Am I being rude?

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  • MViscione13
    MViscione13 Posts: 1
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    I don't think you're being rude. It can be hard to eat out when you are dieting, even if you eat something healthy but see your friends eating something you really want or like. I see at least two possible options for you:

    1. Go with him and not eat. Being that he is your brother, he should understand that you are dieting and hopefully is being supportive of your goals. I hope that he would simply appreciate your company and you wanting to spend his birthday with him (and doing something he wants to) and not feel bad that you are not eating.

    2. Find something on the menu that you would eat, but don't eat the whole thing. I've gone out with friends before and when there isn't a healthy option for me, I tend to just get something I like. I immediately get a to-go container and box up whatever I don't want to eat. That way I am only eating a portion of the calories. I usually end up dividing what is leftover into 1-2 meals for another day - therefore spreading the calories out over different meals.

    Good luck and let us know what you end up doing.
  • nomeejerome
    nomeejerome Posts: 2,616 Member
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    What to do?
    Go. Try to make a decent decision on dinner. Enjoy the time with your brother and celebrate his birthday.
  • ritchiedrama
    ritchiedrama Posts: 1,304 Member
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    I suggest you go to this video;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvE75uRkoxk

    and skip to 1:47 and learn about "time" and how important it is to people you have a relationship with.
  • jdm_taco
    jdm_taco Posts: 999 Member
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    get him an escort instead
  • buckshot1969
    buckshot1969 Posts: 87
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    its not a diet its a life style and life changes. Roll with it and go celebrate your brothers birthday HAVE FUN.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,026 Member
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    Dont go. You might get discouraged from one day of overeating and fall off the wagon completely.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    So what you are saying is your intake for ONE DAY is more important than a special occasion with your brother?

    Okay then....:noway:
  • TyTy76
    TyTy76 Posts: 1,761 Member
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    Rude & Selfish
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
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    2000 calories isn't enough to make you gain half a pound. Just eat the dang food.
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
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    Yes, you are

    The soup WILL NOT kill you OR make you gain

    but you do what you wanna do OP
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 17,959 Member
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    A day on your diet should NOT be more important than your brother's birthday. It sounds like you guys are tight. In 6 months time, you won't remember going over your calories for the day, but he will remember yopu refusing to go to lunch for his birthday because of your diet.
  • AngelAura777
    AngelAura777 Posts: 225 Member
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    Go and eat a little but still eat. Its not very fun going out to lunch with someone and they just sit there and dont eat and watch you eat because they are on a diet. I would absolutely love to go out with my friend for lunch but she doesnt like to eat much.
  • Just_CallmeTanya_Eh
    Just_CallmeTanya_Eh Posts: 115
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    Go!!
  • vanillacoffee
    vanillacoffee Posts: 1,024 Member
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    Go, it's his bday, and pick the healthiest thing there.
  • DopeItUp
    DopeItUp Posts: 18,771 Member
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    Very rude. And silly, I might add. Just go and call it a cheat day. Or go and make up with some exercise. Or go and eat half portions. You're just making excuses.
  • yasemasuyo
    yasemasuyo Posts: 177 Member
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    Eat something good and healthy before you go, then have a salad or a light side dish off the menu and eat slowly! You should definitely go, you are blessed to have a brother who wants to be able to have you join his celebration!
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
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    Um.. he is your brother, how would you feel if he just gave you the money and said go on your birthday? Suck it up and go.
  • AZKristi
    AZKristi Posts: 1,801 Member
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    Don't be a ****... go to dinner with your brother and only eat half.
  • srobinson84
    srobinson84 Posts: 39 Member
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    It's one day and one meal. Don't miss out on celebrating his special day because of food. Go, eat, be happy!
  • dorthymcconnel
    dorthymcconnel Posts: 237 Member
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    Go. Split an entree or appetizer with someone. Enjoy the time with your brother. If you can't split the food, take most of it home. It's one day, one meal.

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