New, Shy, Scared, and Alone

NattiCee
NattiCee Posts: 1 Member
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Hiya,
I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

~Natalie

Reasons to Lose Weight:
-Cosplay
-Become a Role Model
-Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
-Improve my Asthma
-Heighten Self-Esteem
-Learn to Teach/Help Others
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  • syemon
    syemon Posts: 50
    NEW ...... HEYYYYY Welcome to MFP , SHY ..... U don't need to be shy here :) , SCARED ....... NAHHHH your in your own comforts on here don't need to be scared :) and ALONE......... Definitely NOT were all here to help[ each other no-one is ever alone unless they choose to be , YOU HAVE ONE LIFE LIVE IT TO THE MAX , GEt up in the morning and look in the mirror and tell yourself "I CAN DO THIS" "I FEEL GREAT" "I LOOK GOOD" and if you feel a plank you aint shouting it loud enough !!!!! Now go to a mirror and try it ! Add me if u wish im not a total nutter just 99% :)
  • yellhornet
    yellhornet Posts: 9 Member
    Hi and Welcome,

    You will find most people on here are very nice and supportive. Good luck on your weightless journey !

    Tom
  • pennelope515
    pennelope515 Posts: 369
    Hello. Good luck on your journey.

    What do you want to cosplay as btw?
  • ruthhunter336
    ruthhunter336 Posts: 6
    Hi There,

    I've only been on MFP for a couple of weeks. I already have a couple of friends who give me some support and encouragement. I've found, the more you put into the forum, the more you will get out.

    My goals are not huge, just shifting some persistent post baby weight and toning up the wobbly bits! 15 of us are going away for Christmas to a gorgeous holiday cottage with a swimming pool, so I want to feel comfortable in my swim suit!

    Anyway, enjoy the journey and add me as a friend if you want some encouragement.

    Good Luck!
    Ruth
  • phyl88
    phyl88 Posts: 51 Member
    Welcome,

    You have come to the right place to meet your fitness goals. There is no need to be scared, we are all here for the same reasons. Feel free to add me, I log everyday and I talk to my friends daily. Remember: support out = support in. As far as you self esteem goes, be your own biggest cheerleader. If you don't think your worth it, no one else will. I tell myself daily great and wonderful I think I am. Looks like you are well on your way, you already met some great people (above), the rest is up to you. YOU GOT THIS! Good luck on your journey!
  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
    welcome friend!
  • Malachai76
    Malachai76 Posts: 128
    Hi you've made the first step so well done you'll grow in confidence as you start seeing results get some supportive friends as someone else said being active in the posts and you'll soon have plenty of friends. i mainly workout at home due to time constraints i i'm getting the best results i've ever had this way i do beach body products i have done insanity about to finish focus t25 and then i'm doing body beast so there are loads options out there to get you fit. i'll send you a friend request i'm here to help people so feel free to ask me for it
  • LaurensE1
    LaurensE1 Posts: 199 MFP Moderator
    Welcome :)

    You'll meet lots of members that are very supportive and make a couple of friends :)
    Don't worry. If you have any questions, feel free to PM them.
  • Tish
    Tish Posts: 34 Member
    Hi there, so glad you reached out, I'm also looking for friends who are on similar weight loss mission. Feel free to add me if you think we can support and motivate each other. As for the people who bullied you, use them as motivation to eat well and exercise because while they are busy judging people you will be getting fabulously fit and healthy, looking good and feeling great!! Good luck on your journey you are in the right place here for success!!
  • njbh86
    njbh86 Posts: 38 Member
    Sup. If you need someone to offer support as you go, feel free to add me. I'm a nice guy - only killed that one time, and in my defense, I was provoked... ;)
  • CindaWhite
    CindaWhite Posts: 104 Member
    Welcome to the journey! You have taken the first step in the right direction, just keep walking. Baby steps... Slow and steady will work in so many ways. MFP is a great resource for information and tracking. And a huge support system. Everyone here was not happy with themselves when they joined so we all know where your coming from and we're dying to have a chance to help you get where you want to be! Sending you a friend request, add me and we can start helping each other today!
  • Rai007
    Rai007 Posts: 387 Member
    hey welcome.
  • D0minionconquest
    D0minionconquest Posts: 18 Member
    Welcome! We are about the same height and weight and have the same goal for weight loss! Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like! I would never judge or criticize in a bad way to make you uncomfortable! You are in the right place, this site is pretty great about having tons of support and resources.

    Good luck!
  • katem78
    katem78 Posts: 101 Member
    Welcome and congratulations on your decision to start a new way of life!!!

    Step by step you will get over all your fears and worries!!!
    it needs time and patience!
    in here you will find a lot of support and believe me there are great people in here!!!!

    Feel free to add me as a friend if you want!!!

    Good luck

    xxx
  • KMiYong
    KMiYong Posts: 130 Member
    Welcome to MFP, Natalie :) I am Winter, a bit taller than you and much heavier, but we're a bit alike.. Shy IRL, open book online.
    feel free to add :)
  • IronSmasher
    IronSmasher Posts: 3,908 Member
    Just decide who you want to be.

    Figure out what makes you happy.
  • Regan45
    Regan45 Posts: 191 Member
    Welcome Natalie! You will find a lot of support here. You're definitely not alone.
    I have never wanted to go to the gym either or join a group like weight watchers. I'm not a shy person but didn't like the either of those ideas. I do Jillian Michaels work outs at home and use the tread mill.
    MFP works great for me. I hope it works for you too!
  • tammie614
    tammie614 Posts: 48 Member
    good morning and welcome Natalie,

    you'll love it here my fit pals are nothing but supportive you've come to the right place.
  • Kymmu
    Kymmu Posts: 1,650 Member
    Looks like you have an instant fan base- feel free to add me too!
  • LanaeCarol
    LanaeCarol Posts: 158 Member
    No need to feel alone. There are tons of people on here who are willing to be friends with you and offer support. I am sending you a friend request.
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
    Sounds like great reasons and goals! There really isn't any reason to be scared on this site. Most people are supportive. The great thing is if you do run across someone that doesn't blend well with you, then you can just delete them. We are here to support and encourage. Life is crazy and this is support for new habits. You can do this if you want. Sent a friend request. Good luck!
  • eattherude
    eattherude Posts: 21 Member
    Heya :)

    Just letting you know if you need to talk to anyone I'm right here...I've just come back to MFP after a few months absence and found all the friends I made last time have vanished so I'm kind of in the same boat as you at the moment...if you want someone to chat to/rant at etc I'm right here

    also good luck with your goal! :)
  • FarFromEmbrace
    FarFromEmbrace Posts: 1
    Hola! We have the same problem and I'm still in high school. So please don't feel alone, I would love to help you through this journey. :) and don't have a low self esteem although I do, you seem really smart and nice, bye! And you can totally talk to me
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    Hiya,
    I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

    I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

    I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

    I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

    ~Natalie

    Reasons to Lose Weight:
    -Cosplay
    -Become a Role Model
    -Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
    -Improve my Asthma
    -Heighten Self-Esteem
    -Learn to Teach/Help Others

    the first thing to know about MFP is that you'll find people on the public forums advocating some silly "rules" for you to follow (such as eating "clean", avoiding "processed/refined sugars", etc.) in order to lose weight. don't listen to any of those rules. although i'm sure most of those folks mean well, they are badly misinformed and don't realize that they are not seeing the forest through the trees.

    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress
  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    Hiya,
    I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

    I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

    I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

    I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

    ~Natalie

    Reasons to Lose Weight:
    -Cosplay
    -Become a Role Model
    -Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
    -Improve my Asthma
    -Heighten Self-Esteem
    -Learn to Teach/Help Others

    the first thing to know about MFP is that you'll find people on here advocating some silly "rules" for you to follow (such as eating "clean", avoiding "processed sugars", etc.) to lose weight. don't listen to any of those rules. although i'm sure most of those folks mean well, they are badly misinformed and don't realize that they are not seeing the forest through the trees.

    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

    This site can be a sea of noise sometimes.

    Please take the above poster's advice. He is correct.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    Hiya,
    I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

    I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

    I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

    I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

    ~Natalie

    Reasons to Lose Weight:
    -Cosplay
    -Become a Role Model
    -Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
    -Improve my Asthma
    -Heighten Self-Esteem
    -Learn to Teach/Help Others

    the first thing to know about MFP is that you'll find people on here advocating some silly "rules" for you to follow (such as eating "clean", avoiding "processed sugars", etc.) to lose weight. don't listen to any of those rules. although i'm sure most of those folks mean well, they are badly misinformed and don't realize that they are not seeing the forest through the trees.

    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

    This site can be a sea of noise sometimes.

    Please take the above poster's advice. He is correct.

    Please listen to the delicious thing lol
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    Hiya,
    I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

    I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

    I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

    I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

    ~Natalie

    Reasons to Lose Weight:
    -Cosplay
    -Become a Role Model
    -Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
    -Improve my Asthma
    -Heighten Self-Esteem
    -Learn to Teach/Help Others

    the first thing to know about MFP is that you'll find people on here advocating some silly "rules" for you to follow (such as eating "clean", avoiding "processed sugars", etc.) to lose weight. don't listen to any of those rules. although i'm sure most of those folks mean well, they are badly misinformed and don't realize that they are not seeing the forest through the trees.

    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

    This site can be a sea of noise sometimes.

    Please take the above poster's advice. He is correct.

    Please listen to the delicious thing lol

    Agreed on all counts.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    Welcome to MFP! There are a lot of us who are going at this alone in the real world but have a great support base on here. If you do a search for cosplay, there are several threads, and I think there's also a group (in the blue bar above, go to "Groups" and search for cosplay). There you'll find lots of people who share your interests :)

    Good luck in meeting your goals! :)
  • wdwmindy
    wdwmindy Posts: 31
    Welcome! I too am on my journey alone in the real world. I dislike group settings and avoid gyms so I use exercise video games and I do a decent amount of walking (in my house and on hiking trails). I use a Fitbit Zip to calculate calories burned and MFP to keep track of calories eaten. You can do this!
  • arabianhorselover
    arabianhorselover Posts: 1,488 Member
    Welcome. I can relate to being shy and to being bullied in the past. I don't have any real support from my family on this journey, but this site is helping me so much. I know it will help you, too.

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