Anyone else gotten grief for losing weight?

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  • bceltic
    bceltic Posts: 135 Member
    Yep, my mother ( very obese) and my sister ( also overweight). Ive lost lots before, and the first comment they have for me is " eww, it looks like your skin is hanging, you need to tone things up" Mind you, it was only 50lbs I had lost to reach goal.
  • aarar
    aarar Posts: 684 Member
    Yes. I've been told I'm going to blow away, I'm fading away to nothing, getting too thin, I need to stop losing weight, I'm not going to know when to stop and my personal favorite "you need to start eating; you're looking emanciated". The funny thing is she said that about 10lbs ago when I was stil considered overweight and due to my marathon training I'm eating anywhere from 2000 up to 4000 calories a day. I'm literally only now at the top of my healthy BMI range.
  • hellynewman
    hellynewman Posts: 26 Member
    Absolutely, i think as someone said before it's a lack of understanding and very much stems from jealously. My best friend was always the thin one of the tow of us and it was pretty obvious that she was unhappy i'm taken her title. She even went as far as emailing my husband telling him i was obsessed, that i couldn't have a pudding without going to the gym the next day (um, isn't that a good thing, working off my treats?).

    Thankfully my husabdn just resonded saying that what i was doing was positive and she should be supporting me not criticising, which shut her up!
  • dgbrash2
    dgbrash2 Posts: 16 Member
    I am grateful that my family has supported /is supporting me in my efforts, even with the back-handed compliments. The comments that they give me, I take to heart, in that they are actually trying to encourage me to keep up the good work. I have even had a couple of co-workers ask, 'Have you lost weight?' To which I say, "Yes! 12 pounds." Although my weight wasn't too high, it was more than I wanted it to be (beg/ht/wt was 5' 11", 184, GW 172, met!). I am 51 and have decided I want to grow old, not die early like BOTH parents (Mom @ 45, Dad @ 49), so that is part of my motivation, along w/ my doctor's recommendation to keep my 'numbers' in check.

    I have read a lot of your comments about how others look at your progress, and I must say, I admire those of you who have been on this journey a lot longer than I have, and are keeping up the hard work. Don't ever let anyone get in your way or get in your head, for as long as you are doing what you know to be the right thing about your weight loss, just consider the others either envious or jealous because you are being successful!
  • NinjaMaid
    NinjaMaid Posts: 48 Member
    I have friends who say I spend too much time working out or I need to eat. They don't like it that I won't eat fried or junk food anymore. I am often pressured to eat when I'm not hungry. I don't eat much when I go out and I think my friends resent me sometimes.
  • 1saat
    1saat Posts: 4 Member
    I did this through 2011 and was successful !

    Hubby rolled his eyes when I started - admittedly because I generally don't stick to things :-) But he soon adapted to me measuring/weighing/logging everything and was very supportive. He only commented at the point where it was a bit too much lost for my frame and it showed - way too much came off of my face.

    However, I do have a friend who, upon my first words about watching what I eat (not dieting, just paying attention, mind you) told me 'be careful, you'll become anorexic' - hello, seriously ? I took off 30 lbs before I moved on to maintaining and at no point was there any fear of that.

    I've put some weight back on and now have decided to get back on track - Hubby (the only one who counts) knows. For the rest, I'll keep it to myself for the most part - who needs the negativity.
  • FireHareJenny
    FireHareJenny Posts: 2 Member
    Some people are never happy.

    You can do it! : )
  • Possible_Infinity
    Possible_Infinity Posts: 83 Member
    My Sister came from out of state for a visit.

    She told me she missed her Fat Brother, he was more fun... :ohwell: :ohwell: :ohwell:



    Heard this one today, My head is too big for my body. :laugh: :laugh:



    I had some one also tell me, he's a man it's super easy for him.

    I'll be fair from what I've read men have some advantage primarily because of more muscle mass, but this just didn't happen by accident. Whoops so sorry...
  • msafunk
    msafunk Posts: 163 Member
    I can't remember anyone specifically giving me grief about my decision to lose weight. But There are plenty of people who have opinions on how I'm going about it.

    - I've been told to not count my calories. I guess she thought that counting = dangerous restriction? I've never starved myself. Counting calories isn't about under-eating; It's about not over eating

    -I've been told to not worry about my macros because it's "too hard, and you'll get discouraged." Umm... Thanks for assuming what I'm capable of handling? My goals are 40/40/20, but I don't stress out as long as at least 30% of my calories are coming from protein, and no more than 30% are coming from fat.

    -I've been told that I shouldn't do Insanity because it's only for people who are already in really good shape. I don't need any hard exercise because I play soccer once a week, and work as a referee on weekends.

    The one that hurt my progress the most, though, was after getting into a groove with the weight machines at my old gym, I was told "Those things are useless. You shouldn't be using them"

    F@#$!!!11 DON'T TELL A FAT CHICK THAT *ANY* EXERCISE SHE'S GETTING IS USELESS. EVER.
  • shawtiibabyy
    shawtiibabyy Posts: 19
    Plenty of times!! It's amazing how many people you thought would be supportive then completely throw you with harsh comments! Been told I look ill, I must have stopped eating, worst one was when a "friend" had spread around lies behind my back about how I'd lost the weight!
    People that do make horrible comments are normally jealous because you've achieved something that you wanted to do! Thats what my boyfriend told me anyway lol To be honest most of the nasty comments came from "skinny" people, confused me really as 90% of my friends who are bigger than me have been really supportive an proud of the weight i lost. I thought it would be the other way round?
    people will always surprise you, just ignore them and keep going :)
  • hawaii86442
    hawaii86442 Posts: 167
    Oh yes--like dont get rid of your big clothes you will regain the weight. I liked you better ten pounds ago. She is my inspiration. One good thing though she has got on a fitness weight plan and has lost 15 pounds. So, I guess I can have broad shoulders and a thick skin and ignore the negative if I am inspiring her to be more fit.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Please keep in mind- I've never been fat... or even what I would consider really over weight- I've been working out my whole life and fairly fit/active. This is from mostly cutting/dietary changes. I can't imagine how much worse it would be if I was battling substantial weight loss- my hat goes off to ANYONE who grabs the reins and makes progress on their own despite the negativity.

    "Don't lose any more- you look great as it is"

    " you can't eat XXXX food- that's insane"

    "why are you doing this"

    "why do you count calories- you're skinny and pretty already"

    "you don't need to work out- you're already thin"

    So keep in mind- the people that make these types of comments- aren't making them about you- it's for THEM.... and don't let that stop you on your journey.
  • DymonNdaRgh40
    DymonNdaRgh40 Posts: 661 Member
    Well said JoRocka!

    I too get grief because it is a lifestyle now. Those that don't live a healthy lifestyle don't understand our new way of life and therefore make comments that are sometimes tought to take. I think that once they make the commitment to become healthier they will see what it takes and that maybe our behavior isn't so weird.

    Lately, I've been hearing... "Okay Linz, no more, that's enough!"

    It's funny to me now because then they ask for advice or want to know what I'm doing to lose.
  • joan280
    joan280 Posts: 13
    You need to lose some weight when I am fat---you are too thin are you anorexic?
    Your not eating enough---when I weigh what I should.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,148 Member
    Not for the most part, but I don't have many people I see on a regular basis. My MIL and her side of the family seem to think I'm not supposed to eat certain foods anymore. Sorry, b!tch, but I ain't living the rest of my life without chocolate, apple pie, and bread.

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