When are you going to have a second one? Grrr!!!!!!!

It was like that with us, too. But now that we have our two kids, a boy and a girl, we are making it perfectly clear that we are DONE.

I had the opposite. Everyone would always say "You guys are done now, right?"

You sound angry.

My vagina is not a clown car. /thread

Eh, I guess it depends on the person. Because I don't have any children, I always get, "when are you going to start?"

Serious answer here...

Why are people like that? I have a friend who had some horrible complications in their first pregnancy, and ended up having a hysterectomy. The sad part is she and her husband wanted to have more children.

Now, whenever some loose lipped *kitten* asks "When are you going to have more?" She thinks about how she didn't get the family she dreamed of as a kid and gets all depressed.

That's really sad.

I'm sure most people don't intend it as you are taking it.

I was an only child. It's great when they are young...they get all the toys, attention, etc. but keep in mind that when the parents age, all responsibility is placed on the one and only child to handle everything when the time comes.

My vagina is not a clown car. /thread

And, as I discovered the hard way, vice versa

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Same here. The pressure from families to have #2 is worse than that it was before we had any?! Our daughter is 9 months old and we always get asked 'that' question, mainly by sis in laws.

Im quite happy with one, I might try again when shes 2yrs old, but then I might not. Im financially healthy atm, that would change if I had another one.

Decisions! Lol x

My fiancé and I aren't married, nor do we even live near each other yet and my mother has been asking me daily for almost 2 years when she gets grandchildren.... -.- It's extremely old, and most of the world would view me as too young to have kids..

First kid is 10. Second is 7 months. If I could do it over again I would have had her in my early twenties instead of near 30. I doubt I will have any more. The prospect of being in my 50s when my youngest makes it to college is not appealing.

LOL...it doesn't stop there...god fobid you have two and they're both of the same sex...then you get the, "aren't you going to try for a girl?" (or boy if you have 2 girls).

Yep. Same here.

OP, people ask that question because they are ignorant. I don't mean that to sound snarky, it's just that most people think they are being friendly/cute/conversational/blahblahblah when they ask questions like this. Typically meant as an innocent thing to ask but is often verbally incendiary.

ETA: I'm not planning on trying for a girl, BTW. :laugh:

i guess your family and friends could just never ask you anything ever. but then you'd probably start a thread complaining about how no one cares about you enough to ask about your life. perhaps you could give all of your loved ones a leaflet of pre-approved questions to ask of you

My husband and I are not going to be creating any children. He already had 5 kids when we met, which is plenty. When he told 22 year old me that he was not going to be wanting any more kids ever, I was a million percent fine with that. I've never wanted to be pregnant or be responsible for an infant.

My lifelong childfree intentions aside, though, folks always think their opinion is needed. Anytime anyone would ask me questions about getting pregnant, I would just look at them with a quizzical look and say quite bluntly, "are you really asking me what I intend to do with my uterus?!"

In my situation, the unintentionally rude comment I always hear is, "don't you want your OWN kids?" as though marrying into this family and raising these kids is somehow inferior to raising children that I was pregnant with. Fifteen years of blood sweat and tears says these kids ARE my OWN.