I'm thinking Therapy will be in my future!

Sweetheart, if you ever need someone to talk to just pm me.

Undoing the damage will bring up lots of feelings. Lots of pain, lots of loss. There will be lots of crying. You've endured and suffered so much, there's a lot of grieving you have to do and it won't be fun.

but it will be worth it. And it will end. It will end. And you can always pm me. I will always support you. K?

You're being incredibly brave, you've taken on something that's incredibly daunting, but try not to look at the big picture, you know? It's like climbing a cliff. Just don't look down. Focus on the bit of the cliff you're on, and just keep climbing. You can get there. One day at a time.

You CAN win. You CAN get there.

bxx.

Don't give up. You can do this. It will take time and dedication and a lot of blood seat and tears, but eventually you will get there. I have only just started on my own weight loss journey recently and have over 100lbs to lose. I know it pales in comparison to what you are wanting to lose, but I am willing to go on this journey together if you need motivation and support.
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Just make a plan, then do it......don't worry about it while you are doing it. At one time I was a very big guy........very big. I didn't even notice I lost all the weight until one day I woke up and seen myself different.

Being overweight, actually makes it easier to lose weight in the beginning. Just cut back on calories.....your body will get use to it and you will start dropping lbs off at a fast rate. Then walk.......and speed walk......then walk........any movement will encourage weight loss at first.

You can do it !

It's scary how your life changes when you lose weight. So much of your identity is based upon being larger (maybe you're the fun and good-natured friend, life of the party), but when you lose weight, this changes. 5 years ago I dropped 65 pounds (and pretty much maintained it). The changes were scary. All of the sudden, I wasn't invisible any longer. I started getting attention I didn't know how to deal with.

So, I stopped losing weight, even though I still had a lot to lose.

My therapist has always been a big help for me. She gives me the kick in the butt by saying, "if there's something you don't like about yourself, change it!"

Contact me if you want to chat more. This may be an unpopular statement, but you may want to consider weight loss surgery at some point in the future. Talk to your family doctor and see what he/she thinks and maybe sign yourself up for a weight loss seminar. Knowing lots of people who've gone through this (several in my office) it is NOT a quick fix and they are still overweight, just no where near how overweight they were before.

One more thing - I always hear things like "you won't change until you're ready to change." Smokers say they can't quit smoking until they're ready for it. The same goes for dieting. For the first time ever, I actually feel like I'm READY to change.

You are being strong by realizing what your fears are. The fact that you are trying to lose weight is a BIG step in the right direction. Your journey will not be easy but each day brings you closer to your goal. I felt ready to just give up on this battle but I kept going because I realized I'm not in a race, but take this weight loss one day at a time. If you feel like you need more personal support, there may be groups where you live with people that are feeling the same way as you do. I am one of your Fitness pal friends and face book friends. Don't hesitate to just PM me because I can relate to you. Stay strong and keep moving in the right direction!

Take it to god in prayer!!! he's all you need in this time of need.....I was the same way once.....I would lose a lil weight and then my old eating habits would creep back up on me.....I mean I still battle with food but now if I eat something bad I just work it off....but before I would just eat and sit on my behind lol.....one day I thought to myself....i'm gonna turn to my best friend for help and that's god......I got on my knees and I asked him to walk this journey with me and he's been on it with me ever since......I can even hear him talking to me when I say i'm gonna have a rest day....in my head i'll hear him say "get up and move" and I do just that......he's the only therapist you need and all it'll cost you is faith, love and the will to live....... god knows your strengths and your weaknesses even before we realize them ourselves......I promise you if you do this you won't regret it.....don't just pray you have to pray and believe......everything will work out for you ......god is love.

"Getting fit/healthy" is really about making a 'decision'. My guess, actually, is that it is really "decision-making" that you find challenging! Like any "skill-set", with practice, you'll get better-and-better at it.

So, as much as possible, practice making 'good decisions'. One after the other. After the other.

You won't be "perfect" - and you'll make some 'bad decisions' along the way.

Being a good-decision-maker will help you DECIDE what fitness/health/nutrition plan you REALLY want and then, I bet, you'll GO FOR IT!

Good luck to you!! Be kind to yourself...

Your thread title might have been facetious, but sometimes therapy really can be a valuable tool. If you are dealing with a lot of negativity and depression in your life, which it sounds like you might be, having someone to talk to honestly, especially a qualified mental health professional, can make a huge difference. Sometimes there's more to the root cause of weight gain than is always immediately obvious. It won't solve all your problems for you, but it can help guide you in the right direction to solving your problems for yourself.

And in terms of weight loss itself, like other people have said, just take it one day at a time! No one can commit to making the change for you except you, but if you need more friends, feel free to add me. I'm on here regularly, and have been for over two years. :flowerforyou:

Congrats to you for taking the huge step to talk about your desires and fears. I share many of your feelings--years of being the big girl wherever I go, and amazingly comfortable with that. What helped me was to take it slow, try not to think about losing weight, and focus on the new skills I was learning, like reading food labels, cooking beans and vegetables, and tofu!

I remodeled my kitchen with spices, and food containers for a variety of nuts, beans, rices, and seeds. I bought new cookbooks and spent time trying new recipes. These exciting changes made me feel good about eating and I started losing weight just by preparing my own food, and avoiding high fat proteins.

Please send me a friend request. I am happy to support you with encouragement. Best of luck to you.

Hello I am writing to who ever is listening. I feel like I can be as honest as I can around all you strangers (smile) I weigh 676 lbs. I am doing all that I can to lose weight, but I am starting to realize my problem. I jump on bored with losing weight I lose about 15 to 20 lbs I am excited but then something hit me and I fall to depression and start going back to old habits. Now I believe I am to comfortable being a big girl. I see myself losing weight but then I get scared and I have been losing inches lately and i see it in my stomach and my legs and I know your thinking UGH you should be happy. Well It depresses me because I have been over weight since i was a 3rd grader and I don't know anything different and the thought of me getting rid of 500lbs scares the crap out of me. I know I need to take one day at a time but I am scared. I honestly don't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to because no one understands my struggle. I am wanting to lose weight and I know I can but once I take 3 steps and move forward I take 10 steps back and say ugh no so if you or whoever reading this please help me stir me in the right direction. Please I don't need any negative comments I get enough of that from the people where i live and my father. Thanks for reading and listening

Hi - first, what do YOU want to do - remember i said "WANT", not "CAN" or "WISH". so go and do that. even if it is scary. ok when i saw that i had 100 to 200 pounds to lose i thought what the heck how am i going to accomplish that, i haven't been able to do that ever, but i decided i would do it, coincidentally i found mfp which is not a diet, but a way to count calories, like a budget, not being deprived, thats the worst part, being deprived. and its a way to eat the rest of your life. so that is the key. so when you lost 15 pounds, you gave up. you settled, but thats your mistake. you should have said ok, another day starts today. and start again. actaully do that tomorrow. yesterday is gone. You got depressed because nothing changed. you fell back into what was familiar. being fat is familiar to you. like an old friend. well now that im half way losing 50 pounds, wow. im halfway down to my weight when i was out dancing, when i was a new person, when i was feeling athletic.. that feels good. so now its easy. im excited to see the new me. so you should keep on. its not that hard here on mfp. yyeah you might not be able to eat pizza all the time. but you can have a slice once a week or so.

i dont think you like being a fat girl,,, do you? really do you? do you like lugging around all that poundage and not be able to walk? and fit on chairs? in restaurants? or at home? on the bus? walk aroujnd stores? its a bummer. i cant even lug 200 extra pounds on me. i bet its hell for you

so just try again. little goals. say you are going to try to lose 60 pounds and go for that.. dont think about losing 500 pounds.. thats too much!!! or go for 30. when you accomplish that, then go for another 30. it will build up

dont settle please. try again.. tomorrow is a new day. xsurely you dont wanna be a fat girl. i dont think you really want that.

Hi,

I feel your pain and sense that this is very scary for you. Part of losing weight has to do with identifying your feelings and emotions when you reach for that bag of Doritos, for example. I find that it helps me to stop and think before I eat something that has a lot of calories and will throw me off my goal.

I think that therapy would do you some good. They could help provide you with the tools to help you identify some behaviors and emotions that caused you to get to where you are. Most people are afraid to ask for help. KUDOS to you for recognizing that you could benefit from some help.

Logging is important. Make sure that you are eating enough calories per day. I know some people who only eat one meal a day. Try to eat 3 or 4 meals per day at least. You need to make small changes in order to succeed. You know, like a glass of milk instead of ice cream, a slice of bread instead of a cookie. Nothing big, just small adaptations. Allow yourself to have a snack per day.

Maybe try to make fitness goals instead of weight loss goals, i e, walk around the block twice a day, increase it next week. Don't even weigh yourself for a month or two. Focus on getting fit.

Lastly put your 3 top reasons for making these changes and tape it to your refrigerator to help remind you why you want this.

I believe in you and am ready to read your success story.

hi sweet heart, you are going in right direction, communication is the key to solving any issue. we can talk on MFP platform and trust me we are non judgemental. life is not an easy sail for you. its ok to keep talking and giving yourself time and pace. firstly my heartfelt congratulations for being so honest and brave to write all this. now smile honey and start afresh. you have the best reason in the world to do this and that is your daughter. start slowly, set realistic goals and keep increasing. but please no going back. you can do it, you will do it and trust me you will get where you want to be. just some dedication, devotion and determination. and lots of support from all MFP and lots of love and good luck from me. take care. God bless.