Is it weird he took me ring shopping before the proposal?

HopeDaleen930
HopeDaleen930 Posts: 39
edited February 6 in Chit-Chat
My boyfriend and I have been talking about the future, marriage, kids, a house, the whole thing. So, I'm just wondering, is it 'normal' that we went ring shopping and purchased a ring.. and he hasn't proposed yet. I think he wants to wait until he has the actual ring in his hand to do it... Just didn't know how crazy we are...?

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  • CookNLift
    CookNLift Posts: 3,660 Member
    that's not crazy...sometimes its better to know that the other person will actually like it. It takes the pressure off a bit. He could want to surprise you with it...because although you know he has it...you don't know how he'll propose.
  • tiffd1000
    tiffd1000 Posts: 93
    We went looking well before he asked me just to make sure he knew my style and what I liked.. I knew we were going to get married at some point (he waited about a year afterwards to propose LOL) Start saving now for the wedding... it gets expensive!
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Awe that's very sweet. I dont think it's weird. He probably wants to get you what you will love exactly.

    The BF completely surprised me we had sort of been talking about marriage nothing in stone though, and he proposed on New Years. The ring he got me isnt exactly what I would have wanted, but he picked it out all on his own had it resized for my fat finger and just made it special. Now that we have a little bit more money he mentioned upgrading it, and to my surprise I said NO!! He doesnt do a lot to surprise me so that was really special.

    Either way congratulations...very exciting.
  • herblackwings39
    herblackwings39 Posts: 3,930 Member
    I think it's kind of sweet actually. My husband and I discussed marriage and had an understanding then went ring shopping. I got to pick out my engagement and wedding rings so they are something I really like and he admitted that he wouldn't have thought of this set since it's fairly plain.
  • sunflowerhippi
    sunflowerhippi Posts: 1,099 Member
    I'm glad mine did. He hates the style that I have but I love it (the halo settings) and he was a fan of a some things that I would have broke trying to wear working with kids. Dainty prong set solitares. So nope not wierd to me.
  • Wrxsti23
    Wrxsti23 Posts: 62
    I don't think it's crazy. Maybe it's not traditional but really what is anymore? My now fiance took me to look around at least a year ago so he knew exactly what I liked. During his previous marriage his ex wife flat out said she didn't like the ring he picked out which I can imagine is a big blow to his self esteem. He wouldn't have ever known my style unless I showed him. This ring will be on my finger hopefully forever...why not get one that you love. My boyfriend ended up proposing to me last week and got me a beautiful ring that was totally my style and I couldn't be happier.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    however you want to do it. if it works for you, fantastic.

    when I was thinking about proposing, i just paid more attention to those things when she would window shop and whatever so i had and idea of what she liked, just because I wanted it to be a complete surprise.

    but honestly, i think she would have adored whatever i got her.
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    I walked into a jewelry store one day just to kill time and ended up calling my now husband and texting him pics of the ring I wanted. I didn't know this until after he proposed, but he went down that day and purchased it. :)
  • HopeDaleen930
    HopeDaleen930 Posts: 39
    Thanks everyone. I was raised in a very traditional type way, so, I was/am completely out of my element.
  • TheBackStory
    TheBackStory Posts: 263
    Not weird at all.

    My husband and I got pregnant, moved in together, had a baby, got engaged 4 months after the baby was born and then 2 months later went to the JP out of the blue.

    Now... That's a little backwards, but it worked for us.
  • bethanytowell
    bethanytowell Posts: 256 Member
    My husband and i ring shopped together. We both picked what we liked and bought them. The proposal was still a surprise.
  • PooksInBoots
    PooksInBoots Posts: 56
    I somehow managed to pick out my own ring, and still be surprised...

    I love estate jewlery (both my mom and I collect it, so jewlery is something I know well), so my hubby and I went to a seized jewlery auction. This gorgeous ring just wasn't going for what it was worth. I was freaking out, because someone was about to get a major steal. I didn't know it at the time, but my hubby bid on the ring using his hand behind my back. I didn't even know we won it until I was handed the little red box when we went to pay for our purchases. I was completely shocked, and ecstatic! My ring ended up appraising for much more than what we paid for it, so it turned out to be an excellent investment, and it will be an heirloom for my family. And how many people can say that they own a ring that was destined for a Colombian druglord's girlfriend?? (may or may not be the *actual* backstory of the ring! lol)

    Not the most traditional proposal, but it was very "us".

    All that to say... More and more tradition is being left by the wayside. If shopping and purchasing the ring with your boyfriend felt right for the two of you... Own it and work it in to your own little love story!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,260 Member
    Did it with mine. She knew I was going to propose, just didn't know when and how I was going to do it. And she loves her ring.

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  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
    It means he values your input on the piece of jewelry you'll be wearing for the rest of your life. It's considerate, I think.

    I proposed, and we went ring shopping together.
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