SCARED ABOUT MOVING AWAY TO COLLEGE!

flowers8628
flowers8628 Posts: 19 Member
edited February 1 in Motivation and Support
I am really seeking some support.

I am moving away to a university in a big city and am very scared. I am living in dorms also.

I have no idea what to expect and I am sad about leaving my family and my home :(. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and I have to leave him too.... I am extremely upset about that. The relationship is going to be long distance since I am over 12 hours away from home.

I am also scared about not making any friends and being on my own :(

Any advice? Support? Much appreciated!

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  • LemonLizard
    LemonLizard Posts: 86 Member
    First things first, try not to worry! If you set out with a worried, negative attitude, you might put yourself in a rut. If you keep a positive attitude, you'll exude that confidence and everyone will notice, which will help with making friends! Try taking classes that you know you'll like, so that the people in these classes will hopefully share the same interests as you and you will connect with them.

    Dorm life is helpful for making friends as well. Resident Advisers often set up events to get dorm residents involved, so try joining those. Also, some people like to go around the dorm floor and knock on each door to introduce themselves. I didn't do that personally, but I did meet some cool people from when they knocked on my door.

    Make sure you know where the buildings are for classes and student services, where you adviser is, and it helps to find these buildings before classes start up so you won't be scrambling to find your classes on the first day.

    Last thing - the two of you should definitely get Skype. Even if you're not available to voice chat or video chat, just having Skype logged on in the background is a nice way to be close to each other, if you're limited on texts on your phone. You guys can make it work if you're on the same page.
  • purplepopsicles
    purplepopsicles Posts: 18 Member
    Hey there :) I am moving out soon as well so I can definitely sympathize!

    If you're going to college there are going to be LOTS of people your age with similar interests, so I'm sure you'll be able to make new friends soon.

    Moving into a new situation can be overwhelming. I find it helpful to break everything down into smaller tasks and focus on one thing at a time. This could maybe also help when you're missing your family and your boyfriend? like, instead of thinking "I can't see them until thanksgiving" you could just think "I won't see them today"
    Idk if that makes sense.

    If you want, you can add me as a friend on here, maybe we could help support each other?
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