I Can't Maintain A Diet; Help!

TinaFay1234
TinaFay1234 Posts: 3
in Health and Weight Loss
I weigh 346 pounds and I'm around 5'9 ft tall. I am a 20 twenty year old female and have been struggling with obesity for as long as I can remember. Last year, I tried the Gastric Balloon for around 6 months and I lost 13 lbs then gained them after it was removed. So I decided that it's best to frequently visit a doctor, which I started doing two weeks ago.

The center has its own diets, and merchandise etc. So I follow the diet for the first week, and I end up breaking it on my forth day. I lost 2.5 pounds regardless. The doctor told me I can eat as many proteins as I want so long that I don't break the diet. So this week I followed the diet till my fifth day, and I broke it, again. I have been waking up everyday thinking to myself today I won't break the diet; I follow it and everything till I mess up. I live with my family so that doesn't help at all. There's food everywhere I look and my sister always brings lunch from outside. No one is helping me maintain my diet.

I don't know what to do anymore. I need help, so I joined this forum.

What do I do?

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  • Hildy_J
    Hildy_J Posts: 1,050 Member
    Hey Tina,

    You can do this and you're in the right place. Make a start by putting your details into the app and finding your daily calorie allowance. Then log ALL your food, make friends here and lose the weight. It's not easy but it's so worth it.

    Take a little look at the success stories thread for inspiration!

    All the best :smile:
  • marypatmccue
    marypatmccue Posts: 521 Member
    Weight loss, fitness, and life changes all take commitment and a desire to actually succeed... YOU have to want it in order to be successful. Set yourself up with the right calorie intake, make some friends, join a group of like-minded supporting people to help you get there.

    I wish you all of the best, and sincerely hope you can find whatever it is inside yourself to stick with it. If you need a helping hand, I know I have a lot of very resourceful people in my MFP group that would love to help you, just like I would.
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    I'm a big fan of making small, sustainable changes and breaking old habits slowly. I don't know what the diets you're trying look like, but have you considered that they may be too aggressive?
  • TeaBea
    TeaBea Posts: 14,517 Member
    My Fitness Pal is such a great learnig tool. Like Tina said......you're in the right place. Make a pact to eat "healthier" .....not perfectly.... but healthier.

    Do 1 thing today for your health. It can be, eat an extra helping of veggies, or 5 minute walk ....something. Then start logging your food. When you see the numbers start to add up .....you can figure out what to change. Not everything needs to be changed, and certainly not everything at once......baby steps. You can do this!
  • kowajenn
    kowajenn Posts: 274 Member
    Tina, what are your goals? Why do YOU want to lose weight?

    The point I'm getting at, is if you are trying to lose it because people say you should, you aren't going to be committed. If you are trying to lose it because it is your heart's desire, you will be dedicated. I was on a million half hearted diets until one day, I literally said, "I can't be this way anymore." It was time and I was ready. Are you ready?

    If so, we are all here for you!!! Don't think of the long term. Think, "today my choices will be good." Do that every day. If you mess up, guess what? Tomorrow is a new day and you start right over. There will be forward steps, and backwards ones, but as long as you keep making the effort the long term trend will be good.

    Plan your meals. Know what you are going to eat and make sure you don't allow yourself to feel true hunger. Eat something small between meals (like a piece of fruit or a protein bar) to keep you going. If someone brings something you weren't expecting say, "Thanks, but I'm going to eat what I planned." Then do it!

    There's no magic wand that will cause you to never cheat. You have to want it bad and do what it takes to stick to it. You are 20 years old. Your whole life is in front of you and think of how fabulous it will be if you are healthier and happier. Set a small goal - say 10 pounds - and CELEBRATE when you get there. Then set a new goal. Little baby steps will get you where you want to be if you just keep trying.

    Good luck!!!!
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,589 MFP Moderator
    I agree with alot of what is posted above, its hard to keep up a diet when you make huge changes to your current lifestyle. There are options here that I am seeing. 1. You are making progress with the diet you got from your dr. even if you do break it, maybe consider doing it 5-6 days a week and giving yourself off days too (you will still need to keep things reasonable) so you can stop stressing about messing up. 2. MFP works by calories counting, so the idea is you eat whatever kinds of food you want and stay within your calorie goals. When I started I just logged for the first week and didn't even try to change anything, just to see what I was doing already. It was not pretty but it was educational :smile: . Then you can take it slow like the posters above have said, maybe focus on breakfast first and how to make that healthier one week and then add in luch and dinner and make the transformation over a month.

    The key to long term dieting is to not treat it like a diet which means you have to make changes you can stay happy with. You don't have to give up everything, I refuse to never eat chocolate again, are you crazy! If you can figure out how to make your diet not a diet after all then you will be able to not only meet your goals but keep all that weight off in the end too!

    Make some friends on here too, it is really great to have buddies to cheer you on! You can do this! Good luck!
  • TinaFay1234
    TinaFay1234 Posts: 3
    I think I made the right choice by joining this site. I just don't want to be fat anymore. I'm tired of carrying all that extra weight and I fear what may happen to my health if I stay this way.

    Thank you all very much. This is the first time I feel that I'm not alone in this. <3
  • jacksonpt
    jacksonpt Posts: 10,413 Member
    Do you know why you are breaking the diets?
  • TinaFay1234
    TinaFay1234 Posts: 3
    Do you know why you are breaking the diets?

    Every time I ask myself that. The first time I broke the diet it because I ordered the food I ordered wasn't grilled and I had nothing else to eat, then someone offered me a cookie and I couldn't say no. Today it was rather disappointing. I just ate without thinking and regretted it immediately afterward. Those reasons are pointless and I'm embarrassed by myself. I can't seem to close my mouth and it's at the expense of my health.
  • jacksonpt
    jacksonpt Posts: 10,413 Member
    Do you know why you are breaking the diets?

    I can't seem to close my mouth
    Why not?

    I'm not trying to be an *kitten*, just trying to get to the core of the issue.
  • Stage14
    Stage14 Posts: 1,046 Member
    I think I made the right choice by joining this site. I just don't want to be fat anymore. I'm tired of carrying all that extra weight and I fear what may happen to my health if I stay this way.

    Thank you all very much. This is the first time I feel that I'm not alone in this. <3

    You are definitely not alone and you can totally do this! What kind of diet is your doctor suggesting? When you "break it", how so? Are you going over on calories or eating "forbidden foods" or something else?
  • frankizoy
    frankizoy Posts: 83 Member
    try focusing on getting through the first week, it gets easier as your body starts to get used to your new diet. also, maybe give yourself a cheat day, just one day a week where you let yourself cheat on your diet, just make sure you don't extend that cheat day to 2 or 3... <3
  • Lizzy622
    Lizzy622 Posts: 3,705 Member
    The great thing about MFP there are not "evil" foods. If you eat that cookie, it is okay just shave a few calories off dinner or get your sneakers on and walk it off. (probably 20 minutes or so for a cookie) You control this. This is not a "diet" this is your diet as in whatever you want to do with it. If you try to stay within your calories, you will quickly learn to make healthier choices. The healthier foods tend to give you more volume for less calories. Baby steps. You can do this good luck. :wink:
  • Mokey41
    Mokey41 Posts: 5,769 Member
    You don't need a "diet" to lose weight. All you need to do is stay in a calorie budget which you can set up on here. You can eat the foods you want, maybe not in the quantities you're used to, but you can still eat the foods you like. You don't have to blow it because you ate the wrong chicken or ate a cookie. Just make it fit in your calories for the day and if mess up then carry on and do better next time.

    There won't be any success if you keep jumping from one thing to the other and saying you failed. We all have good days and bad days and hopefully the good days outweigh the bad days. It gets easier as it becomes a lifestyle instead of a diet. There's lots of support and help here to get you on the right track and making good choices.
  • wilmnoca
    wilmnoca Posts: 416 Member
    S.t.o.p. d.i.e.t.i.n.g.
    What was the definition of insanity again.....

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