My family wants me to stay fat...

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  • fitspo145
    fitspo145 Posts: 81
    Everybody else can go fornicate with a duck.

    My sentiments exactly. Change is hard. Don't worry about everyone else, worry about you. When your effort and success starts to show, others may join you, such as your hubby. Otherwise...NMFP. (not my f***ing problem)

    S/N: On a personal level, I will share that working out with my husband has been as good for our health as it has been for our sex life.
    :smooched: :devil: :smokin:
    SERIOUSLY. If that doesn't het the DH off the couch...well, I have no words for you at that point. :huh:

    ^^ This. :) I agree with others on here. I totally understand what you are going through with your significant other. Since I started working out my boyfriend started becoming increasingly more insecure and although he is not overweight he is very skinny fat and started to become even more disappointed with his figure and health after seeing me finally getting off my *kitten* after a year of lazing about.

    You can ease your husband into exercise. Sometimes instead if me doing Insanity in the morning and the bf playing video games I ask him to go for a long walk up the hill with me or something. Doing this several times a week has already improved how he feels about himself and how comfortable he feels about me working out :). Plus now he feels more confident to move onto strength training again etc. It's all about just making gradual changes. He'll get there I promise!
  • Quiet_Professional
    Quiet_Professional Posts: 4 Member
    At the end of the day you have to do what you think is right. If losing weight would not only make you feel better about yourself but also legitimately add years and quality to your life then everyone should be all hands on deck. It is gonna to be hard but certainly not impossible.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Almost every episode of Extremem weight loss makeover is about this in one form or another. Apparently it's a thing. Why don't you try to find some episodes online and see if anything clicks for you as a solution. They are all success stories most of which overcame some form of family sabotage or another.
  • OMGeeeHorses
    OMGeeeHorses Posts: 732 Member
    I don't understand why your husband is being the way he is. I mean if he was loosing 75lbs and being healthy when you were not and you didn't say or act this way. Just kind of baffles me why He would expect it of you.

    I don't have that issue so much, I am 290lbs and everyone in my family ( besides my brothers) are rooting for me to drop kick this weight off. I need to do it also because 2 1/2 years ago I was in a serious car accident and had to have two surgeries on my right leg and after 1 1/2 years had to re learn how to walk again because it took that long just for it to heal up.

    I suggest like someone else said, cook the same meals for your husband and it will show you are wanting him to be apart of your journey. Don't pester him, because I know with my husband he gets pissy if I do that and just ignores the healthy food and goes and buys bad foods. I sat down and told my husband also that I was changing to be a better wife and mother to the children ( that we have not had yet) and that I am not looking at anyone else but HIM.
    My husband actually will sit their and talk about the clothes he is going to buy me when I get back the sexy curves I had when he married me after I sat down and had this conversation with him. I am excited for that as he pushes me to be healthier and be the woman I want to be. So I suggest sitting down and opening yourself up to him, tell him you know he is insecure that you are going to find someone better but that is not the case. That you are doing this all for you and him and your marriage.

    Also haters are going to hate. Like someone else said they are insecure that you can get up every morning and workout and watch what you eat. While they don't do that and get fatter and such.

    I wish the best of luck to you!!
  • ricki011
    ricki011 Posts: 89 Member
    invite him to walk with you. exercise is the best antidepressant and it sounds like he might benefit from the benefits of exercise.
    Many people don't see walking as exercise until they start noticing the weight loss and they feel great too.
  • OMGeeeHorses
    OMGeeeHorses Posts: 732 Member
    invite him to walk with you. exercise is the best antidepressant and it sounds like he might benefit from the benefits of exercise.
    Many people don't see walking as exercise until they start noticing the weight loss and they feel great too.

    100% agree with this. Walking took me off my ant depressant pills and I have lost my 41lbs off it :)
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    My only advice is to keep on keeping on. Don't ever allow anybody to get in your way of becoming as healthy as you can become. I bet your mom will tell your that. :smile: In fact, she sounds incredible.

    As for your husband- he's got some stuff to work on, namely his insecurity issues. I don't understand unsupportive spouses or partners.

    I will tell you that my honey, who I've been with for eight years, was always telling me how inspired he was with how I logged in food, lost weight, and was taking very good care of myself. Recently, his doctor told him he needed to lose weight and set him up with a nutritionist. My honey told her about my weight loss journey and using MFP, and she was thrilled and knew exactly what he was talking about it, etc. etc., and my honey is now using MFP. He LOVES it, and he's doing very well with it.

    By the way, from what I understand, the nutritionist recommends MFP to her clients. Also, from what I understand, she tabulated my hones' TDEE and told him to eat a certain amount less than that, and he would lose weight. Well, the MFP calculations came out to about the same as what the nutritionist said.
  • Oh_Allie
    Oh_Allie Posts: 258 Member
    I have no advice other than what's already been offered, but I understand where you're at with family. My boyfriend is supportive but also sabotages me (brings in foods that he knows I binge on, cooks food and serves it all up when he knows I want to track things, etc.). He gets what I'm doing and why, but he's really insecure that I'll leave him when I'm healthy.

    Good luck!
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