Husbands and kids are evil.

NYIceQueen
NYIceQueen Posts: 1,423
edited September 22 in Food and Nutrition
So I've been doing really well with my diet so far. Yesterday DH and my 8 yo daughter decided they wanted Olive Garden. DH ordered the food, going by what we used to order. OMG....all that food....I was totally sleep deprived, stressed, had spent most of the last 2 days crying, and I lost it. I just started eating. And eating. And eating. I literally could not stop myself from shoveling everything in.

I ate so much that less than 5 minutes after I was done, I was throwing it all up in the bathroom (no, not on purpose) because I hadn't had that much food in my stomach for so long.

Ugh. Next time I'd better do the ordering. Treating myself is okay, but had I ordered I probable would've gotten a kids portion alfredo or something, not the hugh fried lasagna and huge dinner plus breadsticks.

You'd think that since he's the one that finds me so disgusting (he and my mom both) that he'd be more supportive of the whole diet thing.

BTW, I'm not even going to THINK about logging that in. Clean slate today!

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  • TByrd1325
    TByrd1325 Posts: 920 Member
    Don't beat yourself up about it. It happens!! If you binge and overinduldge, just say: Well that was pretty good! Then the next meal get back on track. It won't hurt your progress if it happens occasionally.. (like once a month. =) )

    I'm sorry you got sick though. That's never good.
  • princessmedic
    princessmedic Posts: 92
    The last time I went to Olive Garden, I went to log in my food and realized the highest calorie thing I had was the salad! The dressing and croutons did me in!
  • Krymsen
    Krymsen Posts: 72
    Hey!

    First of all always forgive yourself and learn from it! And remember you are in contorl of what goes in your mouth no else can tell you want to eat. And you are doing good by starting over forget it so you do not dwell on it and binge again. And remember to tell yourself you are worth it and no food can make you feel better or fill any void. Hang in there one day will not undo everything you have done just move on. If you feel up to it go workout it always makes me feel way better.

    Melissa
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    So I've been doing really well with my diet so far. Yesterday DH and my 8 yo daughter decided they wanted Olive Garden. DH ordered the food, going by what we used to order. OMG....all that food....I was totally sleep deprived, stressed, had spent most of the last 2 days crying, and I lost it. I just started eating. And eating. And eating. I literally could not stop myself from shoveling everything in.

    I ate so much that less than 5 minutes after I was done, I was throwing it all up in the bathroom (no, not on purpose) because I hadn't had that much food in my stomach for so long.

    Ugh. Next time I'd better do the ordering. Treating myself is okay, but had I ordered I probable would've gotten a kids portion alfredo or something, not the hugh fried lasagna and huge dinner plus breadsticks.

    You'd think that since he's the one that finds me so disgusting (he and my mom both) that he'd be more supportive of the whole diet thing.

    BTW, I'm not even going to THINK about logging that in. Clean slate today!

    Any man (or woman) that thinks you are disgusting due to your weight is the one with the issue. God makes us all different and God makes us all beautiful in someway. If my wife gains 400 pounds tomorrow I will still think she is the hottest woman on the planet. You lose weigth for yourself and if he doesnt think you are beautiful before you have lost the weight just pray God opens his heart and eyes.
  • NYIceQueen
    NYIceQueen Posts: 1,423
    Oh, I gave up losing weight for him. He's always had an issue with me ever since I told him I was pregnant with our daughter 9 years ago (and I was a size 8 back then). Nothing for 2 1/2 years. So I give up on him. As for my mom, somehow she thinks I was supposed to keep my underweight ballet body from when I was 18....NOT!

    Right now, I'm doing it because my joints are being abused with my illnesses, and frankly I just want to feel a bit better when I go pick up my daughter at school. Trying to keep joint replacements at bay for as long as possible.

    Oh, and maybe I'll lose the weight just in case I have to meet someone else! *laugh*
  • NYIceQueen
    NYIceQueen Posts: 1,423
    The last time I went to Olive Garden, I went to log in my food and realized the highest calorie thing I had was the salad! The dressing and croutons did me in!

    Oh, I WISH it'd been a salad! *laugh*

    I think the difference this time is that I don't feel like giving up already. I'm just saying "okay, clean slate today". Now, it'll be a hard day because we're going to the pumpkin patch, but I'm going to go with my coffee in hand (plain black) and sip on that. Usually that keeps me from wanting anything fried in my mouth.

    *sigh* what I wouldn't give for my metabolism from 18 years ago!
  • nikkijennings
    nikkijennings Posts: 130 Member
    Oh, and maybe I'll lose the weight just in case I have to meet someone else! *laugh*

    GOOD!!!!!! I totally agree with KnightOfGod.... your partner should love you for being you!!! I truly believe that the only way that the challenge of losing weight works is when you choose to do it for yourself and your own reasons :happy:

    And from what you've written.... I think you are in the right place! :bigsmile:

    Good luck on your journey, MFP is great for the support you don't seem to be getting from elsewhere. :flowerforyou:

    As for you KnightOfGod, your wife is a very lucky woman indeed :blushing: I am glad that I have a loving husband who thinks in a similar way :love:
  • NYIceQueen
    NYIceQueen Posts: 1,423
    Oh, and maybe I'll lose the weight just in case I have to meet someone else! *laugh*

    GOOD!!!!!! I totally agree with KnightOfGod.... your partner should love you for being you!!! I truly believe that the only way that the challenge of losing weight works is when you choose to do it for yourself and your own reasons :happy:

    And from what you've written.... I think you are in the right place! :bigsmile:

    Good luck on your journey, MFP is great for the support you don't seem to be getting from elsewhere. :flowerforyou:

    As for you KnightOfGod, your wife is a very lucky woman

    Agree on KnightOfGod's wife...very lucky woman.
  • kennedar
    kennedar Posts: 306 Member
    Your family sounds very mean. I can not imagine my husband ever finding me gross, even after I gained 50 pounds in 4 years he still chases me around the bed! If I was you, I would have left his judgmental *ss years ago! You deserve people in your life who love and respect you no matter what!

    As for your mom, well we don't get to pick our family right! I know the feeling, my mom constantly bugged me about my weight until I finally told her that if she chose to keep bugging me about my weight, then she would no longer be a part of my life.
  • Sezmo83
    Sezmo83 Posts: 331 Member
    You'd think that since he's the one that finds me so disgusting (he and my mom both) that he'd be more supportive of the whole diet thing.
    My jaw kinda dropped when I read this part. I agree with what the others have said. Thankfully my hubby doesn't seem to be disgusted by my 70lb weight gain in 12 months (partly meds, partly me giving up even trying to eat properly coz I gained weight no matter what). I'm sorry your husband and mother feel that way and don't support you. Least you have everyone here though :bigsmile:
    Oh, and maybe I'll lose the weight just in case I have to meet someone else! *laugh*
    Now that would be my attitude :laugh:

    As for the blow out, don't worry about it. It happens to us all at some point and you seem to have the right attitude of wipe the slate clean and get back on track. I logged part of my horrendous day last week but couldn't bring myself to add the chocolate and crisps and cakes I ate that same evening.
  • lloydrt
    lloydrt Posts: 1,121 Member
    Ice Queen, so sorry the hear that about your husband and mom.......sad thing, its "their loss, not yours"

    Sheese, you have had cancer and been thru so much, wheres the compassion?

    Get back at em, Ice Queen, work out as much as you can, eat sensibly, and look hot and fabulous, ......that outta shut em both down......

    Good luck, were all rooting for you...........Llloyd
  • NYIceQueen
    NYIceQueen Posts: 1,423
    :flowerforyou:

    Thanks guys for all the support

    Here's a quick update...even with the blow out I managed to lose almost a pound since my last weigh-in. *WOOHOO!*

    I did well today. Had NOTHING at the fair...brought my own snacks, so I had grapes and 5 Pringle chips with water. Felt great, and saved $$.

    I felt very in control, which is a welcomed change both from last night, and from the times before where I'd lost it and binged then gave up. THIS time I didn't give up.

    So I'm treating myself to a couple of hershey's dark kisses (serving size is 9, so 2....no big)

    and yeah, I'm soooo glad for this board and the support.....
  • Tink204
    Tink204 Posts: 3
    I am so sorry that you are in a relationship like that. My ex husband used my weight as his excuse for having affairs, basically claiming that I made him cheat. Whatever. A divorce and 5 years later, my current husband is my biggest supporter and best friend. I was afraid to get a divorce because we have children, but it was the best thing I have ever done. It really makes a difference for the children to see what a loving marriage and happy mom is like.

    Also, having that type of situation has to be stressful and stress normally adds to weight gain. I'm an emotional eater so it always made things worse.

    Good luck. Hang in there.
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