Questions for the ladies...

prat27
prat27 Posts: 73
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Ladies....do most ladies agree or not agree "IN GENERAL", not as a whole or every single case, that men who tend to have perfect bodies and obsess over it are typically (AGAIN, not every case) less successful in other areas of their life. Meaning, their career and financial success is typically average or below and or struggle to meet basic responsibilities of life.

My wife read a study in some magazine showing evidence that this correlation definitely exist. The more successful a man is in his family and career the less vain they tend to be about their body. Not that they don't take care of themselves but are less vain and want a perfect body. The study showed this for 2 reasons...1) to compensate for the shortfalls in other areas of their life that they are not confident in trying to exhaust the same effort into improving (career, husband, father, etc) 2)there entire life they associate their personal identity in how their body looks to in order to attract attention to themselves.

My wife definitely agrees to this and I definitely consider myself balanced but I am more interested in sincere opinions from the ladies on here. I realize like anything else this relates to age and maturity and ladies interest in men change as they mature but I am very interested to hear the opinions.

Again, "In General" not the entire population of men who take care of themselves and have nice bodies...

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  • bethanytowell
    bethanytowell Posts: 256 Member
    I dont know about all men but I can speak for my husband. He is very carreer and financialy driven and has less concern for his health and fitness. That just what goes on in my household.
  • _Krys10_
    _Krys10_ Posts: 1,234 Member
    I can only speak for my case, my husband is very career and financially driven and he is very focused on health and fitness and same with a lot of friends of mine male and female.
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    What are you looking for opinions on? The "truthness" of this statement?
  • prat27
    prat27 Posts: 73
    its a study...not fact.. so yes I was asking for the ladies opinions of the results of the study
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    That's kind of a tough one IMHO. I wouldn't necessarily equate wanting to take care of one's health with vanity but this article seems to be doing that.

    In my office, there's a majority of guys who are successful and take care of their health as well with regular exercise. Not sure about diet for most of them but for the ones I see preparing food, they also watch what they eat and make healthy choices most of the time. The rest of the guys I know are blue collar workers that tend to have physical jobs which mostly gives them enough activity so they're in good shape but I have no idea what their diets are like.

    ETA: Now that I've re-read the OP, I think I misinterpreted it or overthought it. But I'm leaving my input anyway. :)
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I dont know if it's a proven fact, but the fat ones work the hardest
  • VelvetMorning
    VelvetMorning Posts: 398 Member
    I think younger successful men will still be concerned about their bodies.

    I think older successful men will be more concerned about their finances than a 6 pack. Personally, I'd assume most successful men are going to be older (40s+) and there aren't many men in general 40s+ who are lifting everyday, regardless of financial situation. It sounds like they just took a group of men and tried to correlate their wealth with fitness, when really its an age thing. IMO!
  • prat27
    prat27 Posts: 73
    that makes since to me I agree. I am 38 and consider my self successful and responsible and try to stay in shape. But no a 6 pack is not a concern to me
  • LishLash79
    LishLash79 Posts: 562 Member
    I think it varies and depends on the guy

    My husband is super career driven and works his butt off to get where hes going, and because of that, does not spend or have time to work out etc (unless its fixing a car or doing house hold repairs, but no weights etc) but he is super careful about what he eats. I should add we also have five kids, so this makes a huge difference too, when hes home, hes family driven .

    I wish he would lift, but he really just does not have the time.. So for him, its true, his priority is different then others. BUT, like I said, every Guy is different ;)
  • TribeHokie
    TribeHokie Posts: 711 Member
    Well the majority of guys I know are not very professionally or personally successful and none of them are focused on fitness or health. Between my two must successful guy friends, one has always been fit and is super active and the other lost well over 100 lbs within two years after we graduated college and has kept it off. So I guess in my own experience I would disagree with the findings of your study.
  • perfect_storm
    perfect_storm Posts: 326 Member
    I think it depends on the age, men in their 20's will probably try to do both while men in their 30' and 40's that I know are more interested in financial stability and professional success.
  • linznzeusfitnfight
    linznzeusfitnfight Posts: 39
    my ex husband was very driven in working out and in everything else. so from my experience this isnt true, but he was in his 20s...
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I've known very few men who were obsessive about their fitness, so I am far from an expert on this subject. However, the few I have known WERE extremely successful and driven/ambitious professionally.

    Most of the men I know are rather careless about their physique and/or health. It seems that their jobs often dictate their fitness. For example, office workers and IT guys tend to be over- or underweight and not very fit. Construction workers and such, rather fit but just because of their active jobs. Kind of sad really.

    My fiancé is not very ambitious or professionally successful, he makes enough to get along all right but is not materialistic whatsoever. To him, health and fitness IS a major priority. However I definitely wouldn't say he is obsessive, he doesn't even go to a gym. He just exercises and eats healthy food etc.
  • maggie16sweetxoxo
    maggie16sweetxoxo Posts: 314 Member
    I think ridiculously ripped men tend to be too focused on that perhaps making other sections of life suffer, but I think the #1 that suffers is their modesty/humbleness... I don't like super ripped guys anyway. I want a healthy, lean, intelligent, loving guy.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    my ex husband was very driven in working out and in everything else. so from my experience this isnt true, but he was in his 20s...

    doesn't this suggest that he wasn't as successful in the "family" area?
  • linznzeusfitnfight
    linznzeusfitnfight Posts: 39
    he was just a **** haha
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    its a study...not fact.. so yes I was asking for the ladies opinions of the results of the study

    My opinion is that the results of the study reflect the sample population accurately. Because, it's a study. Such studies usually are based out of a university and use local subjects, so I'm guessing geographic region has a big influence on the results. I would postulate that men in highly urban areas place more value on physical attributes and less on family values on average than do those from highly rural areas, from personal observation.

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