Loosing Weight to Have a Baby?

Trying to conceive is what brought me back to MFP. I am ready to be a mom. I've been married for 4 years and we are excited for parenthood. Ladies feel free to add me, as I'm in the same boat. Getting healthy to have a healthy baby.

I'm 34 and my husband is 45 we have been married for 3 1/2 years and we have just found out that we cant have kids naturally so we are starting IVF in the coming weeks. I have to learn to give my self needles, I hate needles. but really really want a baby..

I need to lose weight and so far its been slow (9 kgs or just shy of 20lbs in 3 months) . But atleast its coming off. Im still classed as obese but hopefully have made enough changes to my eating habits that if I can fall pregnant that I can continue to be healthy during pregnancy.

I wish all you ladies all the best with your dreams of becoming a mum.. x

Try while you're losing weight. As long as you're being healthy, and dieting appropriately...your baby will be fine.

We're attempting to get pregnant with baby #2. I'm still carrying around 30 lbs from my first pregnancy and I know that it's an issue for me (I have PCOS - fact that losing the weight will help). But I understand the fighting your age too - I'm 34 and my hubby is 41 so we're running out of time. But even a small loss can help!

So you're going to lose weight before you get all big and pregnant?

Some of us can't get "big and pregnant" without losing the weight. I have PCOS (a hormone imbalance) - it took 2 years to get pregnant with our first baby - nothing worked until I lost a bit of weight.

So you're going to lose weight before you get all big and pregnant?

There's a difference. Baby bumps are more defined on a healthy body and "look" pregnant

Extra body fat increases estrogen levels and when hormone levels get too out of balance it can cause infertility. Have you seen that episode of "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" where the woman got pregnant while losing weight and didn't even know it? She had been so far overweight she wasn't ovulating and menstruating anymore. As she lost weight, her body was able to ovulate for the first time in years and, since she was used to never having a period, she never realized she was pregnant.

So you're going to lose weight before you get all big and pregnant?

Some of us can't get "big and pregnant" without losing the weight. I have PCOS (a hormone imbalance) - it took 2 years to get pregnant with our first baby - nothing worked until I lost a bit of weight.

I'm in the same boat! My husband and I have been trying for a little over a year now. I have PCOS and am on Metformin and Clomid. My doctor says my weight isn't a factor as to why I have PCOS (I'm smaller than those she usually sees with PCOS), but I still can't help but to think if I lost weight, it could make it easier.

Please don't blame your weight for not being able to get pregnant. It's so few and far between for women that can't conceive because of weight issues and we blame ourselves enough for it in the long run. If you are having a normal period and it's not working, take your fertility into your own hands. It took us 3 & 1/2 years to get pregnant after our first ended in miscarriage. I had regular 26-28 day cycles and I've lost 119lbs, I thought dropping weight would help too. My OBGYN told me point blank the weight loss was great but in the end my eggs weren't maturing properly so they couldn't be fertilized, not at 316lbs, not at 211 and not even if I made it to 136. Please just talk to your doctor if you've been trying and it's not been successful and don't let them **** around and tell you that it's your weight. Check out BabyCenter Plus Size & Pregnant, there are women up to 400+lbs getting pregnant. Of course it's not the healthiest, I'm sure at my height and weight 5'2, 197lbs it's not the healthiest, I'm 14 weeks today but it was healthy enough for a responsible OBGYN and endocrinologist to let me give Clomid a shot while I was working on getting my BMI low enough to safely do IVF. Good doctors won't blame your weight, good doctors will help you figure out the problem and advise you on weight loss needed to pursue treatments safely. Make sure your husband/partner gets tested too. No amount of doing the naughty will work if his sperm isn't up to par.

I'm currently trying to lose weight AND get pregnant. I'm 31 and I've been trying all year to get pregnant. No luck so far. It took me almost 3 years to have baby number one.
There are so many things I need to be focusing on in my life right now. Struggling to decide if I want to or can go back to school to start a career to be better able to support my family. But I feel like if I go back to school now I should hold off on another baby.
My gut feeling is that the baby is the most important thing and the job can wait. Especially since it seems to be difficult to get pregnant again.
As far as weight loss is concerned, I plan on losing as much as I can until I FINALLY find out i'm pregnant and then I'll walk and eat healthy through the pregnancy so my body won't become fat and lazy again.

.............so we're running out of time.

I wish all you ladies the best with your weight loss endeavors, but you all have plenty of "time" ) There is no magic door that will slam on you when you turn 35 to say no more baby for you. Don't put added pressure on yourself to get pregnant before such and such date. I know what the statistics say about down syndrome chances, etc. increasing, but you can get pregnant and have a perfectly healthy baby long after age 35. I know many women who have and I am one of them. Had last baby at age 38. Focus on your weight loss now and put the rest of your worries in God's hands ) Best wishes to you all!