Will we ever be happy?

MaeRenee94
MaeRenee94 Posts: 175
in Motivation and Support
Will we ever truly be happy with our weight when we hit a goal?
I started at 160, now I am 145. Seeing the number drop is great don't get me wrong. Seeing my measurements is frustrating, looking at my body and seeing the same jeans on me as before fitting the same is frustrating as well.
When I realized I was starting to get heavy I knew I needed to get back to my old ways. I used to be a fitness fanatic and played competitive volleyball year round.
145 was my goal. I knew, just absolutely knew I would have the body I wanted and be soo happy about it. But now that I am here, I see nothing like I imagined and feel nothing.
I was talking to a coworker the other day who is into crossfit and gets the fitness thing. I was telling him how I lost 15 pounds and he kind of looked at me funny and said hmm usually you can tell when a women has lost weight. He didn't mean it bad or anything like that, it was just conversation. I knew that was the truth and I have accepted it.
But have I really? I'm at 145 pounds and now pushing for 140, when I hit 140 will I be happy or will I push another 5 pounds?

Hard work and dedication seems to not be paying off.

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  • MaeRenee94
    MaeRenee94 Posts: 175
    I'm 5'9''
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    I'm happy, and there's always something more to work on. So I keep working.

    Also, OP looks great. But you don't just end up with a fitness model body after losing a few pounds. The weight itself is not the key. Have to work to a physical objective beyond weight to look amazing.
  • Shawshankcan
    Shawshankcan Posts: 900 Member
    No, and really, you shouldn't be happy with your level. Once you hit a goal, it is time to find a new one. Its too easy to fall back into old habits with out a goal.

    Think of it this way - you are walking into a heavy wind. You have your head down and each step takes tremendous effort. Still, you put one foot in front of the other and you keep plodding forward. You get to your goal, your destination and you put your head up and stop fighting. The wind knocks you back. Maybe not all the way, but back none the less. You have to cover the same ground again.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Will we ever be happy?

    That's the thing, eh? All these goals of physical appearances and abilities are temporal. We either reach them or fail. If we reach them we immediately make new ones. Too many people are never really happy, and the reality is it has NOTHING to do with weight loss, body shape, or anything else. It is all about appreciating the efforts to be better and being content with the gains you can make. There is no failure, but merely many destinations along a life long journey.

    You SHOULD strive to be better.
    You SHOULD want and desire to be healthy.
    You SHOULD be happy already.
  • willdob3
    willdob3 Posts: 640 Member
    Good post, Chaelaz.

    I don't believe in goal weights. They have nothing to do with how we look & certainly nothing to do with happiness.

    Being happy is a choice one makes. Be happy now. Love yourself now.
  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
    Sorry, I agree with Willdob3, weight goals can be very tricky!

    I did not start out with a weigh goal, I just wanted my BP to go down. My doctor, bless her heart gave me the goal of 175, I am 5' 1" but we disgussed for my body type and age this was realistic. I am not at goal but I sort of like where I am, size-wise, though my BP has gone down I plan to continue to our agreed upon goal.

    I would suggest that if you really do not like your body, continue with what helped you lose the weight you have but eliminate the scale, use your mirror instead :wink:

    Happiness is not a number!
  • MarkABrowning
    MarkABrowning Posts: 2 Member
    At some point, if we can't be happy with our achievements, then we're chasing the wrong thing. There's a name for those who never think themselves thin enough: anorexic. If we hold ourselves up against swimsuit models and champion bodybuilders, then we're setting ourselves up for eternal unhappiness. Most of us don't have the time or the genes to be those perfect bodies, but most of us can be very good.
    I'm not saying we should settle for "pretty good," but it's also pointless not to celebrate our successes. Today, it might be hitting another weight goal. Next week, it could be running a faster 5K. We owe it to ourselves to be happy with our accomplishments while never being complacent in them.
  • MaeRenee94
    MaeRenee94 Posts: 175
    I guess I didn't relay my post all that great. I am not concerned with the number on the scale all that much.
    As I mentioned its great that the scale has gone down.
    But its frustrating not seeing the tape measurer get smaller or my jeans still fitting the way they did so many months ago.

    I lift at 3am every weekday with an active rest on Wednesday, I do circuits on the weekend, have a rest day on Sunday. I have constantly switched routine after I know I've gotten used to it. I bust my *kitten* at the gym. I have my food dialed in. I just don't get why the scale says I'm better but the mirror and measurements don't.
    Maybe I sound naïve and lost with this hole thing.
    Maybe I shouldn't have even posted this post to begin with.

    I AM proud of myself and where I have come. And I know that I'll always be trying to get better.
    I guess it's just one of those days where I was frustrated and felt like venting.

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