I'm going speed dating soon - any tips?

FeelingLessChubby
FeelingLessChubby Posts: 152 Member
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Looking for words of wisdom from people who have been there, done that! :laugh:

I'm not exactly a rookie, I've done some online dating and the usual blind dating etc. But it'll be my first time at speed dating.

I expect to be asked and to ask the same questions over and over again (what do you do, why are you here etc). Other than that, I haven't got a clue what it's like. I've chosen a pretty upscale event - professionals only, dress code, at a classy venue, and champagne is included.

I'd be grateful if you would gimme advice and tell me your stories! :)

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  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    I didnt realize there is still speed dating available

    Id just sling together like 5 questions that are of the utmost importance to you... and go from there
  • grum84
    grum84 Posts: 428 Member
    I have done speed dating a couple of times in my past, with degrees of success. Main thing I think is like was said before, come up with a couple of OPEN ENDED questions that mean a lot to you. That way you can get at least a decent gage of the person

    So if you are big into pets, ask a questions about what they think about animals?
    If you love alcohol, ask if they drink and what they like.

    Main thing is to keep them open ended. Allows you to go down that track and get to know them more if you choose. Otherwise it just turns into an interview with yes and no.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    I didnt realize there is still speed dating available

    Id just sling together like 5 questions that are of the utmost importance to you... and go from there

    have never done it but would agree. these are things i personally would want to know and would make a difference for me; have a think about what matters to you/would make your life in partnership more comfortable.

    - introverted or extroverted (imp re lifestyle, preferred habits - this I think you can get just by asking straight out)
    - values (shorthand question: how do they vote & why)
    - misogyny index. includes not just feelings about women & equality, but whether or not they would genuinely do 50% of the housework <- important even if they vote the way i like. no idea how you figure this out in a speed dating context. 'excessively chivalrous' btw indicates old-school attitudes; if a guy *insists* on pulling my chair out or whatever *every time* and is *horrified* at any other way of me sitting down, it's a bad sign imo
    - favorite comedians, books, music, etc (cultural references, nice to share the same world), any of these
    - ability to compromise vs constant need to win/be right. don't know how you'd pinpoint this. anyone who interrupted me more than a certain % of the time would be a no, ditto 'teaching' me/lecturing.

    other stuff you can kind of guess at - intelligence, energy level (low-key vs intense), confidence - just by watching/listening (words, eyes, posture)
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    ask about their parents.... You can find a ton about people by the relationship with the parents
  • FeelingLessChubby
    FeelingLessChubby Posts: 152 Member
    Ah cool, so far so good :)

    I'll think of some open ended questions. Anything I shouldn't ask you think?
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Eh, just go by looks. That's all the men will be doing.


    I know, I know. Bitter, party of one...:bigsmile:
  • FeelingLessChubby
    FeelingLessChubby Posts: 152 Member
    :laugh: will keep that in mind! I have bought my very first sexy red dress of my ENTIRE LIFE to wear to this event. And red high heels. So I'm prepared for being visually judged :smokin:

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