A wedding should be motivating right?

A wedding can also be very stressful. It raises all kinds of expectations of the "perfect" day, etc. I would try to set up a program that will assist you in losing weight and getting healthy on and beyond the wedding day.

You have a pretty face and at only 20 pounds overweight I'm sure you'd look fine today. 20 pounds between now and December 18 is totally doable -- if you really want it. But there's no shame in not wanting to drive yourself crazy for one day that is hyped. Just make a decision.

Hi! Congratulations on your engagement!

I'm getting married in February. We live on the west coast but are getting married on the east coast so we gave ourselves a nice long 15 month engagement to get ready. Dress is bought, venue is booked, caterers are locked in, honeymoon in Hawaii is booked and paid for, and hotel/transportation is finalizing. One thing that got overlooked : me!

I've already wasted 9 months that I could have been working towards my wedding body, so now I have 170 days to lose the 30 pounds I'm hoping for - and to tone arms and back. I'd love to look stunning on my wedding day - and to feel confident during our beach honeymoon.

Wedding is definitely a big motivator and I'd love to keep in touch with you during your weight loss journey!

I'm getting married in March 2014. My sister just got married in June & I was the maid of honor...I thought that would be motivation enough to lose weight, but sadly I didn't. I really hope MY wedding will motivate me! I just don't want to look at my wedding pictures & think how fat I look. I do ok during the week & then the weekend comes & it's like all rules are out the window & I feel like I can just eat anything I want. I just need to find my motivation!!

We are set for a May 2014 wedding. I have a very big problem with long sighted goals, I think in the here and now, so first off planning 12 months in advance and having to wait is hard for me. . .but the weight loss is a challenge because I think I'll just slip this once, I got plenty of time.

However, I found the most amazing dress this weekend! It fit like a glove, as in: I haven't felt that skinny since long before having children. If it looks this good now, imagine 20 lbs less, or 40 lbs less. However, it's strapless, and my back needs work. . .so I know the only way to lose the fat in my arms and back are when I start losing all around. I am now newly motivated, having the dress picked out has me focused, THIS is how I will look, and it WILL be amazing.

As with Karaboo, my big thing is not looking fat in the pictures. I will NOT be the fat girl at my own wedding!

Sorry, but an event is the wrong motivation. That's why you can't do it. It doesn't matter. You want to look good for one day of your entire life. How deflating.

Why not instead plan to look good everyday for the rest of your life, and not just for some event? Now, to me, that's motivating. event driven weight loss and getting in shape is just so wrong from all angles. There is nothing in it for you. it's empty. You have to have higher level reasons for wanting to do something like that; real reasons that matter, in the long run...the very long run.

Congrats on your engagement. But, the motivation isn't there because it's not really a goal, per se. It's just another "check the box" item on your list of things to do. it's empty of any real substance.

I have to agree with this...it's so very true. I didn't get "motivated" and commit to anything until I got past the, "I want to look good for the summer by the pool" or "I want to look good for my reunion"..."going on vacation, gotta look good"...etc, etc., etc. While they may, on the surface appear to be valid reasons to get in shape, they really are hollow and it's just too easy to make excuses and not follow through. When I finally decided I just wanted to be a healthier and more fit me, that's when things really changed...no time line...just better today than I was yesterday. My suggestion would be to not focus so much on being some arbitrary weight by the time your wedding rolls around...just focus on being a better you than you are today...focus on your nutrition and your fitness and everything else tends to fall into place.