9 friendsand NO SUPPORT

kjg1965297
kjg1965297 Posts: 121 Member
edited February 6 in Motivation and Support
I am fairly consistent on my posting (most days) and enjoy keeping people motivated but out of the 10 friends I have and had only once in a while a comment. I am not looking for pats on the back but some support would be nice. I feel people have great intentions but amass so many friends they cannot comment on everybody. Thanks to Winston and Serve and protect for you help.

Is this common?

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  • viglet
    viglet Posts: 299 Member
    I had up to 30 or more friends at one point and I found that I just didn't mesh with some of them. We never communicate so I deleted a lot of them.

    I have a few really great go to people on here that I know I can just post on their wall when I am struggling. I have a few people that just being able to see them stay under and work out really motivates me, but we dont chat often.

    Every once in a while, I will post looking for a few more buddies and see how it works.

    Maybe try looking for more friends who you connect with. Best of luck!
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    It takes a while to build a supportive network. That's okay. I also think it's okay to find out friends aren't a good fit and delete them.

    Congratulations on your 51 pound loss, that's fantastic!
  • sydneyplainjane
    sydneyplainjane Posts: 140 Member
    When I first started in August, I wasn't even sure what having a "friend" meant. I thought it was just to be able to look at someone else's diary or follow their progress. So, I don't know, maybe others' expectations of what a "friend" is or should do is different?

    Maybe it will be different if you join one of the groups. They're usually smaller groups of people, so it's easier to build support networks, I think.
  • mazmataz
    mazmataz Posts: 331 Member
    When I first started in August, I wasn't even sure what having a "friend" meant. I thought it was just to be able to look at someone else's diary or follow their progress. So, I don't know, maybe others' expectations of what a "friend" is or should do is different?

    Maybe it will be different if you join one of the groups. They're usually smaller groups of people, so it's easier to build support networks, I think.

    This completely! There seems to be a lot of pressure on MFP to be a constant cheer leader. I find it really false just to post the usual 'way to go!', 'awesome!', 'good burn!' on every status that appears....who is that helping? The friends that I have chosen to have, I have requested them because I find what they do/say or their stories interesting. I have developed a genuine rapport with some people on my friends list which is awesome, but those I haven't - it's still great to have them on there and see how they are doing. I'll comment on something if I find it interesting, or genuinely have something to say about it...just like I would in the real world.

    Support is always out there - if you are having a bad day or whatever, this 'Motivation and Support' board was literally built for that.
  • rezn8
    rezn8 Posts: 263 Member
    Feel free to add me if you like. I'm always on MFP and if you stay plugged in, i'll be sure to post often enough.
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