Heartache Diet

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Chickie728
Chickie728 Posts: 4 Member
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I don't want to bring anyone down but I'm on the heartache diet. I found out three weeks ago my husband has been having an affair for the past six months. The first couple of weeks I couldn't eat or sleep and I lost ten pounds. I've stopped losing now and I'm eating a little more but still no where near my required calories. I try to walk three miles everyday just to keep my sanity. I just don't want to eat because my stomach is in knots and my blood pressure is elevated. Has anyone else gone through this? Any advice? We are now in marriage and individual counseling.

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  • donyellemoniquex3
    donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
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    I'm on a LIFEstyle CHANGE but sorry for your loss.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
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    Nothing will make you drop the pounds faster than true heartache. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope things get better for you very soon.
  • poohpoohpeapod
    poohpoohpeapod Posts: 776 Member
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    yep when my Mother died I literally could not eat. All I could do was cry. Could barely drink,finally had to go to Dr., was prescribed xanax for a few months. It stopped the crying.I think I had lost about 60lbs in 2 months. UGH
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
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    Eat as much as you can, as often as you can. Start slow, don't push yourself to the point of being ill. Try broths, or soups - things that are easy to get down - shakes are often a great way to get in a lot with out even realizing it.

    Are you and your husband still together trying to work through this? If so have you spoke with a counselor?

    Sorry Its tough going through something like this but know you will be stronger on the other side of it.
  • adventuregirl1999
    adventuregirl1999 Posts: 2
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    I'm sorry to hear about your husband's affair. I haven't ever been married, but I've had my fair share of boyfriends who were either not faithful or didn't treat me well. Thankfully I didn't marry any of them. It's true that heartache results in rapid weight loss - so it turns out there is a silver lining to this cloud. I'm hoping that you and your husband can repair your marriage through counseling. Either way, I hope that you emerge a better person - not just thinner but healthier - both physically and emotionally. Please feel free to email me if you need to talk or just vent. I will try my best to listen.
  • ReinasWrath
    ReinasWrath Posts: 1,173 Member
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    I am so so sorry. I wish I had better advice for you but do what you can when you can. Make taking care of yourself your first priority.
  • 123im4u2c
    123im4u2c Posts: 63
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    So sorry to hear that you are having difficulties! We have all been there in one way or another!
    An affair can't be easy, so I can understand all the different feelings you must be going through!
    I'm glad that you are going through counseling, it's one of the best things to do for yourself and your
    marriage. I hope that everything works out for you! I know it's hard to eat, I just started eating regularly
    a couple weeks ago, and there are days where I literally have to force myself! I was the victim of a robbery, and because of it developed an overactive thyroid. I dropped 25 lbs in a matter of weeks. I went into therapy with a Psychologist, then on to a Psychiatrist, and then to a Glandular specialist. By that time I weighed 103lbs! I was sick and very afraid. I was put on medication,
    like 70 pills per week, and some of them caused weight gain while they controlled my symptoms. I came here because I wanted to lose 10lbs at least, but my metabolism is all out of wack, and not eating wasn't helping in any way, shape, or form. Also it's really nice to meet people who have been supportive in both areas, as I'm sure you will find it too! You can request me as a friend, sometimes it helps just to talk, share, and encourage with support! There is a lot of that here, as you can see by what's written in community discussions! I am divorced, it wasn't an affair, but abuse is emotionally draining too! I wish you the best, and hope you will be able to work things out! L

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