Trying to lose married weight

chrissylynn80
chrissylynn80 Posts: 6 Member
edited February 5 in Motivation and Support
I had no problem losing 150ibs four years ago. and i maintained it for a year until i met my husband. He gained 70 ilbs and i gained 70. We both love food and we both have families that have obesity issues. I can't walk 7 miles day like before because i am too exhausted taking care of him, our home, our pets and his kids. Also 33 doesn't feel like 25 either. How do i manage?

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  • micheleb15
    micheleb15 Posts: 1,418 Member
    Start small - It's always easier to add than cut out. Add in a daily walk, add in an extra few cups of water, add in more fruits and veggies, etc. Also, what does" taking care of" your husband imply? Why can't you both take a walk with the kids and dogs? You both need to decide what your priorities are and fit them in your life. There's no reason that you alone should feel exhausted for regular daily activities that we all have. The whole family can benefit from being more active - kids will probably love it.

    Edited to add - just realized you said pets and not dogs.
  • ehorn625
    ehorn625 Posts: 144 Member
    taking care of him? and his kids? hmm. How bout he take care of himself and help you take care of his kids? You need to make time for yourself! Do a work out video at home, go for a walk like the OP said and take hubby and the kids. Make it a family routine. Not sure where you are but the weather is usually beautiful this time of year.

    I have been married for 31 years. I have pretty much "trained" my husband to take care of himself! lol :wink:
  • micheleb15
    micheleb15 Posts: 1,418 Member

    I have been married for 31 years. I have pretty much "trained" my husband to take care of himself! lol :wink:

    I've only been married for 6 years, but yes, my husband knows that if I am working late, he is charge of dinner and it better be ready when I get home. :) Didn't take much training because my husband is a decent human being.
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    Go for a 30 min run. Hell even a 30 min brisk walk.


    There is never an excuse to not do something for even 30 mins.
  • emergencytennis
    emergencytennis Posts: 864 Member
    You don't need to do a heap of exercise to lose weight. You just need to enter your honest stats and all your food faithfully into MFP, then just follow the little green numbers without going over. Set realistic goals and commit to losing weight slowly over a matter of months.
  • Ralthor125
    Ralthor125 Posts: 139 Member
    Me = Married 16 years, 3 kids, 2 dogs and 4 cats.

    That said, you set what you want in life and go for it. Your husband will take care of himself and does not need his hand held..if he does, he needs to man up a bit. He will do what is needed, when it is needed. He may be stubborn about going, but once he does you may be surprised by what he really can do.

    We don't need to be trained, we just need to be motivated in some way and a wife working on her looks will ALWAYS do that regardless of anything he says.

    As others have said it is easier to add than take away, but add things that satiate your hunger, but don't pour on the calories. Keep a log, which I assume you are doing if you are on this site. Stay true to yourself and it will happen. Don't ever get discouraged. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

    You can always out eat any exercise. So diet is second, exercise is third and your own will/desire is first.
  • alienrite
    alienrite Posts: 314 Member
    Don't lose yourself in taking care of others. Seems selfless at the surface but in the end you'll have less to give if you don't take care of yourself first. Don't worry about how you used to feel, or thought you felt but worry about how you'll feel at 40 or 45 years old. Life is a long journey and there is nothing worth more than your own wellness. From your strength, you can give and care for others but when you're own tank runs dry, you cannot help anyone. I fell into that spiral for the last 15 years (dedicated myself to work more so than family) and found myself in a world that was shrinking because of my weight and lack of fitness. Having lost weight and gained back my fitness level, I am now so much more capable of helping those around me and contributing. I can easily say that the hour I spend a day taking care of myself gives me 3 or 4 times the energy and time back.
  • chrissylynn80
    chrissylynn80 Posts: 6 Member
    Adding in small thing like more water And getting back on my treadmill a little each day are great starts. I do take the dogs a couple times a week to the park i should take my bike and ride when i do. Thanks :)
  • chrissylynn80
    chrissylynn80 Posts: 6 Member
    Thanks for all the replies. My husband does his part but i put too much on myself, i got lost in making everyone else happy and now i am not happy with myself. Its so much easier when your young and single i know thats true but i do need to make myself a priory like i do everyone else. Usually when i have a minute i want peace and quiet and to just relax and read or get on the computer. I moved the treadmill into the living room so i can walk while i watch my shows. I went with my husband to the doctor and its funny that she brought this site up to him as well. So he is joining right now. It will be easier with him doing this as well rather than just enabling me lol.
  • emergencytennis
    emergencytennis Posts: 864 Member
    Thanks for all the replies. My husband does his part but i put too much on myself, i got lost in making everyone else happy and now i am not happy with myself. Its so much easier when your young and single i know thats true but i do need to make myself a priory like i do everyone else. Usually when i have a minute i want peace and quiet and to just relax and read or get on the computer. I moved the treadmill into the living room so i can walk while i watch my shows. I went with my husband to the doctor and its funny that she brought this site up to him as well. So he is joining right now. It will be easier with him doing this as well rather than just enabling me lol.

    Ah, so much easier when you are both logging! Good on you both and looking forward to your first milestones.
  • LuLuChick78
    LuLuChick78 Posts: 439 Member
    I lost 180 lbs instantly by leaving my (insert all sorts of awful adjectives) husband.....oh wait, not what this thread is about. What they ^^^ said then. :laugh:
  • gelendestrasse
    gelendestrasse Posts: 204 Member
    It would be easier if you got him (and the kids) on board so that you do this together. Maybe take up hiking with the kids, pick a different park every weekend and walk as much as you can. Anything that you can all do together that is exercise. If you stay home with the kids get out with them during the day as much as you can too. A lot of lower effort stuff will work too.

    Then there's the watching what you eat part. That could be tough too. It sounds like you're in charge of the menu so change it as much as you are able.

    Of course if you need to vent we're all here, too.

    Good luck!
  • april1445
    april1445 Posts: 334 Member
    If you're a certain type of person, you will find it hard to put yourself first, but you already sound like a martyr, and seriously, that will take years off your life. Take care of yourself first--you have to, because no one else is going to.
  • 1_Slick_Chick
    1_Slick_Chick Posts: 199 Member
    I'm 42...learn from me! Put yourself as a priority!! Know you deserve to feel & look better for you!
    Sorry for all the ! But, girl, lost my 30's because I never put my myself on the to do list.
    YOU can do it for YOU! You just have to want it:wink:
  • kittenful
    kittenful Posts: 318 Member
    Thanks for all the replies. My husband does his part but i put too much on myself, i got lost in making everyone else happy and now i am not happy with myself. Its so much easier when your young and single i know thats true but i do need to make myself a priory like i do everyone else. Usually when i have a minute i want peace and quiet and to just relax and read or get on the computer. I moved the treadmill into the living room so i can walk while i watch my shows. I went with my husband to the doctor and its funny that she brought this site up to him as well. So he is joining right now. It will be easier with him doing this as well rather than just enabling me lol.

    Sounds like you're on the right path, to me. Start at the level you are comfortable with, and when it gets easy (or at least when you get used to it) push yourself a little harder. Every day, just a little more. Slightly faster walking pace or walking farther, etc. It all makes a difference.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,997 Member
    If you don't have time to work out, just eat a deficit for awhile. Exercise is good for your body and it allows you more calories to consume, but calorie deficit is the key to weight loss.
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