Binging on nts with access to food

It's a tough situation, but it sounds to me as though you could solve it with a little self discipline, momotivation and self control. Find another habit that you can replace eating in bed with. When you're laying in bed and thinking of food, do something else. Distract yourself. And most of all, remain motivated, know your goal and work towards it.

Life is one big fat solid temptation, so it's up to you to control your urges. Do not deny yourself ALL treats, but reward yourself with a little something when you deserve it, so you don't feel deprived. If you really can not learn to moderate your night time binging, I would suggest that you have the gf lock up the food at night, but seriously, as a grown man you should be able to say that's not mine, it is for the kids. My husband eats entirely different food than I do. I can't say it never tempts me, or that I don't threaten him with his life if he doesn't give me a bite of that cinnamon roll, but I know if I have the cinnamon roll, I am going to have to sacrifice food that will fill me more and be healthier before me, and the scale will probably show me where that goody went.

I agree that it's a tough situation. However, here are my thoughts. I have 2 kids as well and while I encourage healthy eating, I do have some unhealthy snacks around that could be a temptation for me. I make sure I stock up on healthy snacks for me, so I have something readily available should the nighttime munchies set in.

I always keep cut up raw veggies in the fridge as well as a variety of fruits. If I get the munchies, I make myself eat the veggies first. If I am still hungry, and craving sweet or salty, then I allow myself some of the junkier foods. Also, get it out of your head that you are on a diet. This is a lifestyle change that will be with you forever.

Don't deprive yourself of the stuff you like - just eat it in moderation (after you snack on the healthy options). I usually find that the raw veggies fill me up and there is no need for the other stuff. Good luck.

if you restrict food too much, you will binge. It's not weakness, it's a basic human survival response. Everyone goes on about "starvation mode" (hate that term!) In relation to metabolism slowing....but long before anything like adaptive thermogenesis kicks in, various behavioural responses that evolved to stop you starving to death, kick in, such as obsessing about food and binge eating. These responses make sense in a palaeolithic food shortage, because it means you'll spend a lot more time and effort in finding foods, and when you find them you'll eat it all before anyone else can. These responses evolved before humans had enough mental abilities to plan ahead and know how much they should eat. They kept our ancestors alive... but if you're trying to lose fat, they will really screw up your efforts. So the solution is to eat enough that these survival responses don't kick in.

Your strategy of having no food in your house, so you can't binge, is not a long term solution, because as soon as you're somewhere where there is food, it all breaks down. You have to live in a world that's full of food, including food that it's very easy to overeat on, so you're going to have to learn how to eat to lose fat without depriving your body to the point that the binge eating and food obsessing responses kick in. In other words, you need to eat more the rest of the time, make your deficit smaller, fit all the foods you want to eat into your eating plan, while maintaining a moderate deficit. Eat enough to feel satisfied and not want to binge, but still less than you burn off so you can lose fat. It may take a little trial and error to find the right number of calories to do this. Doing more exercise may help as this will enable you to eat more while still eating less than you burn off.

Also remember that this is about the rest of your life. It doesn't matter if you're losing fat more slowly as a result of following the above advice.... what matters is that when that fat's gone, it doesn't come back. Long term sustainability is far more important than how quickly you lose the fat. People who lose fat slowly and sustainably generally have a much easier time maintaining and are less likely to regain fat.

ALSO... you buy no food for your flat then rock up at hers and eat ALL the kids' goodies 5 nights a week. That their Mum paid for? Then complain at her for buying them and expect HER CHILDREN to go without? wtaf....

If you cooked and ate at your own place... that would help. You wouldn't be so hungry that you turn up and binge at hers. Buy your own food for her house, too.

My top tip for you to deal with temptation is to stop blaming everyone else for what YOU put in YOUR mouth. Own it.

I just wanted to comment that I don't think you can save up calories for future use. Your body does not have a calorie savings account. I am almost positive it does not work like that. Sure, it may help your weight loss immediately but if you overindulge on vacation, eating weeks worth of food in one week, I would think that you are probably going to gain weight.

Night time eating used to be one of my vices too. I slowly got control of it though, it really is a case of mind over matter. When I wanted to eat I would exercise, not anything too strenuous mind, maybe a couple of sets of squats or some yoga positions, just enough to release those endorphins. I would then feel proud that I worked out, not want to spoil it by binging and also fall asleep easier. It takes time love but you WILL get there xx

My partner is a chef so you can imagine the temptation, got to work on that will power!

Good luck with your journey xx

Sounds to me like you're just bored. Do you always take so long to go to sleep? I mean, I know that to-sleep time is pretty much one of super powers, but it has to be boring to lay there for like 30 minutes + each night. I can totally see how you would just cycle your brain over and over until you get up and eat.

1) Stop staying over there so much for now.
2) Save some calories to eat a small treat right before bed.
3) Try to find out why you don't sleep easily and address it.
4) Stay up later until you're actually ready to sleep. If you're a napper (I love them) you might consider dropping them for a bit.
5) Bring less calorie-rich treats to your girlfriend's.
6) Suck it up and stop eating at night. Continuing the behavior only encourages your body to want food late at night. Communicate to everyone that you're going to gremlin until you get your cravings out of control and you won't eat ANYTHING after 8:00 pm.

It's not a matter of can you correct this behavior. It's a very simple matter of WILL you.

Have you tried brushing your teeth really well, flossing and using mouth wash right before bed? Spending 10 minutes on your oral care at night might make it less likely for you to get up and eat again after having such squeaky clean teeth!

Good luck...

Good suggestion, I never want to eat when i brush my teeth, makes me want to cringe! x

I get you it don't like tough love or to be criticized but you keep asking for help on here and unfortunately life isn't all rainbows and unicorns. Part of being an adult is that your mommy doesn't hold your hand anymore and make the bad people go away. If you want to change, then change. Put on your big boy pants, grow up and take responsibility for yourself. If you truly want to lose weight, you'll do it. If you don't want to make the commitment right now, that's fine. It's not anyone's fault or problem than your own. No one makes you get up and stuff your face with your girlfriend's food. That's all you. You make the choice to do it.

Also, you can't stockpile calories for a trip a month away. Some people work on a weekly budget rather than daily but that's about as far as it goes. It isn't a layaway plan for Xmas. With your problems with food I'd work on an hourly goal rather than trying to plan for something weeks away.

ETA: From looking at your diary it looks like you play with the numbers as well. How did you eat a -356 calorie snack so you didn't go into the red? You're also eating every single calorie of exercise so that your diary balances out at even or just one calorie under. I'd suggest you have some serious mental issues surrounding food and the control of it. Maybe some counseling to deal with that would be in order first.

People make choices and who we are is defined by those choices. At the end of the day no matter where you are or who you are with you have become what you have chosen to be. Of course it is not quit as simple as the choice because temptation will always be there. But the end result is still the same. Your body, your choice, your responsibility. When you succeed at weight loss thank those who helped you. When or if you fail, suck it up and tough it out and take the blame, then start over. Twice in my life I weighed over 350 lbs. This is the second time I have been down to 200 lbs. and I'm surrounded by food all the time. Not easy, nothing you really want bad enough is easy. If my reply sounded crass or condescending I apologize, but I have found that intellectual honesty with oneself is your best tool. I think a little of that will help you out.

I'm still trying to figure out how you're saving exercise calories. What are you talking about? Are you saying that you exercise now and burn X calories and you want to 'save' those calories so that you can binge on your cruise instead of now?

Tell her to put the junk food in a special storage container, lock it, and put it away so that you won't be tempted.

For any goal you set, the largest contributing factor is your mindset.
If your goal is to loose weight and live healthy, these are the priorities in order which I learned from several people, many of which are pros.
Including nutritionists, bodybuilders and strongmen.

1) MIND SET
2) Proper nutrition
3) Exercise

You can bust you *kitten* in the gym all you want, but if the nutrition isn't right, it is all for not.

I would look into a proper diet, and I am not using the word diet as many people use it saying "I'm on a diet". Everybody is on a diet, a diet is what you eat.

If you are eating the correct foods and the proper amount of calories for your body weight and activity level you will have less craving to binge.

When you eat nutritionally dense foods and the proper amount, you will be surprised at how satiate you will be.

If you don't already know, learn the difference between good and bad carbs and when you should eat them.

And you can NOT save up calories for the future.
Do your best and when you take your trip, don't worry about it and get back on track afterwards.