Losing weight with an overweight roommate

I think you should just know that if she wanted to make a change, she could join you. Never "feel bad" that you're changing your life for the better while others aren't.

Who knows, maybe your success will motivate her!

I am sure she is a big girl and can handle it. You said she is a room mate so she must be old enough to pay rent. Sometimes it takes things like this to make them see the light. Continue with your goal and don't feel sorry for people that don't want to help them selves.

Invite her to join you with losing weight, Cook healthy meals together, go walking and exercise together, etc. Get her excited about losing weight with you.

If she doesn't want to get involved then I wouldn't worry about it, I know that sounds mean but if she's not at a good point in her life to start moving forward to a healthy lifestyle then I would just let her come around on her own. Always have an outstanding invite that she can always join you with working out or becoming healthy maybe she'll come around

I can relate to your roommate... kind of. My friend and I struggled with gaining weight. She had surgery on her tooth and all of a sudden, she dropped weight like there was no tomorrow. I was ticked. But happy for her, of course. But still ticked. So I started working hard. And now we are both losing weight So ya it did motivate me once I got over my "that' not fair, you totally suck" crappy attitude. Invite her to go on a walk with you. Introduce her to nice food. Leave some fitness mags on the table

Unfortunately, I'm learning that not everyone is genuinely happy about my weight loss journey. It's SO sad to say, but when something good happens in the life of one person, those who are unhappy with themselves will feel jealousy, self-pity, bitterness, and even anger (I can admit to feeling that way myself). While they may smile at me and say, "Good job," I know some are (behind my back) saying, "Good grief! She loses a few pounds & suddenly it's taken over her life..."

*sigh*

I'd like to think I'm being sensitive to those around me who struggle with their weight ~ I do NOT want them to feel any worse about themselves. It is unfortunate, however, that many will take on your & my success as their own failure.

I say that to encourage you to do what the above posters have suggested: invite her to go for a walk (even if it means that you have to go a little slower that night), serve her some of what you're cooking & ask her opinions (What do you think? I'm trying a new dish?). But also, keeping perspective & placing yourself in her shoes, remember how it feels to be the unmotivated one & be sensitive to her feelings. Your compassion coupled with your success may be used to make a lasting change in her life.

Kudos to you & may you have continued success!

I think it's great that you are making choices like these for yourself, but her body is her business. I'd be wary of making her feel like she's not going to be good enough for the "new you" like she was "before".

If she starts showing an interest, great. Even invite her to do something that can dubb as a social event (walking to the mall, taking a Zumba class). Who knows - she may ask you to help her learn how to make changes, but she may be fine with where she is - it's completely up to her.

If I were in her shoes, I'd be thrilled that you were doing well, but embarrassed if you started trying to get me to do it - that's a bit of an insult (at least, to anyone who is self-consious about their weight).

But again I sawy - well done! I hope you stick with the changes!

I wouldn't worry about your roommate at all. Just keep doing you. You can encourage her and ask her to go walking with you, but ONLY do that if she says something about it herself--like says to you that she wants to lose weight. If you start putting out fitness magazines and continuously suggesting that you exercise together or cook healthy meals together, it's going to make her feel bad and/or anger her and could affect your relationship with her (if its valued relationship) cause then it will feel like you're judging her because you're losing weight and she's still overweight, and I feel like that's the WORST way to approach someone about their weight. But hopefully your success will inspire her to want to do it for herself.

But first and foremost, don't worry about anyone else and just do what you have to do-it's YOUR life.

Hell, maybe you'll be just the motivation she needs to hop onboard your train to Sexyville! (was that corny? lol)

I didn't think it was corny at all!:laugh: It made me laugh... 'hop onboard to Sexyville, I got my ticket bought and paid for and riding the train now....... and what a great ride it is! :drinker: