Desperate cry for support

I was in your shoes this morning. I have been working really hard and I lost a grand total of .2 lb over the last week. As a matter of fact, it's the exact same weight I had after eating dinner last night, which makes me ao frustrated because I just knew for sure I'd have lost at least a pound this week.

But after my pity party, I decided that I wouldn't be dragged down and I was going to jump back in fighting!

Everyone has setbacks and everyone gets fed up from time to time, but you can do it, just stick with it and take it one day (or one hour!) at a time. Lots of love!

It is at times stressing for me on terms that I keep loosing weight but I barely see where it's coming from and even though I have lost 38 lbs the BMI still says I'm majorly obese.. I have another 58 lbs to go before I'm even considered overweight... It sucks and it's depressing knowing I've been working so hard for weeks and still being considered fat.

People are still looking at me like I'm overweight when I walk and I am self consicious.. but what helps me to keep going?

I remember, I'm doing it for myself, not to be beautiful for others, I'm doing it so I can be healthy, walk farther and enjoy a more healthy and normal life. It's more about how you feel than how you look.. and even though I am still majorly overweight I have more energy and I realize that even though it's going to take forever.. even a year to get down to "slightly overweight" and lower, it can happen if I keep to it and each day that goes by I am stronger and healthier for it.

I have been there done that, and dont care to go through it again.. All I can say is dont give up, realize that its only you that can make yourself happy, and you have come so far, a thirty pound loss is GREAT!!!!!, I lost that much and regretted when I gained it back, so just breathe and say to yourself you can do it and find your own happiness.

Yes I have been depressed and wanted to give up but I was almost 200lbs. You can't give up. You lost 30 lbs and thats great, you can do it. You don't need to lose weight or get fit for anyone but you. Specially not for someone who hurts you. Whoever that person is, well as hard as it may be you have to just ignore their lack of support. This is when you need something like MFP. Your friends here can be your support.

Please don't give up. Keep doing what your doing until you get where you need you to be, health wise, emotionaly & mentally.

I'm not very good at being a motivational speaker but i hope this gives you a little encouragement.:flowerforyou:

Don't let someone else suck out your will to live.

Is it over a man?? You wrote "heartbroken, gut wrenched & soul crushed by someone who means so much to me" If a man broke your heart all I can say is in time you will get over him and the hurt will pass. If a friend disappointed you in someway don't have that discourage you. Everything always gets better in time. Don't give up on mfp!!! Get your body to the way you want it and then I promise you will feel soooo much better about yourself. The journey to get there can be hard at times but the end result is worth it. Keep at it, don't give up!!!!

Whoever this person is - don't let them cause you even more pain by giving up because of what they did. Think of how much better you feel physically after losing 30 lbs and keep going. It will get better. Everyone has days where they are feeling overwhelmed emotionally. Please don't let this derail you. You would only regret it later. But if you push through this for yourself, I promise you, you will feel so much better and be so proud of yourself! Hang in there and remember there are people there for you.

I love these answers! What wonderful, supportive MFP friends you have!! Wow!!!
The person who hurt you---that is their problem. So they carry some big bag of negativity around with them. Do not let them bring you into that bad atmosphere. You hang with us--read the positive responses on this site--learn new recipes--send out positive responses to other peoples' questions/statements. We can do this!! :drinker: (water)

Have you ever been so sad & discouraged that you just wanted to give up? I am so heartbroken, gut wrenched & soul crushed by someone who means so much to me. I am ready to give up on myself, quit MFP & gain back the 30 lbs I have lost so far. I am not sure why I am even trying anymore. Has anyone else felt as low as I do right now?

YES!! Right at this very moment!! .... To some extent .... I have a lot of stress that entered my life when my husband died just over 3 yrs ago (he was 49). I won't add to your issue by boring you with details, and I don't want you to get the wrong impression from what I'm about to say .... If I didn't have my faith in God I would have caved A LONG time ago!! My friends here on MFP are an invaluable source of support and encouragement, and I thank God for this blessing every day I log on here!! I can only tell you from a general point of view that you are here because you made a decision at some point that a NEW LIFE was not only wanted, but NEEDED!! And so the journey began!! Gaining back the 30lbs will definitely make you MORE MISERABLE .... And I know that you're crying out in desperation for someone to tell you what you should do ... To explain how you should get out of the brush and weeds along the side of the path, and back onto the dirt .... Hon, I wish that I could. But .... I can tell you that, even though I have no clue about the details of your stress ..... You are not alone! I'm not here to tell you that God is my way, but that He is THE way that I get through .... I AM SO BLESSED!! i'm not here to convert you if you're not a Christian, and I'm only putting out that disclaimer because what I want you to know is that if you need a new friend I'll be happy to be added to your list. You can also inbox me ... I'm a good listener.

I read your post this morning and have been thinking about you all day. I will tell you what a very wise person once told me when I was going through a heart-breaking, gut wrenching time in my life...

It wont always hurt this bad.

It is true. You are heart-broken right now but it will get better. Please please don't give up on yourself. However bad you feel now, you will feel worse if you give up hope. Regardless of what has happened, YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Take good care of yourself and know that we are here for you.

It wont always hurt this bad.

So true. I had heart sx, came back to my office of 18 years to be told it was closing and my department moving 4 hours away. I thought my life was over.......instead I got a job in a different dept and will be 1 mile from home. Thank God I didnt start eating all those brownies I cooked! I would be very unhappy if I undid all that work.

I felt that way earlier this week, and ever since it was resolved, I haven't exercised much. Your post is a reminder that I can do this, FOR ME!!!! And so can you! The world is not coming to an end. It may feel like it's crashing around you, but you can pick up the pieces and literally run with it! Good job on the 30 lbs! Keep it up and chin up!

The great thing about your post, is that, you KNOW you don't want to give up and that is why you asked for help and support. That is so awesome and brave! Most will just give up and hide, but you WANT to keep going and that is why you asked for help. :flowerforyou:

so heartbroken, gut wrenched & soul crushed by someone who means so much to me. I am ready to give up on myself, quit MFP & gain back the 30 lbs I have lost so far.

If you do give up on yourself, you've given someone else power over you and that's disloyal to your SELF. I am not dismissing what pain you may be feeling right now. We all have had that moment. But some say we can make pain be a teacher and this sounds like your time to experience that moment.

Just like when you're on your stationary bike and pushing so hard for those last five minutes ... feeling the burn ... the pain and the "omg, get me out of this" emotion, you remember to give that extra push. And the feeling you have afterwards: Accomplishment. Pride. Gratefulness to your SELF for not letting you down. This feeling can be had in all areas of your life.

You're clearly feeling the "burn" of this moment when someone let you down. Push through it, anyway, to get to the other side. It always gets better because of that age old theory: What comes up, goes down (and vice versa). Your "up" is headed your way very soon. And when it does, you'll be glad you didn't give up on yourself. That you still stuck it out and finished this "exercise" for the good of YOU.

Because you have the POWER to do that. No one can take that away, unless you let them. So don't let that happen.

Hang in there. Stick to it. Keep up all the hard work despite the burn you are feeling right now. Eventually, you'll see the results. And whomever you are referencing will no doubt be in the same place as today. YOU, however, will have moved on.

POWER is in you. Sending you best wishes ...