How to eat well without support from spouse?

Don't push her. She'll come around like mine did.

Is she getting annoyed because of what you're eating, or because you're trying to get her to get with the program, too?

Is she big? I can't imagine why else she would resent your diet choices.

Explain to her that part of the reason you are doing this is so that you want to enjoy a long and healthy life with her.

Is she getting annoyed because of what you're eating, or because you're trying to get her to get with the program, too?

Because of my eating.

I'm confused by this, can you elaborate on how it manifests? Like, she makes her own meal, you make your own meal, and while you're eating she complains that she doesn't like the food that you're eating....? Like that?

Have you asked her why she is getting annoyed? Or more exactly - have you told her that you get the feeling that she is annoyed, and that you're wondering why?

Easy as 1,2,3.

1. Do your own shopping.
2. Do your own cooking.
3. Do your own eating.

Mightn't not be that easy. I'm thinking maybe they used to enjoy dining out and now hubby doesn't want to?

I'm hoping the OP offers more info on exactly what is annoying his wife ~ at this point we'd just be jumping to an assumption that it's because he doesn't shop/cook.

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I have a similar "problem": my fiance is a great guy but not a great cook...or a cook at all, really. He can maybe make an egg is what I'm trying to say So I'm the cook and completely control our meals. He is concurrently amazingly compliant and blessedly willing to try just about anything: kale, tofu, soups, curries, the man isn't picky at all. BUT: he will not be more active at all. No exercising, no walks/jogs together, no classes, no nothing. We own a pretty expensive elliptical: I'm the only one who uses it.

I know the immediate response most will give, and you're right: one's fitness is up to oneself, you can accomplish a lot on your own regardless of what your partner does--or does not--do. But a support structure at home *would* be nice, wouldn't it?

Regarding meals together, though: compromise can be best. Perhaps you can have your own breakfasts/lunches, and share a (somewhat less healthy) meal for dinner that she likes, but keep careful watch of your own portion of it. And/or: if you're also playing chef, you really can modify many recipes in ways that will satisfy "conventional" taste while also fulfilling your healthier nutritional needs. I make my fiance mac and cheese using pureed fall squash mixed with almond milk, garlic powder, and some salt and pepper...there isn't actually any cheese in it, and he couldn't care less. Maybe I'll tell him some day...maybe...

Find recipes for things like you used to eat - pizza, fried chicken, burgers, macaroni and cheese, etcetera - that are healthier. Cauliflower or whole wheat crust pizzas; panko breaded chicken; lean meats with the fat squished out, or turkey or bison burgers; soy or fat free cheeses. Anything that tastes and looks the same, but is actually healthy. She'll feel like you're back on her side and no longer disrupting the standard ecosystem; you'll be eating healthily and helping her health, too.

My husband wasn't into the healthy eating thing either, but I cooked healthy things that he likes, and the problem resolved itself over time.

My other half is similar. "Where's the chips" is his usual reaction to a healthy dinner! I just cook separately for myself now, sometimes will make enough for two days in a row, however I will try and fuse our different meals over time - he could do with eating more healthy too!

Well, I think it's kind of understandable that she'd be annoyed that you've suddenly turned the family's eating habits upside down and are taking her along for the ride whether she likes it or not, especially if it makes things more complicated or difficult. Perhaps she needs a bit more of a transition - find ways to eat out occasionally still and just learn to order more healthfully, find healthier take-out alternatives, and find ways to make healthy meals that you can both enjoy. What did you cook before? What are you cooking now? What does she like to eat? Can you find healthier ways to make her favorite foods, or to get her involved in cooking with you?

Treat her like a child, you say "If I make the food you will eat what I made", nobody got time to be making everyone separate meals (unless its a medical need)..if she dont like it then let her see what she eats.

Hope this wasn't serious.

My hubby isn't quite there yet, and not sure he ever will be - I make some healthy options for him, he makes what he wants on other nights. Sometimes, there isn't an easy way out but maybe talking will find a happy medium somewhere.

Easy as 1,2,3.

1. Do your own shopping.
2. Do your own cooking.
3. Do your own eating.

Mightn't not be that easy. I'm thinking maybe they used to enjoy dining out and now hubby doesn't want to?

I'm hoping the OP offers more info on exactly what is annoying his wife ~ at this point we'd just be jumping to an assumption that it's because he doesn't shop/cook.

You are pretty much on the right track. We used to go out a lot, get pizza, grab a few beers, desserts, etc. Also, at home we ate like crap a lot of the time too (hence why I'm on this site!). Now I'm eating healthy and she's not all in. We have busy lives so it's hard to make separate meals. Also I did a lot of the cooking in the past so now I'm making healthy meals.

Unfortunately.... this looks like a maturity issue. Sometimes it takes a health scare to bring some people around.

I would just keep doing what you're doing, be nice but don't apologize for choosing health, and hope she will come around.