Am I being rude?

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Just go lol, it's only 1 day.... not gonna ruin your body.

this falls in the same category I was in a couple weeks ago when my daughter made a huge batch of cupcakes.. You want to be nice but on the other hand you want to keep within your fitness goals.. I say go to the Bday party .. Have something on the healthier side OR if fhat really isnt an option just keep that in mind and put a bit more time into the next workout .. family is MUCH more important and besides we all need a "cheat" day every now and again.. Keeps us from plateauing out ..

Here's what I do when I want a treat without way over-doing it:

Get what sounds good to you on the menu (or get the lightest option if you can pull up the menu on your phone). Ask for a box immediately. Box up half and enjoy half then.

Problem solved. You're there for your brother, you get a treat, you don't over-do it AND you have another meal for lunch or dinner later in the week. Win Win.

Yes, you're being rude.

It's your presence at his birthday that he wants, not you throwing money at it and running because you haven't accepted that life goes on even when you're on a diet.

Hi

So today is my brother's birthday and he wants to go have French Onion Soup since its his birthday but I really do not feel like having anything on the menu. Everything seems like 2,000 calories on up. I don't mind going and paying for his meal. Since its his birthday, but he knows I am on a diet. I feel like giving him the money for the meal and trying to make him go with his friends. I looked up the menu so I know how much it is. Yet, his friends are flaky and not really there for him when they should be.

What should I do?

go...order something...& don't eat the entire & give the rest to starving homeless person. haha.

go and order a salad

Your "diet" is never going to be sustainable if you don't allow yourself to take part in life events like birthdays, holidays, celebrations, etc. This is your family you're talking about here. Take your brother out for his birthday, order something off the menu (or order something like plain grilled chicken) and enjoy yourself for one night. Your brother won't remember what you did or didn't eat, but he definitely won't forget that you weren't there.

This.

go and order a salad

where there is soup there IS a frickin garden salad..go

I don't think you're being rude. It can be hard to eat out when you are dieting, even if you eat something healthy but see your friends eating something you really want or like. I see at least two possible options for you:

1. Go with him and not eat. Being that he is your brother, he should understand that you are dieting and hopefully is being supportive of your goals. I hope that he would simply appreciate your company and you wanting to spend his birthday with him (and doing something he wants to) and not feel bad that you are not eating.

2. Find something on the menu that you would eat, but don't eat the whole thing. I've gone out with friends before and when there isn't a healthy option for me, I tend to just get something I like. I immediately get a to-go container and box up whatever I don't want to eat. That way I am only eating a portion of the calories. I usually end up dividing what is leftover into 1-2 meals for another day - therefore spreading the calories out over different meals.

Good luck and let us know what you end up doing.

I suggest you go to this video;

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvE75uRkoxk

and skip to 1:47 and learn about "time" and how important it is to people you have a relationship with.

its not a diet its a life style and life changes. Roll with it and go celebrate your brothers birthday HAVE FUN.

So what you are saying is your intake for ONE DAY is more important than a special occasion with your brother?

Okay then....:noway:

2000 calories isn't enough to make you gain half a pound. Just eat the dang food.