The Green Eyed Monster

Your good decision makes them feel guilty for reaching for that donut.

I haven't been through that yet, but you are doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong!! Losing eight pants sizes is something to be EXTREMELY proud of. Who cares what others think!! As long as you are proud of yourself, it doesn't matter what they say. I agree with aehenson, they are feeling the guilt!

You are doing nothing wrong! You are doing exactly what you need to do for you.

I've had similar reactions from people. I once worked in an office where I chose not to participate in "pot luck" lunches because it was too tempting for me. My supervisor accused me not being a team player and not fully supporting the efforts of our department. It seemed to me that I deserved the support of the team as much as anyone else, if we were in fact a team. The true irony is that most of the people in this office were overweight as well. I think they lashed out at me for doing the right thing for myself and they couldn't or wouldn't.

The other thing that comes to mind is that, for folks that don't have a weight problem, they don't get what it's like. I've battled a weight problem my entire life. My older brother has only in the last few years begun to put on extra weight. At age 50, he's learning about the challenges I've dealt with all my life. He told me recently that he had no idea how hard it was to deal with a weight problem.

All of that said may help explain the behavior of others, but it doesn't excuse it.
Keep doing what you're doing and congrats on your weight loss!!

Oh yeah, sure have. I had one person get really nasty with me insisting I was taking some kind of pills to lose weight. I don't speak to that person anymore. I didn't need the negativity or jealousy from them.

I worked hard and lost the weight by changing my eating habits and exercising, simple as that. It's so weird how people don't believe that actually works :huh:

Congrats on your success! You should be proud of yourself, you look amazing!

And I too had a friend who said I was "self absorbed" because I was talking about my progress and love working out.

Wow, some friend :frown: You keep on being "self absorbed" and working out! Obviously it's workin' for ya

I say enjoy your success! But make sure you are engaging in well rounded conversations. Meaning, people do get tired of talking about weightloss every single day at the lunch table. I've experienced first hand from someone who got the lapband. I want to be supportive but it would be nice if we talked about other things too.

So my advice is make sure you are still a good friend, listener, coworker, etc. And enjoy your success, you've earned it!!

BTW, my personal pet peeve is when we are still at the dinner table and the mobile app is on so my gf can log her calories. I'm like we are still eating! geez! LOL I log calories when I'm done with my food thank you very much.

Has anyone experienced "haters" since losing weight :devil: ? I have been called arrogant because I admit my excitement for losing eight pant sizes.. I am daily told that I am "too focused" on logging my food and watching what I eat. One person even told me that I rub my weight loss in people's faces when I refuse to take a donut from the office box stating that it is not worth the calories for me.

1. What am I doing so wrong?

2. Have you experienced this type of thing since losing weight?

Yeah I get put down a lot for my weight loss. I majorly get put down for not eating unhealthy food. I just say a little prayer that God makes them kinder and i go about my day.

We now live in a nation that is more than 60% overweight. I'm sure many of us work with a number of people who are making improper choices and living unhealthy lifestyles. I too have had to deal with the occasional, "just have one, one won't hurt" comments. I just smile, stand firm, and assume that when I'm given an attitude by someone they must be envious. Maybe in time they will come to you seeking advice instead of trying to sabotage you. Just hang in there! Eight pant sizes!!! Holy weight loss batman! That is outstanding! CONGRATS!

Ignore, ignore, ignore, they are upset that you are doing what they know they should be doing. You are doing great and you don't grief from anyone.

girl dont sweat it... people say an do things like that cause they are jealous of ur motivation and dedication...they want what u got....U no misery loves company..U are doin AWSOME!!!!!....keep up tha great work an BRUSH THEM HATERS OFF!!!!!

I first started losing weight back last Fall. At the time my parents were going threw a real hard time so I had moved back to the state and was currently living with them. It was my step-sliblings who were the green-eyed monsters. Mostly due to jealousy i assume. They went and told my parnets and no telling who esle that I was on meth. My parents of coarse knew better since I was living with them and saw the work and effort i put into my wieght loss.

8 sizes down is phenomenal:flowerforyou: Well done. That is amazing.
Jealousy is a nasty emotion. You should feel pity for the people who are saying these things to you.
And keep on with what you are doing, you are awesome.

i don't eat in the lunch room either...people think it's weird, but i just told them i REALLY like to read on my lunch breaks, and also it's easier to answer the phones (which i don't have to do on my break but it makes them happy, and it's sitting right next to me)...that way people don't pick apart what i'm eating, and i'm not tempted by their large amount of junk

I say enjoy your success! But make sure you are engaging in well rounded conversations. Meaning, people do get tired of talking about weightloss every single day at the lunch table. I've experienced first hand from someone who got the lapband. I want to be supportive but it would be nice if we talked about other things too.

So my advice is make sure you are still a good friend, listener, coworker, etc. And enjoy your success, you've earned it!!

BTW, my personal pet peeve is when we are still at the dinner table and the mobile app is on so my gf can log her calories. I'm like we are still eating! geez! LOL I log calories when I'm done with my food thank you very much.

Very good advice.

You could also try to use other excuses. Donuts give me heart burn, no one encourages me to eat stuff that makes me hurt. "I really, really, wish I could eat that but since I developed, [insert life threatening, debilitating, illness] I just can't do it." Who tells a diabetic to eat sugar?