I hate calorie counting!

I have been struggling SO much with the whole calorie counting thing over the past few years.

While I do get to points where I can last up to a month or so (though less than two months) counting calories and losing weight, ultimately, SOMETHING gets me off track. Last time, it was a vacation. Other times, it will be not getting a lunch break at work and going from 8am to 6pm without eating.

Whatever the reason- circumstantial or hormonal- I go from losing weight and eating right to binge eating for days. Sometimes, it's not a sudden turn around. Indulging in some good food while in NYC can lead to the downfall- simply because I went over my limit a little.

I've noticed that calorie counting triggers this diet-binge cycle, which makes me question whether it even works- for me, that is. At the same time, I do like how calorie counting allows me to have the freedom to eat whatever I want (though I do try to focus on whole foods).

At this moment, I'm tracking the types of food I'm eating in a little notebook (without measurements or calorie counts) just to get an idea of what I'm eating and how often I'm eating. I am trying to operate by the rule "Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial" in hopes that it will guide me in the right direction (ie: buying a yogurt instead of a GoPicnic meal when I find myself out later than expected and I'm ready for another meal, etc.).

I'm just questioning whether it's possible to lose weight without counting calories.

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  • jetlag
    jetlag Posts: 800 Member
    That sounds like me, and it's why I've never successfully lost weight in the past for more than a couple of weeks at a time.

    Things are different now. I only really restrict calories 2 days a week. But on those 2 days, I limit myself to 600 calories. 3 days a week I count, but I eat much more, like 2000, sometimes more, sometimes less, depending on calories. On Saturday and Sunday, I don't count at all.

    That DOES NOT MEAN that I allow myself to eat loads of garbage on the no-count days. I still make good choices and limit my alcohol intake. I just don't penny pinch the calories on those days.

    That being said, I'm not a big cake/chocolate/crisp eater, but I do eat cake/chocolate/crisps.

    It's called 5:2 intermittent fasting. Read up on it.

    I've done it for 2 months, have lost 20 lbs and 4% body fat. I love it. It has transformed my life.
  • GODfidence
    GODfidence Posts: 249 Member
    In short,no. If you're watching what you eat,avoiding high sugar
    Foods and processed foods and sticking with oats,vegetables,fruits,low calorie foods then
    Yea you have a better chance at losing weight without.counting.because calorie dense foods fill
    You up more...but it still comes down to calories regardless. I would practice logging and weighing/measuring
    Food for a while until you get better at it then you can basically go days without logging but still know "about"
    What you ate, calorie wise. It starts to.come natural. In the end it's calories out> calories in = weight loss and the most
    Efficient way is to log accurately, not guess, assume, or avoid.counting.
    Good luck!
  • howardheilweil
    howardheilweil Posts: 604 Member
    Of course it's possible to lose weight with out counting/logging calories. But a lot of what you say in your post... well, they're real cop outs. We all have days when we have to skip lunch, we all go on vacation... I have no idea what those things have to do with logging your food. As a side note, I'm also not sure why you are keeping track of what types of food you are eating? If you can do that, why can't you log the actual food on MFP?

    I know that none of this was helpful, but I really think you need to just decide what's important to you and do it... Understanding that there will be bumps in the road. Good luck!
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    Provided you are eating a sufficient number of calories (i.e, not under-eating), it's not the calorie-counting that triggers the binge eating, it’s you. Not trying to sound harsh, I suffer from binge eating myself so I know exactly what you mean, but it’s taken me a long time to accept that it’s my mentality that causes me to binge and NOT circumstances. I would concentrate on the reason why you binge and your feelings around that time. It can be a long process but one that’s worth doing.

    As for your question, yes, it is possible to lose weight without calorie counting, but you still have to have a deficit to lose weight, whether you are counting it or not. If you eat 2000 cals of healthy food and your TDEE is 1800 cals, you will still gain weight.

    Like I say, tackle your binge eating issue and the rest will sort itself out.
  • lsmsrbls
    lsmsrbls Posts: 232 Member
    Sure, lots of people lose weight without counting calories. You can make an effort to make lower calorie choices when you eat or restrict certain food groups or increase your exercise (while being cognizant of eating about the same as you were before increasing the exercise). You could also look up something like intuitive eating.

    Personally, I also only can handle being on a deficit for about a couple of months. After that I need a couple of weeks break (often coinciding with a vacation or something like that, like you said...and the timing depends on when I just decide I want to eat more) and I eat at maintenance level for a while.

    If you think that deliberately increasing your calories periodically could keep you from binging, then that might work for you, too.

    You may also want to consider whether you have your weight loss goals set too aggressively and could benefit from decreasing your deficit.

    But if you don't want to count calories, don't count calories! There's no point in being miserable and if you think that it's actually making your goals harder to attain or is bad for your mental health then you should try to find something that works for you.
  • mdreis
    mdreis Posts: 4 Member
    I dislike counting calories too- it's time consuming and just a paint to measure and weigh everything, write it down, look it up, etc. BUT I've found counting calories really reminds me how much a serving of something is. It makes me pay attention to just how many calories are in certain things. After counting calories for a little while, I have a better grasp of what I'm eating. With that info fresh in my mind, I make better choices even when I'm not counting. So I do my best to count for a little while, then maybe just a few days/week. When I notice I'm putting on weight or just know that I'm not eating right, I make myself count calories more religiously.

    It's also helpful on MFP if most of the foods you regularly eat are there and just need to be checked and added to your food log.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    I count calories so I know when I can have a treat, guilt free. Before, I would eat clean, then have a treat, feel bad about it, thinking I've blown my diet anyway so why bother, and binge... Now I see I have the calories for pizza or ice cream, no guilt, and it's been working great.

    Everyone is different though. I just find it much harder not to count, because I feel that I can't eat anything 'bad' then, and it's much harder on me.
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    But a lot of what you say in your post... well, they're real cop outs. We all have days when we have to skip lunch, we all go on vacation... I have no idea what those things have to do with logging your food.

    I kind of agree with this. I just quit my job recently, but my job I had no lunch breaks, everyday that I worked. You know what I did? I prepared my food ahead of time and brought with me. And I'd eat it at my desk. It's not my fault the company is breaking labor laws! LOL. Point being, you make time to eat, and if you prepare in advance, you can make it work.

    Also, I understand the counting/weighing/measuring can be a little tedious, but really, it only takes a few moments out of your entire day. Being lazy about that kind of stuff is what brought most of us here to begin with. It's fine to not count things on vacation, but you can be sure if I went on vacation, the next day I'm home I'm right back on the horse and ready to go. Don't let anything get in the way of your goals, including yourself!

    Keep at it and you'll reap the rewards!
  • honeylissabee
    honeylissabee Posts: 217 Member
    I do pack a lunch (or did, I am currently unemployed), but there were days when I was unable to get to the staff lounge to get my lunch (I worked in a daycare). Or there was the time that my coteacher had a severe pineapple allergy so I wasn't allowed to bring my lunch into the classroom.

    For me, numbers stress me out. I honestly feel like I would do a lot better if I define what a "treat" food is for me and give myself a certain number of treat foods per week. So, if I give myself 6 treats (and that can be anything deep fried or high calorie desserts, etc) and I go out to eat and get French fries and split a slide of cake that will cover 2 of my treats (so I can use them all at once, or I can split them up and have a piece of chocolate every night).

    Honesty, for the past couple of days, while my diet hasn't been very good in many way, I have been thinking a lot more. Today, I decided to pick up a Chobani yogurt and watermelon slices as a snack when I was out. I'm avoiding the Lucky Charms because I am trying to limit and/or eliminate the food dyes. I'm putting more of an emphasis on WHAT I am eating and less on the numbers and measurements.
  • camila_scl
    camila_scl Posts: 238 Member
    If you don't like counting you could try good old fashion portion control. Serve your meals like you would normally do, eat half or 3/4.
  • HeidiCooksSupper
    HeidiCooksSupper Posts: 3,839 Member
    I love to eat. If I eat as much as I want, I weigh too much -- twice what I should, to be precise. Therefore I must change my habits or continue to weight twice what I should and die young. On the one hand: change and get healthy. On the other hand: eat whatever I want and die young. I hate change, I like to eat but dying young is not something I am willing to do. Therefore, I must change me.

    So, that's the situation of all of us. You have a choice. You can continue to eat the way you do, watch your health go downhill, and die young OR you can change your eating habits. Those are the only two choices.

    Continuing to eat any way one damned well pleases is easy to do. However, it makes EVERYTHING else, from buying clothes to having sex, harder to do. So, choose to do the one hard thing and change your eating patterns. No one can do it but you.

    For many of us, using the food diary to keep track of what we eat helps. Think of it more as a handy diary than as "counting."
  • gpizzy
    gpizzy Posts: 171
    It is absolutely possible to lose weight without counting your calories. If you are eating clean and sticking to veggies, fruits and lean meats chances are you're going to come in under your maintenance calories anyways. Adding exercise to the mix you could be almost certain to come in under. There is a new book out by Jillian Michaels that goes over all these tips and tricks to losing weight, maybe have a read through it or check reviews online and then purchase.

    I agree that at times it seems cumbersome to calorie count, however, I have the program easily accessible on the computer and m cell/ipad. As well, I generally eat the same things Monday-Friday so I can use quick tools. This way I know where I'm at calorie wise and I also know what I'm eating. If I do have a day where I'm over (see my Monday/Tuesday this week), then I move on and make better choices the next day. Heck, sometimes I make the same choices a few more days in a row. The key is, stay accountable to it and make yourself log them. I went camping last week and didn't log any of the calories but I knew that when Monday rolled around I back to logging. The hardest part, make your rules and stick to them. If not counting works for you, don't count.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    Try something different then. There are ways to lose that don't involve "counting calories".
  • lindustum
    lindustum Posts: 212 Member
    Whenever I feel counting is too much of a hassle, I think of the mothers here on MFP, that are in employment and juggle that with raising small children and housework. I think about the people that work shifts and night time, that have sabotaging friends, family or co-workers, those that struggle with disabilities that affect their daily life.

    That puts my life into perspective. If I can't bother to log food maybe 15 mins a day (if at all), then clearly I have different priorities than all the people I just mentioned.

    If you don't want to do it, don't. Stop making excuses. Pineapple allergy?? Come on!
  • love2lift_85
    love2lift_85 Posts: 356 Member
    I hate it too, but it's beneficial, so I persevere. Once I got my main go-to meals into the counter, I can just click on them again and again each day and don't have to enter each food into the system again. That makes it easier, I think.
  • I love to eat. If I eat as much as I want, I weigh too much -- twice what I should, to be precise. Therefore I must change my habits or continue to weight twice what I should and die young. On the one hand: change and get healthy. On the other hand: eat whatever I want and die young. I hate change, I like to eat but dying young is not something I am willing to do. Therefore, I must change me.

    So, that's the situation of all of us. You have a choice. You can continue to eat the way you do, watch your health go downhill, and die young OR you can change your eating habits. Those are the only two choices.

    Continuing to eat any way one damned well pleases is easy to do. However, it makes EVERYTHING else, from buying clothes to having sex, harder to do. So, choose to do the one hard thing and change your eating patterns. No one can do it but you.

    For many of us, using the food diary to keep track of what we eat helps. Think of it more as a handy diary than as "counting."


    Very well said!
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,782 Member
    I have been struggling SO much with the whole calorie counting thing over the past few years.

    While I do get to points where I can last up to a month or so (though less than two months) counting calories and losing weight, ultimately, SOMETHING gets me off track. Last time, it was a vacation. Other times, it will be not getting a lunch break at work and going from 8am to 6pm without eating.

    Whatever the reason- circumstantial or hormonal- I go from losing weight and eating right to binge eating for days. Sometimes, it's not a sudden turn around. Indulging in some good food while in NYC can lead to the downfall- simply because I went over my limit a little.

    I've noticed that calorie counting triggers this diet-binge cycle, which makes me question whether it even works- for me, that is. At the same time, I do like how calorie counting allows me to have the freedom to eat whatever I want (though I do try to focus on whole foods).

    At this moment, I'm tracking the types of food I'm eating in a little notebook (without measurements or calorie counts) just to get an idea of what I'm eating and how often I'm eating. I am trying to operate by the rule "Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial" in hopes that it will guide me in the right direction (ie: buying a yogurt instead of a GoPicnic meal when I find myself out later than expected and I'm ready for another meal, etc.).

    I'm just questioning whether it's possible to lose weight without counting calories.

    I don't know. Isn't that kinda like trying to stick to a budget with keeping track of how much money you spend?
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  • tress29
    tress29 Posts: 614 Member
    When my dad died and I went home for the funeral, I took myfitnesspal along! There were many days I went over my calorie goal. Knowing I I was still going to be held accountable (if only to myself) I really did consider what I ate. Some days, I ate the desert anyway. Being together with family was more important to me than scrimping one more time.

    The day I felt like taking a nap because I ate too much? I took a walk after dinner. I didn't burn off all the calories, but I felt better because I made a effort. What it all comes down to is tomorrow is another day. Try to do better. It's not something I stress out about too much anymore.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Of course you can lose weight without calorie counting...I lost my first 20 Lbs or so without counting. Actually, the only reason I started counting was because my doctor told me that in addition to losing weight I should watch my sodium consumption for my hypertension and my saturated animal fats and processed carbs for my cholesterol and triglyceride issues.

    For me it was really beneficial in learning how to actually eat...what a portion looked like on my plate...how to get all of my proper nutrition through food every day, etc. I didn't obsess so much about the calories as I did about the nutrition. I don't count now at maintenance and have been maintaining for about 5 months easily...I attribute that to calorie counting and learning how to eat via calorie counting. I could see how it could go the other way for some people though and end up causing a lot of disordered thinking.
  • loveelyds
    loveelyds Posts: 5 Member
    I would just cut everything your normally eat in half! with at least some good healthy snacks in between!
  • ChangingAmanda
    ChangingAmanda Posts: 486 Member
    Look at it this way, you haven't been counting calories and now you're here needing to lose weight. Why do you think not counting calories this time around will be successful? You could eat all the healthy things in the world but still eat too many calories and still gain weight.
  • Wetcoaster
    Wetcoaster Posts: 1,788 Member
    Out of the 108 pounds I have lost.......100 was without counting calories.

    I have actually found it harder losing weight as when I track as it becomes almost an obsession.

    So I track only once in awhile just to see what my diet looks like.

    I am at the point now where I don't need to count calories to know what I should eat.

    So counting doesn't work that well for me but it is very interesting to see the breakdown of what I am eating.

    Lots of protein......probably should up my fiber.....mostly lower carb except on beer days......

    But everyone is different and you need to do what works for you.
  • ecw3780
    ecw3780 Posts: 608 Member
    It is all about calories in, calories out. However, there is no reason you have to always be losing. Sometimes not gaining is enough. Every 2 months, I spend a week at my maintenance goal. It gives me a break, and then I don't feel so beaten down by calories. Also, if you have been dieting for a long time, you might just need to hang out in maintenance to let your body reset its normal...especially if you have lost 10% of your starting weight.
  • Indulging in some good food while in NYC can lead to the downfall- simply because I went over my limit a little.

    This statement is worrying to me for a number of reasons. If you think of foods which are calorie dense and high in fats (like icecream, cheesecake, covered in heavy creamy sauces, and whatnot, the types of food which are almost unnaturally sweet or fattening) as "good foods," and other foods as almost punishments, like a lot of people do, you're going to have trouble sticking with any change for the long haul because it means that you may consider things like fruit and vegetables which are prepared in healthy ways which maintain their nutritional content to be lacking and unsatisfying.

    It sounds like you get stuck in a cycle of "Ok, I'm going to get healthy/diet!" and then you go out and eat a ton of foods that you don't really like and tell yourself that you're "eating to live, not living to eat" and not looking for compromises or learning to genuinely like foods which are healthy and beneficial for you, and force yourself to live on these types of food (a.k.a depriving yourself things you like). For a while this is ok, you get by... but then, eventually, like a snake in the grass, something comes along which you find impossible to resist, and you cave, and eat something which once it hits your tongue, it's like a bomb which on one hand spits bliss in every possible direction, but on the other, reminds you of how much you crave and miss this feeling. And, like a drug addict just out of a course of unsuccessful or forced rehab, that temptation can be too much, and you try it, and once you try it once, you end up clawing for it going "need... more!!!" and end up binging.

    I've been there, too. I honestly believe it's because I was looking at foods as "good" and "bad," which meant that I was using the "good" foods (the ones which tasted good but were awful for me), as a reward for having put up with the "bad" foods for some period of time. This type of pattern and thinking is exactly what makes diets not work. It's a deprivation and reward cycle, and when you get into reward mode, you tend to drastically overdo it.

    What I had to do was decide that if I was going to eat the calorie dense foods, I was going to eat something else at the same time that was high in nutrients and low in calories. If I'm going to have fettucine alfredo, one of my favourite dishes, that I was going to spice it up with cajun spices, many of which are excellent for my body, and add lots of onion, zucchini and red, green and orange peppers to it, and am going to have a large portion of vegetables (usually broccoli, asparagus and brussels sprouts) along-side it, which I eat the majority of before I touch the pasta. Instead of doing "either/or" I decided to go with "and." The dish is still far too fattening to really be reasonable, but when you fill up on vegetables and then have a little of the other thrown in, you really do end up eating drastically less of the fattening food and still get all the joy from it. I still eat fettucine alfredo, but I've altered it, and found a way to do so which IMO actually IMPROVES the flavour, and gives me a ton of nutrients I need at the same time. After careful consideration of what I like to eat and treating those dishes this way, I've managed to drop almost 50 pounds and never feel deprived, because I'm not withholding what I like - I'm now controlling it, and I still get to love the food I eat.

    Don't give up. It can be difficult. Change is hard, but if you want it enough, it's worth it. There can be compromise, but you do have to work at it.

    Best of luck
  • RHSheetz
    RHSheetz Posts: 268 Member
    Yes, you can lose weight without counting calories, BUT you will not like how you do it.

    I lost 207 lbs using Meal replacements. They were Preportioned foods that I eat instead of meals 5 times a day, and then 1 time a day a eat Lean Protein and 3 servings of Veggies. I did not count a single calorie, someone else did.

    The other option is if you sit down, figure out a weeks worth of meals and eat the same thing each day or week. That is kind of where I am now. I am a VERY repeatative eater and I just eat the same thing most days. I still count cause it helps me with my cravings to know what I have eaten.

    The Third option would be Pure Palio. My understanding is you can eat almost as much as you want as long as it is Palio. I never tried it, but that is the claim.

    I would encourge you to make the effort to record and weigh/measure your food. Just to make sure the serving size is not greater than you realize, until it becomes a habit.
  • honeylissabee
    honeylissabee Posts: 217 Member
    Some of the food in NYC was pretty healthy (Chobani SoHo), but I did indulge in some gelato from my favorite gelato place, and my best friend and I decided to try some doughnuts that another friend of ours raves about (we selected a few flavors and split them).

    The only foods I would ever label as "bad" are snack cakes and other foods laden with chemicals and additives. So, while I wouldn't think a natural fruit leather from Trader Joe's is "bad" I might label a fruit roll-up as "bad."

    For me, good food is anything from fried chicken and waffles to pasta with a creamy sauce to a slice of cheesecake to a salad made with arugula, raisins, lemon juice, olive oil, almonds, and parmesan. Good food, for me, is more about taste and experience. Sometimes, good food can be more calorie dense than other times. There are days when all I want is a good salad, but there are also days where I want a nice rack of ribs. It just depends.

    I honestly am trying to improve that relationship with food. I've had the best of intentions in the past by convincing myself that instead of buying Little Debbies, I would save dessert for eating out or other occasions. Instead of buying a bag of Lay's chips, I would slice a potato and make my own chips.

    It's not like if I eat dessert, I'll start binging Not even close. Rather, it's going out to places where there is no easy way to track (like getting one-of-a-kind doughnuts when there is nothing comparable in any tracker) that triggers it sometimes.

    Other times, I just get hungry. I'll eat whole grains, lean protein, fruits, vegetables, all of that- and I'll get hungry. The fact that I have a calorie target and that stress makes it worse. Counting and dealing with numbers stresses me out. I've never liked numbers, and I know that whenever I count calories, I end up binge eating at some point. It was the same way even when I was successful on WW!