Break up :(

bekylouisex3
bekylouisex3 Posts: 242 Member
edited September 21 in Motivation and Support
Hey I really could use some help.

On Friday my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. He said it was a mixture of my moods (due to PMS) and his lack of concentration on his 'A levels' as he was always thinking and worrying about the two of us. Our relationship has been unstable for about amonth, as my PMS has been effecting him more and more.

He asked me to go to the doctors to something for my PMS, but i was scared to go straight away, so I researched online for medications and couldnt find any. I was also turned off my some ideas because some side affects of the pills was weight gain.
Recently I ordered some pills but I guess it was too late.

He says he still wants to be close friends and still texts and calls me etc. He stil calls me babe sometimes. I just don't know if I can take it, with still staying in contact with him as I still have major feelings for him. I love him unconditionally.

I want to get back with him, and he says he may consider it if I sort my moods out. Should I hope for the best and go to the doctors to see stuff for my PMS to make him happy? This way, I may have the opportunity to be with him again..which I really want.

I'm sorry, I just need to get stuff off of my chest.

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  • mrsyac2
    mrsyac2 Posts: 2,784 Member
    if things are meant to be they will be. as far as keeping in touch all the time so fresh in the break up isn't a good idea since you are the one that got crushed. It will give you false hope, I know it's hard but you should cut ties right now in my opinion. You need to heal first before you try and be "friends". It be different if you 2 just grew apart and agreed mutually to call a quits but that's not what has happened.

    Don't get your hopes up that you 2 will get back together because if you are constantly thinking about that and it doesn't happen or worse he moves on you will be crushed.
    calling you Babe still is a matter of habit since being together for 2 years it's not something that you can just turn off.
    I saw your profile and your age, you will have many heart breaks over the years it sucks but it's a part of growing up it's all life lessons. Splitting with someone regarding PMS just doesn't seem right but thats just me.
  • hammycat86
    hammycat86 Posts: 23
    evening primrose oil works wonders for PMS. You can buy them at any drug store in the vitamin isle.
  • nicrus24
    nicrus24 Posts: 12 Member
    Are you on the pill? I have had friends that are on the pill and it has made them CRAZY! It may be that you need to change which pill you are on or you may need to be started on the pill to regulate your hormones. Sorry about your break up, that sucks. Hopefully it works out for you.
  • Suedre
    Suedre Posts: 435 Member
    Sorry to hear about the boy. I'm terrible with relationship advice because I've never been bothered by being single, actually I kind of like it that way! :) I do know something about PMDD and it's not fun at all. Best thing I ever did for myself was to get treated. Go see a doctor you might be surprised what they can do. Good luck!
  • 2BaNewMe2
    2BaNewMe2 Posts: 102 Member
    Sorry for your break up. As far as the PMS, I think you should go to the doctor for YOU not the ex boyfriend. There could be more going on, or it could be you need a change in any meds you are currently taking. Good Luck.
  • xoalyssaox
    xoalyssaox Posts: 318 Member
    I think you should go to the doctor for YOU and not for him. I was married for three years, and after a year of being seperated I just now am realizing that I need to do stuff for ME and not for anyone else.

    I am so sorry for your break up, just remember everything in life happens for a reason
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
    you're 16?

    I agree with mrsyac2 you have a lotta life ahead of you and he sure doesn't sound too mature.:noway:
  • Anna19911
    Anna19911 Posts: 141
    I'm so sorry for the break up! I know it sucks. Been there done that. But you have so much time ahead of you! I'm only 19 and i know for a fact i'll have more berak ups to come! Don't get back together with this guy. seriously. And for the pms stuff, guys should get over it. We have our mood swings. Not a big deal. And if it is that big of a deal to him then hes VERY immature.
  • ebean
    ebean Posts: 12
    I would also encourage you to go and see your doctor if -YOU- are unhappy with the way that PMS is effecting you.

    As for your ex boyfriend, breaking up is an awful thing to have to go through, but it never kills you and the BEST part is, that it leaves you open to meet somebody who's going to love 100% of you, mood swings and all.

    Ask yourself:

    What will happen the -next- time this guy decides there's a part of you he doesn't like? Will he break up with you again in order to manipulate you into changing yourself to suit -his- ideal?

    As for sticking around and staying friends, calling you "babe" and telling you he *might* get back together with you if you "sort yourself out"... You deserve better than that. You don't deserve to be made to feel as if you're sub-standard or lacking or that you need to improve yourself before you're worthy of being loved for who you are.

    My advice would be to take some space. Focus on yourself. Do things that -you- enjoy doing, hang out with your other friends, remind yourself that you have some amazing qualities and that you're beautiful and soon you'll start to realize that he's actually done you a favor, instead of breaking your heart.

    I wish you love, and just a little bit of luck. xo
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