20-something 'big girl' with dreams larger than my butt.

heypeachy
heypeachy Posts: 5
in Introduce Yourself
"Melissa? Hmmm...Melissa. No, I dont know who you're talking about. What does she look like?"

"Melissa, the heavy-set girl."

"Ooooh, Melissa!"

Melissa wasn't the blonde girl, the chick with the quick wit, the one who was good with her patients...not even the girl with the bright green stethoscope and the sparkly nametag holder. She's the big, chubby, large, full-figured, hefty one that slunks around the hospital with the fake grin...perpetually attempting to cloak her spare tire with her mens 3x lab jacket that's still just a teensy bit too snug.
Yup, that's me. Melissa. Not only is 'big girl' the only description that will render a notion of who I am to my acquaintances; I'm a fetish, a commodity, a last resort at closing time. That's how the universe views a woman with more padding than your average super model. However, I can't say that I'm angry about it. I certainly don't see myself as these things, nor do my close friends and family. I know there is much more to me than fat, and I was born ready to shed my layers and give people a chance to see the girl under this extra weight.

So yes, if you've ever been the big girl (or big guy), or even if you haven't, send me a friend request and a message. Let's quit lamenting and take some action to improve our lives!

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  • Harborjay
    Harborjay Posts: 26
    That's probably one of the best intros I've read in a while... welcome to MFP.
  • Darrelkun
    Darrelkun Posts: 152 Member
    Truly beautiful introduction! I'm glad you sent me a friend request. <3

    So you work in a hospital? I wanted to work in a hospital, but I've been rejected by two so far. Got a BS in Biology and I really want to go into stem cell research, but working in a lab would make me super happy!
  • lmlmrn
    lmlmrn Posts: 788 Member
    Welcome Melissa! So glad you are here :happy: I am sure you will find, as I have, a very supportive community of guys and gals!
  • ATCritch
    ATCritch Posts: 20 Member
    Awesome intro! Feel free to add me for further support!
  • eringetsfit
    eringetsfit Posts: 20 Member
    You've got a great attitude, i loved your introduction! Hope we can help motivate each other!
  • heypeachy
    heypeachy Posts: 5
    Truly beautiful introduction! I'm glad you sent me a friend request. <3

    So you work in a hospital? I wanted to work in a hospital, but I've been rejected by two so far. Got a BS in Biology and I really want to go into stem cell research, but working in a lab would make me super happy!
    cc

    Darrelkun, I read your intro before posting this and the part about walking through campus behind your friends seemed like a page out of my own story. I remember I signed up for a chicago history class in which we toured some major landmarks in the city. On one fieldtrip, our bus dropped us off at the wrong stop about 1.5 miles from our destination...and to make matters worse, it was the hottest day of the summer. Keeping up with the rolling pace of my classmates left me exhausted, breathless, red faced and in pain. I was so mortified when I finally caught up with the group as they were boarding the tour boat...everyone asked me if I was okay because I was breathing so hard and my face was beet red. Ill probably always remember that day and how awful it was in every imaginable way.
  • heypeachy
    heypeachy Posts: 5
    Oh, and dont get discouraged if you dont get into a hospital right away. Health care field jobs are getting just as hard to land as any other job these days :/
  • Darrelkun
    Darrelkun Posts: 152 Member
    Truly beautiful introduction! I'm glad you sent me a friend request. <3

    So you work in a hospital? I wanted to work in a hospital, but I've been rejected by two so far. Got a BS in Biology and I really want to go into stem cell research, but working in a lab would make me super happy!
    cc

    Darrelkun, I read your intro before posting this and the part about walking through campus behind your friends seemed like a page out of my own story. I remember I signed up for a chicago history class in which we toured some major landmarks in the city. On one fieldtrip, our bus dropped us off at the wrong stop about 1.5 miles from our destination...and to make matters worse, it was the hottest day of the summer. Keeping up with the rolling pace of my classmates left me exhausted, breathless, red faced and in pain. I was so mortified when I finally caught up with the group as they were boarding the tour boat...everyone asked me if I was okay because I was breathing so hard and my face was beet red. Ill probably always remember that day and how awful it was in every imaginable way.

    Oh that's so sad. ; ; I know that embarrassment and shame. Nobody should have to go through with that.

    And thank you for the words of encouragement. :)
  • NikkiG_87
    NikkiG_87 Posts: 24
    Request Sent! Everyone else feel free to add me too, I'm 24 and trying to loose about 70 lbs.
  • x0_deano_0x
    x0_deano_0x Posts: 4
    hey that's a really good intro . i'm a bit the same.
    "deano? which one was he? "
    "the dude with the goatee, long hair . the bigger guy"
    "ohhh yeah he was nice"

    good luck with the weight loss i'm starting fresh today

    :D
  • shellsies93
    shellsies93 Posts: 88
    i'm with ya girl! in school I was always "that fat chick in the back of the class". The first time I sat in the front of the classroom some guys said I was too fat that he couldn't see the board so I always sit in the back..even now that i'm in college i'm too afraid that it will happen again!

    And i'm with everyone else, that was an amazing intro. We can do this! :)
  • robabob3
    robabob3 Posts: 79 Member
    Great Intro, I've always been the big guy and I'm getting a bit over it so I've decided to become the "fit" guy or the "ripped" guy instead it feels great to push yourself to change and realise your gonna achieve it.
    Anyone feel free to add me, Would love some more MFP friends, especially those that log everyday.
  • Jolie_K
    Jolie_K Posts: 38 Member
    Request sent! Like your attitude :)
  • AndyBloot
    AndyBloot Posts: 31
    I want to hit the 'like' button
  • Saoirse90
    Saoirse90 Posts: 12
    The way people have referred to you really strikes a chord with me- repressed childhood memories flooding back! You seem like you have a great attitude towards your goals! I'm hospital based too (med student!) and it does hurt when people judge your scrub size rather than skills. We are more than our weights :)
  • Nicola1944
    Nicola1944 Posts: 290 Member
    That's probably one of the best intros I've read in a while... welcome to MFP.

    Agreed! :-)

    Welcome!!

    Brilliant Intro!

    Good luck with your dreams! X
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    Love your intro :) Welcome to MFP! Sending you a request
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Sending an FR...great intro!
  • Maxbert_SA
    Maxbert_SA Posts: 21 Member
    Brilliant intro - good for you.

    I got Max, the fat bloke who tells jokes all the time.

    Oh well, I'll soon just be "that funny guy, Max".
  • derhz
    derhz Posts: 6
    What a beautiful post! Definitely adding you! Lets reach our dreams together!
  • TLB86
    TLB86 Posts: 275 Member
    Hell Yeah!! BRAVO!! *round of applause*

    The one I hated when young was 'it's puppy fat'.....YUCK!! Why refer to me as anything fat related? And can't people come up with something original other than just 'hey fatty'. If your so different then think of something different to say dude!

    I totally agree with everything you've said. To me I am the funny one, the quirky one, the one who you'd love if you just got to know me. It's just a shame I've got to 27 and only just beginning to let myself shine!

    Feel free to add I think your gutsey and great x
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
    Nothing wrong with a BIG BUTT
  • EasilyLed
    EasilyLed Posts: 23
    Yep, I've had that too, not 'the girl with the green top' not 'the girl with the really long hair' not 'the girl without glasses' but the big girl.

    I also work in a hospital, maybe people are more crass there!:laugh:
  • EasilyLed
    EasilyLed Posts: 23
    The way people have referred to you really strikes a chord with me- repressed childhood memories flooding back! You seem like you have a great attitude towards your goals! I'm hospital based too (med student!) and it does hurt when people judge your scrub size rather than skills. We are more than our weights :)

    What's really mortifying in my hospital is they don't put XL scrubs in the ladies changing rooms... just assume all girls are petite. So you have to send someone into the mens for some! else put in a special order!
  • BlueAngelChar
    BlueAngelChar Posts: 1,364 Member
    how you doing! I was you not so long ago and to be defined by something as insignificant as weight is maddening and its the fuel to my fire that I use every day when I feel like I can't be arsed or want to eat that whole cheesecake!

    fantastic intro and you are moving in the right direction by starting this journey so please feel free to add me as i'm an active friend and I understand because I was you not so long ago!

    People will always have opinions unfortunately its what we do with them and how we respond to them that sets us apart. I for one say "kiss my *kitten*" to people who judge me!

    welcome to mfp!
  • _Moose51_
    _Moose51_ Posts: 86
    I am right there with you kid, only difference is now I am the Big guy with the bald head. :)
  • schmimblebob
    schmimblebob Posts: 9
    She's the big, chubby, large, full-figured, hefty one that slunks around the hospital with the fake grin...perpetually attempting to cloak her spare tire with her mens 3x lab jacket that's still just a teensy bit too snug.

    Gawd I know how that feels. Not long before I started working where I am now, another large girl (larger than me) had started there too, prompting this comment from a colleague: "What, are we starting a roly poly club?". Fairly harmless, but teamed with one from another colleague ("She'll never lose weight"), another one who is coincidentally now my best friend (the first thing she said to me was "I'm fatist") and having to wear different scrubs (I got put into a different colour to all my colleagues - apparently not because of my size but because they were all going to switch to that colour - three years on and they never have) making me stick out like a sore thumb.
    I'm a fetish, a commodity, a last resort at closing time. That's how the universe views a woman with more padding than your average super model.

    Put it in one! I hate it. Let's do it and prove there's more to us than just bigness!
  • Callie_Wallie_Woo
    Callie_Wallie_Woo Posts: 29 Member
    Well said chick! :o)

    Adding you!

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