I need friends who ACTUALLY read diaries !
donyellemoniquex3
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Today I ate very little. Only about 400 calories 
I woke up VERY late and wasn't hungry because I went to the fair this week. I ate calorie ridden foods (candy apple, bowl of nacho cheese, lemonade, ice cream, fried dough) and walked around a lot, chased my fitness instructors 4 year old around, climbed on suspended rides and in the consent G force gravitational pull from rides where you could barely move !
Before I had a 600 calorie muffin, there were people saying "great job, good day" etc.
I don't want that ! I want "hope you're okay ! Get something to eat before bed" etc.
I woke up VERY late and wasn't hungry because I went to the fair this week. I ate calorie ridden foods (candy apple, bowl of nacho cheese, lemonade, ice cream, fried dough) and walked around a lot, chased my fitness instructors 4 year old around, climbed on suspended rides and in the consent G force gravitational pull from rides where you could barely move !Before I had a 600 calorie muffin, there were people saying "great job, good day" etc.
I don't want that ! I want "hope you're okay ! Get something to eat before bed" etc.
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It is no one else's responsibility to monitor your food intake. Time to become an adult and be responsible for your own actions.0
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I understand where your coming from but honestly that is your job to make sure you eat right and eat enough. What may be bad to you may be okay to others. I can't tell people what to eat and what not too...were all different and different foods and exercise work for different people...0
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I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting a few people to glance your food diary, and comment in a positive manner. I know I am here for support, and when I have time I will try my best to offer support to others.
Hang in there! The State Fair doesn't hit my area til the end of October. I will have to plan in advance before I go.
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I love checking diaries. feel free to add me.0
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It is no one else's responsibility to monitor your food intake.
This.
I personally don't read or discuss people's diaries, neither do I comment on "completed journal entry". It's not my concern. It's ultimately down to the person what they're gonna put in their mouth. I'm just here to give/receive encouragement, offer support or a push if needed, and keep track of what I'M doing.0 -
It is no one else's responsibility to monitor your food intake.
This.
I personally don't read or discuss people's diaries, neither do I comment on "completed journal entry". It's not my concern. It's ultimately down to the person what they're gonna put in their mouth. I'm just here to give/receive encouragement, offer support or a push if needed, and keep track of what I'M doing.
Yup. I personally cannot stand Diary Nazis.0 -
I love and I have got the time to read diaries feel free to add me> Not every one understands that sometimes little support can go a very long way as long as its on time.0
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I understand where your coming from but honestly that is your job to make sure you eat right and eat enough. What may be bad to you may be okay to others. I can't tell people what to eat and what not too...were all different and different foods and exercise work for different people...
Agreed! Most of us are not trained in nutrition, nutrition counseling, etc - I don't feel qualified to comment on most people's food choices. "There are many paths up the mountain"
I give my sister a hard time on here about undereating because I saw my father do that. He would gain weight from eating next to nothing.0 -
I understand how the OP feels. I have a small friends list so it's more of a quality vs. quantity thing. That said, I don't know where everyone is on their fitness journey, what their goals are and what I can offer that's informed commentary. When I look at food diaries (and I hardly ever do - it feels a little too personal even if people allow it), I honestly can't think of anything to say other than, "Hey, I like McDonald's/pizza/Chinese food too." Like someone said earlier, "there are many pathways up the mountain." Who am I to say anything if your path is different than mine? If someone is clearly starving himself or herself, and it's not someone whom I know offline, there's nothing I can really do. I'm so sorry to say that, but it's true.
People will write comments like "good logging" which I don't find insightful but what else are they going to say? If I'm 300 calories under for a day, I get the "good day" comments. Or, if I ride my bike for half an hour, I get "great ride". Fortunately, I'm in the maintenance mode, so I don't need to be 300 calories under most of the time. If I spend half an hour on the bike, I feel like I didn't get enough time. I don't find the comments irritating; everyone's hearts are in the right place. Everything I do on MFP doesn't need a response; I don't want people to feel like they have to make a comment on every single thing.0 -
I don't comment on my friends diaries. I might glance through them sometimes, but I've stopped commenting. I actually had one guy drop me from his friends list for mentioning how low his calories were. A guy in his early 40's, doing 2-3 hours of exercise a day, really should be eating more than 1300 calories a day--how dare I say something... :noway:
Although, I have dropped friends after seeing weeks worth of less than 1000 calories a day. Don't have time for that nonsense...
On the flip side, I don't post mine either. Its open to my friends, but I don't publish it everyday.0 -
It is no one else's responsibility to monitor your food intake. Time to become an adult and be responsible for your own actions.0
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I never read them. Well, rarely. And this didn't start just cause I collected more friends.
It's not my job to make/keep my friends accountable.
IF they are having a bad day they usually vocalize it, with words. I am all supportive if they use their big girl or boy voices.
How am I suppose to know how they feel or what they need based off a food diary.
Sorry OP, but I think you need to put yourself in charge of YOU0 -
It is no one else's responsibility to monitor your food intake. Time to become an adult and be responsible for your own actions.
^^^^ What he said.
It's like you need people to rationalize your unhealthy eating habits, that's your problem, not anybody else's.0 -
I check them, but if you have more than two days under 1200 I'll end up deleting you.0
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most people on MFP don''t understand tha word 'support'. it doesn't mean you need to lie, it means you advice a person where you think you know something abt it. People with open diaries should also be ready to be 'critised' or adviced.
it was funny actually seeing 'great day' to a person who costantly drinks 8 cans beers plus small 750 ml wine bottle per day. It is crazy! she was a person in my friend list but after suggesting her to reduce alcohol intake she went paranoid and finally i told her to remove me from her friend list. I don't like to say 'well done' after you had '1600 cal only on alcohol and then you eat very small. Nothing makes sense to me. Also we are here to leave out bad habits and some people just deceive themselves!
however it is your responsibility to eat properly but i also suggest you to delate people who comment your diary just to get a comment back! you don't need them. I prefer few friends and I can follow them when i have time and exchange some messages. That's it!!0 -
I check them, but if you have more than two days under 1200 I'll end up deleting you.
Anyway this is stupid because no all people need 1200 per day. My mum tdaa is 1100 cal a day because she is old.. so let's not say rubbish..0 -
continue... she would have been a bufalo right now if she would eat more than 1200 as she is not active. so please0
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most people on MFP don''t understand tha word 'support'. it doesn't mean you need to lie, it means you advice a person where you think you know something abt it. People with open diaries should also be ready to be 'critised' or adviced.
it was funny actually seeing 'great day' to a person who costantly drinks 8 cans beers plus small 750 ml wine bottle per day. It is crazy! she was a person in my friend list but after suggesting her to reduce alcohol intake she went paranoid and finally i told her to remove me from her friend list. I don't like to say 'well done' after you had '1600 cal only on alcohol and then you eat very small. Nothing makes sense to me. Also we are here to leave out bad habits and some people just deceive themselves!
however it is your responsibility to eat properly but i also suggest you to delate people who comment your diary just to get a comment back! you don't need them. I prefer few friends and I can follow them when i have time and exchange some messages. That's it!!
^^^^ Fully agree with this.
I don't drink. I used to, but not anymore, and not because I ever had a problem with alcohol, I just find it to be a waste of money, calories and brain cells.
I have friends (in real life, not cyber ones) that drink everyday, work and maintain a healthy weight. They don't starve themselves and they eat a relatively healthy and balanced diet.
If someone was to allot their whole daily allowance of calories to alcohol, then eat a tiny amount of food, I would say they have a drink problem, besides an eating problem.0 -
I kind of think that commenting on someone's day every single day is a bit excessive anyway. I usually don't. I also don't comment on burning 180 calories either. I comment on any weight loss, and on most personal posts about struggles, NSV's etc.
I often read diaries, but I would never make a public criticism of what someone ate. Period....well, unless I was joking about something really gross, like artichokes. Eating only 500 calories in a day won't hurt anyone anyway, as long as it is just once in awhile. Neither will having a junk food filled day occasionally. If I saw someone was consistently eating very little I might PM the person, but probably not. I'm not anyone's mother. The only thing that would likely make me delete someone was if he or she publicly criticized what I ate. That would annoy me. I know if I have screwed up.0 -
You can add me and I will totally support you. I don't think it's a bad thing at all to want some supportive motivation. I won't be rude or anything towards what you've eaten, but if you want my concern at eating too few or too many calories, I can do that. I don't generally add anyone (the proof is my only 1 friend, which is a support group just like your asking for), so I will definitely be able to check your stuff out and offer my opinion. 0
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Today I ate very little. Only about 400 calories I woke up VERY late and wasn't hungry because I went to the fair this week. I ate calorie ridden foods (candy apple, bowl of nacho cheese, lemonade, ice cream, fried dough) and walked around a lot, chased my fitness instructors 4 year old around, climbed on suspended rides and in the consent G force gravitational pull from rides where you could barely move !
Before I had a 600 calorie muffin, there were people saying "great job, good day" etc.
I don't want that ! I want "hope you're okay ! Get something to eat before bed" etc.
To everyone saying that OP is an adult and it's her responsibility blah blah blah... I think she knows that. I took her post as simply wanting people on her friends list who actually pay attention. There's nothing wrong with that.
Feel free to friend me, OP. I do my best to actually look at diaries before commenting.0 -
I understand where you are coming from. It isn't really supportive to say "Great job!" when someone is drastically under their goal for the day. I think you are looking for someone who won't just do that automatically, without checking your diary. It makes sense.
On the other hand, I've unfriended an otherwise nice person because he was Diary Stalking on a daily basis. If I went 80 cals over one day, "Oh darn, it was the cheese slice that put you over. Message me for food tips!" On the surface, it was very supportive, but it felt...off. I tried to let him know that I wasn't being strict with myself, and that being within 80 cals of my goal was just fine with me, that I was paying more attention to exercise and controlling my sodium intake, etc. But he kept at it.
Now, most of my friends here are also friends in real life, or seem pretty grounded about what constitutes support. So, when my BFF said to me "Do you survive on nothing but Luna bars and breakfast sandwiches?!" I took it as support, not judgement. Turns out, her phone was only displaying my first 3 meals of the day, which was a pre-workout snack, breakfast, and a mid-morning snack. Lol, I'm eating just fine, really!0 -
Personally for me...I too would love to have someone check out my diary. I am just starting my weightloss and am struggling getting in my calories. Today, I only have 600 calories. If I had someone to help suggest food to help bulk up my calories that would be helpful. Instead of getting a good job or you need more calories.0
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Youobviously know you didn't eat enough and what you should have done to correct it (eat), why do you need someone to tell you what you clearly already know. I'll generally only comment on someone's food intake or diary if they ask for specific feedback0
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Personally for me...I too would love to have someone check out my diary. I am just starting my weightloss and am struggling getting in my calories. Today, I only have 600 calories. If I had someone to help suggest food to help bulk up my calories that would be helpful. Instead of getting a good job or you need more calories.
Healthy fats: avocado, nuts, olive oil, coconut oil, butter, dark chocolate, peanut butter. Eat liquid calories if you need to.
You can easily get this info from the forums or google. Perhaps if you want specific feedback from your friends then send them a message or ask a question by posting on your news feed0 -
I read diaries but if you're going to sleep all day and eat stuff like you describe, how can anyone really help you? it is up to you at the end of the day. we can't make you do things.0
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I never read diaries, but if I knew you were only eating 400 calories frequently, as an ex anorexic, I'd probably delete you, because while I overcame it, I don't need triggers like that.0
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For me, when I see a low calorie diary I assume you are doing some crazy diet where you eat low calorie one day and high on other days. I see that a lot. I can't judge them, it's their choice and their body. I usually am too focused on ME to worry about what "diet" people are on this week. If i see a consistent diary of low calorie crappy food and lack of exercise, it leads me to believe that you aren't ready to lose weight or just are not motivated and you are hoping to lose weight by not eating much. I'm blunt, i might call you out. But it's not my job to motivate you. If you really want this, then it's you that has to make the right choice.0
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