Negative Nancy Today

welcome to this site. It is a great site, there is alot of info, motivation and encouragement. Hang in there. Track your food and exercise daily, dont give up. If you dont give up you will eventually reach your goal it is those that give up that dont reach it. I too have alot of weight to lose, I have been on here for 3 months and have lost 27 lbs, it does work. You can do this. Feel free to add me as a friend

hi Tarran.....hey, your comment about no one looking like you at the gym, lol.........well, let me tell you, before you went to that gym recently, those same people looked just like you , only they have been going there for some time

Trust me,lol,,,,,,,,,,I know what you are talking about, lol....this is too funny, because they all know you re new, youre not there to make friends, you have an agenda, and youre focused........

KEEP GOING, and dont let any comments or looks take you out.......I weighed 341, lol. and I got on a tread mill, and I had exercise induced asthma, and I could only last 10 mins..........

8 months, 8 days later, Im 104 lbs lighter, can last 2 hours on the tread mill, and Im looking like the rest of the crowd there as well,,,,Im also now using the weight machines, ie, the bi and tri flex equipment

we all know you gotta start somewheres.........

heavy people BELONG in a gym............

How do you think all those hotties got that way? They werent born beautiful, they had to work on it

By working out like the rest of us, and staying focused.........


I know what you mean about those meds ,some of the side effects of anit depressents are weight gain

Keep staying focused, GO TO THE GYM............ and you will succeed..........

.I didnt let failure become an option in my life........Lloyd

put me down as a friend, Ill support you on your journey........

First off I want to say welcome to MFP!! This is a great site to use and everyone is so encouraging!! I just want to say that you can't expect immediate results but keep the mind set the your making a great change in the right direction!! Not only for yourself but for your baby because he/she will pick up on your healthy habits. You need to look at this as a life style change not a diet, when I first started on MFP I first started by changing my bad eating habits such as snacking and late night eating ( which is really bad for your body) it helps to start with starting small goals for yourself and getting rid of all the junk in the house!! Get your self easy to make healthy foods like fruits, veggies ect and just let your boyfriend do his thing but just ask him to not eat tempting things around you! After he sees your success and how great it makes you feel I bet he will be right there with you jumping on the healthy wagon this site can work because it keeps you accountable for what you do and I just love it!! Great luck on your journey!

I was in the same boat as you for a long time. I was never SKINNY, by any means, but I was never this big. I tried on my own for a long time and my weight would yo-yo like crazy. One year I'd be 185lbs, and the next 225, then the next 205....I never really had it under control. After I turned 30, things got even harder. There was no yo-yo, just a slow but consistent gain. It was at that point that I realized that I needed help. I asked my doctor for a referral to a nutritionist who helped me understand how to make healthy swap outs (whole grains, high pigment veggies, beans, etc). That worked a little bit, because I stopped growing, but I wasn't losing any weight. So I gave in and hired a registered dietitian who specializes in diabetic & heart disease prevention. She created a meal plan tailored just for me. She educated me on portion control, food science (nutrition in each food and how they work together), and even taught me how to cut the calories when eating at a restaurant! For me, it was time to admit to myself that I didn't know how to do it alone and I got some help...maybe that's an option for you too.

Oh, and for the record, I also hate going to the gym and having 2 skinny chics running beside me! :laugh:

My best advice to you would be is not to compare yourself to others and take it one day, one minute, or one second at a time! We are all so obsessed with what we should look like and that this person lost 40 lbs in 1 week and all of the other people at the gym are so skinny!! You don't know what their story is, maybe they were once overweight. Just relax, enjoy your baby and your boyfriend and try to be content. Listen to that little voice in the back of your mind that knows when you shouldn't be eating something - and take control. I think that's what happens - we give up control and justify the extra portion or the chocolate or whatever it is that we overindulge in. Don't be so hard on your self. Don't weigh yourself too much if it's a problem (like makes you feel depressed if it doesn't read right) It's just a number. Try not weighing for a month. Eat right. Exercise. Weigh again in one month - maybe it'll be a number you'll want to see!! If not, maybe you'll just feel better. Be kind to yourself. You deserve it!!!:flowerforyou:

I know the feeling! I was always way too self-concious to go to the gym because everytime I did go, I was the biggest person there! I was also put on antidepressants around this time and I gained about 20lbs. Talk about kicking me while I'm down...that's what it felt like! I was so uncomfortable and ashamed. Then while we were living in California (hubby is military), I decided, I don't care what people think when they see me at the gym. I had gotten so big that I stopped caring. I couldn't hide the fat, so I was forced to deal with it. You can imagine how low my self-esteem got living in California of all places!

So.....for 3 YEARS, I stuck with it. I went to the gym 5 days a week, never less than 2 hours a day. I would be there long after the other people who were there with me had left to go home. I lost a bit of weight, but then it ALL stopped. I just stayed at about 165 (I'm 5'2"). For 2 more years, religiously, I went 5x week, 2hrs/day....for 2 WHOLE YEARS! Without seeing a POUND lost. Talk about demoralizing.

Everyone around me kept asking, why bother, what makes me keep going if I'm not losing anything for all my efforts. Granted, I felt the same way. What I realized was that I kept going because it made me feel better. I learned to accept the fact that I may be fat all my life, but going to the gym & working out made me feel good. There was such a difference when I didn't work out, I felt even more terrible about myself. So....that's what kept me going. Plus, I was stronger and healthier when I was going to the gym.

Now that I joined MFP I have been seeing results like I have NEVER seen before IN MY LIFE. I joined @ the beginning of August and have lost just over 16lbs so far. This community of people has made a huge difference as well. As I'm sure you will see. It also has more tools at your disposal than anything I've ever tried before. I hope you keep your head up, stay focused, and see a change. It may take longer than others, I've been there myself...but it gets better! One last note I'd like to make....I read this from another MFP user who found it in an article (wish I could remember who), it's not word for word but you'd get the gist....

Many people get discouraged when they see a lack or halt of progress....not realizing that hurdle is just a step before the goal line. They feel stuck on the 1-yardline and don't know that if they had just stuck with it a little while longer, they would have broken through that yardline and overcome that barrier to reach their goal....progress was at their fingertips, but they gave up 2 seconds too soon!

I hope you're able to find the support & motivation here with MFP that will help you break through this barrier & achieve your goals! Best of luck to you! (And now there's my long post, ha ha) :flowerforyou:

It took me three months to lose 2lbs..but now that my body knows what it's suppose to do, i'm hoping it'll just shed fat like bad skin...but just because i've only lost 2lbs doesn't mean i'm going to give up...i feel great! my chest doesn't feel like it's caving in anymore when i sit on the bike...i can actually carry on a converstation now while doing cardio instead of panting and nodding...my pants are a little loose, and i'm smiling a lot more...and remember...those people in the gym are more focused on themselves than you...i get those snotty looks like "what are you doing here" but clearly there's a reason why i'm here...don't let the little snot bags intimidate you, you're there for a reason...not to be seen, but to make yourself feel better. It took me three years to gain all my weight, it's going to take at least that to lose it. You took 2 big steps, you joined MFP and you joined a gym...watch what you eat and burn some calories...that's all it really takes...good luck! keep us posted! i know it's hard to stay motivated, but that's the key component to losing weight.

I know it's hard but don't expect results right away. As for your depression you can use working out as a great way to boost your mood. It also helps you sleep better, most people quit sooner because of not seeing results. Their are more results of working out and watching what you eat besides weight loss. You sleep better, you feel better (even when sore), you gain more energy... ect
Don't focus on the pounds right away it takes your body atleast 6 weeks to get adjusted to a workout routine (make sure you switch it up so your body doesn't become accustomed to the same thing) Set up a workout schedule 3-4 days a week of some butt kicking sweat sessions. Drink your water everyday don't make too drastic of changes that you won't be able to keep them up. I think everyone just needs to write down their food for a day or two just to see what they are typically eating before they go cutting calories. Too many times people cut their calories too low. If on a typical day your eating 3000 calories ( you'd be surprised at how fast calories rack up in a day) and you cut your calories to 2000 a day you would lose weight then after some weight loss you then drop your calories down another 200 (not everyone should eat 1200 calories a day. You can do it but you must remember it takes time. As far as your eating dinner thats great if you can stick to chicken every night but realisticly that will get boring. Each the dinner that was cooked but put it on a smaller plate and only eat 1 plate and not over flow the plate with food either. Its all about portion control/ Calories, exercise, water.

Pesto sauce + fish+ rice= changed my life!

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