sharing diary

I am accountable to no one but myself -- and managed to meet (and exceed) my goals for weight and fitness without having people creeping through my food diary. I'm a pretty reasonable and well-educated adult who doesn't need the approval (or disapproval) of virtual strangers to keep me on track.
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This!

My diary is open to my friends. I know I don't eat right, but I also know I'm eating better than I have in the past. So far, I haven't received any negative feedback... it's all been encouraging and non-judgmental. What my friends are thinking without saying, if there is anything, is none of my business. If a friend's diary is open, I'll probably take a peek, mainly to see if they're eating something that sounds yummy and doable in my life. If their diary isn't open, maybe I'll just comment something like "Hey, good job logging!" or "Keep up the good work" or whatever.

This whole change in lifestyle thing is one time when it's okay to be "all about me." Do what works best for you, and be understanding that what works best for you may not be the best thing for your friends..

Mine's open to friends for only one reason: more eyes on me keeps me more accountable for both my food choices and logging every day. (But I don't expect my friends to read it!)

Whether a friend's diary is open is irrelevant to me. The ticker tells the story.

I don't really see the need unless a person is asking for specific advice to which that information would be relevant. If they are asking if they're eating the best sources of protein (or enough) or where they could work in more fiber or whatever, then being able to browse what they're already doing and their goals is helpful.

In general, their food diary does not impact my being able to offer support and encouragement or to accept such from them. I don't really care what they eat.

For the record, my diary is not open to the public (I don't really know why), but it is to friends. I cannot imagine why it would matter to them, but there it is. lol


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Food is a very personal thing for some people. I prefer being able to view diaries, but I don't get mad if I can't. I just won't comment on the diary entry if I can't view it (I don't want to accidentally support something unhealthy).

I like being able to read diaries mainly for food ideas. I tend to eat the same thing over and over, so it's nice seeing what other people are having.

THIS :drinker:

I think it is a personal decision to open your diary or not Personally, I choose to keep mine open, but don't expect a lot of comments from me if I can't see what your eating.

It doesn't bother me either way but if a friend's diary is closed I do suspect that they may be eating badly still but just less calories than they did.

I share mine as do most of my friends and I find the sharing gives me some new options on occasion. It's a complete personal choice but if your friends are complaining about not losing or saying things like they feel they should be losing more and not sharing their diary it's hard to help. I say just try and respect that they aren't comfortable with it and carry on.

I think it is up to the individual. I've met some really kind and supportive people here who have fantastic ideas about managing weight and increasing exercise, but my diary is mine. I delete most of my exercise entries off my wall, too because I’m just trying to track and meet my personal goals. Unless I have something to say about the exercise, I delete it. It’s no one’s business.

I do not friend people I do not like, but do I really know them? Do I report what I eat to my S.O.? Do I call my friends or my parents to tell them what I ate today? No. Why? Because I'm a grown up and I'm responsible for myself.

And when you have people here like the "Calories are NOT equal" person using her friends’ diary food choices to publicly attack people who do not 'eat clean' I have no desire to be cannon fodder for sadists. Did her friends know when they added her that she was going to look at their diaries to attack their eating habits? Probably not! (The OP's diary was set to private; I guess it's easier to judge others eating habits when you do not let anyone judge yours.)

Honestly, I rather not judge anyone on what they eat. Unless someone is struggling with a disease that is affected by certain foods (Celiac disease, Crohn's disease, IBS, uncontrolled Diabetes, etc) or just had weight loss surgery, I say eat your cake and lose weight, too!