not only does exercise
aid in weight management, but it is a healthy alternative activity
that helps overcome cigarette withdrawal."
I agree that it is difficult to start exercising while smoking - I do find it difficult to keep doing it. Anyways, my trick is to expect not too much of myself, but make exercising easier, so it doesn't take so much discipline to do it. Instead of running long distances (10 km or so), I just try to run 5 or just walk for 30-60 minutes. If I have to go to campus and I am not in a hurry, I just walk there (20 minutes, so back and forth it's 40). Those little bits of exercising add up and once this smoking requires less willpower, I'll expand the exercising again.
@kangojumps - thanks! Congratulations!
@DeadVim - Great, I'll look into that book! Thanks!0 -
I found having a 10 deck in my bag really helpful when I started quitting. I could have one, if I really needed it. It's all about not freaking out about it. Having a *kitten* doesn't mean you failed, it means you are human. Like with losing weight, one bad day isn't the end of everything.
I have completely quit since discovering ecigs though. I now use nicotine free ones, and just puff away when I'm stressed. The action alone deals with the cravings and I still go outside with it, to pace back and forth and scream at the walls when I'm stressed, but have none of the nasty side effects of actually smoking.0
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