Hey, Everyone! I'm new here and need to stay motivated!

I've actually been on here since Tuesday, but I just discovered this so I was going to introduce myself. I've started healthy habits(like exercise, trying to eat salads more than carbs, etc.), but I've always ended up binging and quitting exercise for weeks at a time. I've worked out twice this week, hoping to do more tonight and tomorrow and I've been under my calorie intake for the last couple days. Its a good feeling to reach your goals.

But I've got that feeling that I'm going to stop again and wait a couple weeks before going again. I really want to lose weight. I'm 205 lbs at 5'7", but I have a rather muscular build. I'm hoping to lose 30 lbs in whatever time it takes me; I'm not in too big of a hurry because I want it to STAY off.

My support system isn't that great. My mother once told me "you will never be skinny"(not that I want to be "skinny" per say, just thinner) and that I could probably just lose 15 lbs and be fine. When I tried to cut back on stuff she was never helpful and living at home during the summer was a bust on my healthier living goal. Now that I'm back at college, I'm trying again, and I'd like some motivation and people that would be willing to offer it. :)

Thank you!

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  • asimmons221
    asimmons221 Posts: 294 Member
    I know the feeling bro, I'll toss you an ad.
  • trogalicious
    trogalicious Posts: 4,584 Member
    Here are a few tips that might help out. I've picked up some stuff along the way and keep it readily available for these posts.

    Here ya go:


    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/
    Take the tips, links, and info above and make the cart more manageable to stay on.
  • Wow! Thank you very much! This was extremely helpful.
  • I really appreciate your candor! Thank you so much because I found myself in a lot of the things you mentioned. Trying to keep it real as I do change my way of life, my way of eating!
  • Triciad811
    Triciad811 Posts: 268 Member
    There is a ton of support and inspiration at your fingertips here. I am a pretty good cheer leader if you want to add me.
  • Oh boy, I can relate to the poor support system, just stay focused, do what trogalicious said and remember, slow and steady wins the race.