You want a laugh? Read the story of how I got fat! Haha

Once again I am trying to lose weight. But not just any weight. THE weight. You know....the weight that you put on after you snag a guy and suddenly I don't have to look perfect all the time! Well....in my over excitement at this new outlook, I went a bit overboard. I traded in the heels for flip flops, the skirts and dresses for sweats and basketball shorts, and the skimpy halter tops for boyfriend t-shirts. The downside of all of this? All do those clothes LEFT ROOM TO GROW!!!!! One day I decided, "why not? I'll dress up for him! Get all cute and stuff!" So I pulled out my favorite pair of skinny jeans (size 2) and slipped them on. And when I say "slipped" I mean yanked and wiggled and did all sorts of maneuvers to try to get those puppies on. What. The heck. I refused to believe that I'd gained so much as to not fit into my jeans anymore. Kicking them aside (aka hurling them across the room after bursting into tears) I grabbed a skirt and put that on instead. A little tight but not too bad. Next was the shirt. I eyed the scrap of clothing, daring it to cause any problems before tugging it over my head. *deep breath* YANK! TUG! PULL! *pant pant pant* SHIMMY! WIGGLE! ....and it was on, cutting off circulation to all extremities, and damn near splitting at the seams. NOOOO!!! So I did what any normal woman would do. I ripped the clothes off, screamed in agony, and refused to go anywhere. Date night is officially cancelled. Ari is not leaving the building for any reason whatsoever.

After that devastating beginning, I became a fat magnet!!! the weight just seems to keep adding on. I would start exercising, see no improvement and become disheartened. Please be my friend lol. Please help encourage me and help me get back on track and I promise to do the same for you!!
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  • Don't get discouraged! :)
    There is victory in everything.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,344 Member
    I hear ya loud and clear! I've put on 25lbs since I got married in May - Hey, I don't need to worry about fitting into my dress anymore, RIGHT?

    I'm guilty of the tantrums, the cancelling of outings and additional tears at clothes buying times. I also refuse to buy new clothes that fit because I'm "going to lose the weight, for realsies!"

    Add me if you want, I post a fair bit, and will be logging daily as I just got back on the wagon.
  • Oh girl you are not alone. The same thing happen to me when I got married. I started by the next size up and was like "NO this cant be happening" I just knew something had to change. Lets wake up with determination and go to bed with satisfaction!!
  • You are not alone ;-)... Feel free to add me and we can support each other 8-)...
  • loveizzi4ever
    loveizzi4ever Posts: 4 Member
    Hi my name is Juanita and you described me to a T. I felt like that too and it seems that clothes for my size are not as cute as they look on the manikin at the store. I began to wear more boyish and grandma ish clothes cause it hid the fat from sight and if I didn't see it as much then it wouldn't remind me how big I was getting. I hold my weight well I got up to 204 last year and didn't look all that huge but I wasn't happy at all. My sister in-law is this skinny cute thing and she always gets to dress up like a doll while I look like the elephant in the room. Damn it I am gonna look hot again if it kills me... this momma is in power drive and I won't stop at nothing to get there. Keep up the hard work girl your worth it and you just need to keep saying that to your self... make your diamond shine!
  • Don't give up! Wanting to make a change is the first step to success :). I totally get you. I used to be quite petite and fit till I got with my boyfriend about a year ago... You kind of end up packing on the wining and dining calories and slip into a comfort zone with your partner.

    Same as you one day I just tried on an old dress of mine and thought enough is enough! Anyway feel free to friend me. I'll do my best to be supportive! :D

    But for now congrats on wanting to change things. Just keep your body moving 4-5 times a week and eat at a deficit (TDEE-20%) and you'll get there!
  • miz_ppyn
    miz_ppyn Posts: 118 Member
    im definitely hearing ya on that one. Feel free to add me as well if you need support, i log everyday and my diary is open ( not that my food is very exciting lol)
  • SO excited to get to know you ladies! We are going to get through this together :D
  • just_jess7
    just_jess7 Posts: 271 Member
    I can imagine myself doing the same thing in that situation! I've thrown clothes around my room on more than one occasion out of frustration. I sent you an add request :-)
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    Love your writing style. Made me giggle!! :drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • maQmIgh
    maQmIgh Posts: 236 Member
    I went from 11.5 stone to 13.5 stone in my old relationship (20 year relationship) and dropped dangerously quickly when the relationship ended (down to 11 stone in a month) by risking becoming an alcoholic :drinker: :sad: .
    When my new relationship started (3 years ago) the weight snuck up on me again (back up to 13.5 stone :sad: )
    I vowed to lose it.. the right way.. and joined here... and in the last 4 months have dropped from 13.5 to 11.4 stone.
    I still have a ways to go.. but losing with friends and motivators on here means I am a lot healthier, happier, and confidence booming :bigsmile:

    What I'm trying to say is, Im not the most active of people and dont have the motivation by myself, but with this app and the people on here... YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING!!! :glasses:

    Good luck on your journey :flowerforyou:

    Feel free to add :happy:
  • melissarina
    melissarina Posts: 113 Member
    I also refuse to buy new clothes that fit because I'm "going to lose the weight, for realsies!"

    ME TOO! Apparently, I have been not buying new clothes for 3 years, because that's how long I've been trying to lose this weight. Well, maybe talking about losing the weight, not trying to well obviously!! haha
  • PeaceVegan
    PeaceVegan Posts: 37 Member
    I also refuse to buy new clothes that fit because I'm "going to lose the weight, for realsies!"

    ME TOO! Apparently, I have been not buying new clothes for 3 years, because that's how long I've been trying to lose this weight. Well, maybe talking about losing the weight, not trying to well obviously!! haha

    Same here!! I really need to buy some, but I refuse! I bought some new pants when I was down 100 lbs ... since I have gained some back, they are hanging in my closet just taunting me! :grumble: :grumble:
  • Essentially the same thing happened to me after being married for several years. It was easy to become complacent and fall into bad habits like wearing the comfy though unflattering clothes and occasionally "treat" yourself to something decadent. It doesn't help that my skinny husband can eat as much food as a freaking rugby team and still stay skinny. SO disgustingly unfair. Too bad we cant trade metabolisms...
  • Add me :D I'd love to go through this journey with all of you! I promise I can keep you laughing and motivated
  • shardown
    shardown Posts: 258 Member
    I gained about 10kgs after moving in with my husband (then-boyfriend). That was 3 years ago and that's on top of the extra weight I'm already carrying. Have to lose it now before I start gaining more from being too complacent.
  • Hi! I'm Ann, I need to lose 120 pounds! and I need people to be my peers and a core group to support compete and lose weight together!
  • GymAnJuice
    GymAnJuice Posts: 512 Member
    you only went up one size? phfff amiture lol (sorry about spelling). friend request being sent :flowerforyou:
  • SnowWhiteFanatic
    SnowWhiteFanatic Posts: 129 Member
    Add me! I love your personality!! I need as many buddies as possible.
  • Skrib69
    Skrib69 Posts: 687 Member
    Been there! Have a look at my page and add me if you want!

    (Added) Very funny story put that way though!
  • MityMax96
    MityMax96 Posts: 5,778 Member
    Once again I am trying to lose weight. But not just any weight. THE weight. You know....the weight that you put on after you snag a guy and suddenly I don't have to look perfect all the time! Well....in my over excitement at this new outlook, I went a bit overboard. I traded in the heels for flip flops, the skirts and dresses for sweats and basketball shorts, and the skimpy halter tops for boyfriend t-shirts. The downside of all of this? All do those clothes LEFT ROOM TO GROW!!!!! One day I decided, "why not? I'll dress up for him! Get all cute and stuff!" So I pulled out my favorite pair of skinny jeans (size 2) and slipped them on. And when I say "slipped" I mean yanked and wiggled and did all sorts of maneuvers to try to get those puppies on. What. The heck. I refused to believe that I'd gained so much as to not fit into my jeans anymore. Kicking them aside (aka hurling them across the room after bursting into tears) I grabbed a skirt and put that on instead. A little tight but not too bad. Next was the shirt. I eyed the scrap of clothing, daring it to cause any problems before tugging it over my head. *deep breath* YANK! TUG! PULL! *pant pant pant* SHIMMY! WIGGLE! ....and it was on, cutting off circulation to all extremities, and damn near splitting at the seams. NOOOO!!! So I did what any normal woman would do. I ripped the clothes off, screamed in agony, and refused to go anywhere. Date night is officially cancelled. Ari is not leaving the building for any reason whatsoever.

    After that devastating beginning, I became a fat magnet!!! the weight just seems to keep adding on. I would start exercising, see no improvement and become disheartened. Please be my friend lol. Please help encourage me and help me get back on track and I promise to do the same for you!!

    Great story.
    Being comfortable with a person, does have its draw backs.

    Wish you all the best with your weight loss. :drinker:
  • RCharlotteRose
    RCharlotteRose Posts: 20 Member
    Completely with you. THE weight is a nightmare.

    Although I must admit that I may hurl the clothes I would love to be able to wear in my boyfriend's direction (completely unintentionally of course) while screaming "IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT".
    It does take the edge off slightly but unfortunately only makes me feel better for a short amount of time since this situation usually leads to us staying in and ordering a take away... How ridiculous!

    I would love to have some friends on here I could turn to in desperation who have the same mind set as myself. Much easier not to do it alone. Please add me and help a girl out!!!!!
  • MityMax96
    MityMax96 Posts: 5,778 Member
    while screaming "IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT".

    Serious question....
    Why is that?
    I get that a lot, and frankly it annoys me, that every time something goes wrong, I am the one blamed.....
    Even if I was not present, or had anything to do with it.....
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    Hehe your story made me smile :smile: Glad you can be so lighthearted and flippant about the issue - it must be demoralising at times :smile:
  • You know what it is ladies, men get to eat so much more than us, and without meaning for it to happen you can be influenced by their eating habits! And if your other half is not that active, that can have a negative impact on your fitness levels too! Beware of the comfy clothing - not a girl's best friend! ;-)

    Watch your calories very closely each day (and yes you will feel horribly deprived the first few days) but thereafter it really does get easier! I lost loads of weight without much effort a couple of years ago, and even got to have some chocolate and sweeties most days. ;-) I have recently gained a couple of kilos and I know why - I stopped monitoring my calories, plain and simple. So MFP is going to be my first stop when I go online from now on! Best of luck ladies!
  • determined2bfit13
    determined2bfit13 Posts: 91 Member
    I've been in a relationship for 4 years and have gained 40 pounds..10 pounds a year? LOL... I was at my skinniest when I was single so seems like I got a little tooooo comfortable. THE weight needs to come off!

    Feel free to friend me!!
  • zumbachika
    zumbachika Posts: 10 Member
    thats happen to me several times!!! which is exactly why i reached my point of being big my fiance loves it me on another note i hate shopping because i refused to go up asize.
  • zumbachika
    zumbachika Posts: 10 Member
    i SO AGREE WITH YOU!!!

    You know what it is ladies, men get to eat so much more than us, and without meaning for it to happen you can be influenced by their eating habits! And if your other half is not that active, that can have a negative impact on your fitness levels too! Beware of the comfy clothing - not a girl's best friend! ;-)

    Watch your calories very closely each day (and yes you will feel horribly deprived the first few days) but thereafter it really does get easier! I lost loads of weight without much effort a couple of years ago, and even got to have some chocolate and sweeties most days. ;-) I have recently gained a couple of kilos and I know why - I stopped monitoring my calories, plain and simple. So MFP is going to be my first stop when I go online from now on! Best of luck ladies!
  • UCME77
    UCME77 Posts: 17 Member
    You story is so funny, but true. I share the same exact experience !!!! Im defintely adding you as a friend. Please do the same :)
  • I just joined this site and have the SAME story.. I have gained 10 pounds EVERY YEAR the hubs and I have been together.. so lets just say that I have 60 pounds I NOW need to loose.. and what did it was the other day he was like I love the way your *kitten* jiggles in those pants!!! OMFG.. r u kidding me? SERIOUSLY!!! He meant it nice.. and he tells me I look good all the time, HOWEVER I don't want to jiggle... lol and I want to go clothes shopping and find clothes that are not in the plus size department... and damn it I want my life and body back before I gained 260 pounds thats right (the 200 being my husband lol :)) the problem is he eats all the time, so then I think well when he eats I need to eat, and I fix him all this great delicious stuff and I'm like well I want to join in to.. then I quit wearing jeans because I was like well who do I have to impress.. comfy clothes are a SIN well they should be, because you don't notice how fat you are getting!!! Well I will def be here for you and anyone else that wants to add me as a friend, I like having friends in similar situations it really helps!!! Keep your head up... no more tubby twosomes :)