New, Shy, Scared, and Alone

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  • ihad
    ihad Posts: 7,463 Member
    Hiya,
    I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

    I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

    I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

    I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

    ~Natalie

    Reasons to Lose Weight:
    -Cosplay
    -Become a Role Model
    -Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
    -Improve my Asthma
    -Heighten Self-Esteem
    -Learn to Teach/Help Others

    the first thing to know about MFP is that you'll find people on here advocating some silly "rules" for you to follow (such as eating "clean", avoiding "processed sugars", etc.) to lose weight. don't listen to any of those rules. although i'm sure most of those folks mean well, they are badly misinformed and don't realize that they are not seeing the forest through the trees.

    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

    This site can be a sea of noise sometimes.

    Please take the above poster's advice. He is correct.

    Please listen to the delicious thing lol

    Agreed on all counts.

    The woman above knows what she is talking about.
  • Chevy_Quest
    Chevy_Quest Posts: 2,012 Member
    <<snipped>>
    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

    Hi - What the above poster said... ^^^

    When I finally understood what BMR/TDEE was all about - yes.. .it is tough at first. It made all the difference in the world.

    Also..there are many good groups here you can browse. Also.. I try to read as many success stories because they are positive.

    To be honest there are so many ways to do it. People here will be fanatic about their approach... step back, read, learn and you will find a good way! Good luck :smile:
  • Spartan_1_1_7
    Spartan_1_1_7 Posts: 132 Member
    NEW ...... HEYYYYY Welcome to MFP , SHY ..... U don't need to be shy here :) , SCARED ....... NAHHHH your in your own comforts on here don't need to be scared :) and ALONE......... Definitely NOT were all here to help[ each other no-one is ever alone unless they choose to be , YOU HAVE ONE LIFE LIVE IT TO THE MAX , GEt up in the morning and look in the mirror and tell yourself "I CAN DO THIS" "I FEEL GREAT" "I LOOK GOOD" and if you feel a plank you aint shouting it loud enough !!!!! Now go to a mirror and try it ! Add me if u wish im not a total nutter just 99% :)

    This !! This is a great place for support and advice and sometimes just goofing off! I have met the most amazing supportive people here and gotten a lot of great advice and so will you :) I did not use the community aspect of the site until recently even though I was on here from the beginning of the year and it is a lot of fun and encouragement. If you are on MFP you are never alone :) Good luck with the weight loss !!
  • mel4bee
    mel4bee Posts: 225 Member
    Hiya,
    I'm new, very shy, scared, and starting alone in my goals. I'm not entirely new to the scene of developing a healthy lifestyle; I study nutrition at a university, but I'm still learning the basics of fitness.

    I'm a very shy person and because of this I don't talk to many people where I live (or know anyone) because I've been bullied for most of my life. So I have a fairly low self esteem at times; more so in a public situations. I've decided to try taking the solo route for a bit and avoiding public fitness centers and classes for the time being (bad experiences); focusing on physical activity at home to start. In addition, I plan to use MyFitnessPal as a resource to aid me and maybe find connections/support.

    I currently weigh 191 lbs at 5'5". My goal is to eventually lose 50 lbs and then eventually a bit more, as well as develop more lean muscle.

    I'm open to talking with anyone, I'm basically an open book, and I'm a great listener and open to new ideas and advice.

    ~Natalie

    Reasons to Lose Weight:
    -Cosplay
    -Become a Role Model
    -Decrease Risk of DM and CVD
    -Improve my Asthma
    -Heighten Self-Esteem
    -Learn to Teach/Help Others

    Hey, I used to have some problems with self esteem and shyness too. In fact I still have some issued but I've realised that it is part of who I am and I'm more accepting of myself. It helped me a lot and along the way I've made some life long friendship and a boyfriend that I adore. I can help you if you want. xo
  • cookiealbright
    cookiealbright Posts: 605 Member
    Hi & Welcome to MFP! You can add me, I'm here everday. :flowerforyou:
  • kealey1318
    kealey1318 Posts: 290 Member
    Welcome, Natalie! I look forward to seeing you around the boards! Best wishes on all of your goals!
  • JeniferEverx3
    JeniferEverx3 Posts: 219 Member
    I'm sorry you've had such horrible experiences with people. There's a lot of bad in this world unfortunately, and a lot of the time bad breed bad. The few of us who were raised properly and treat people with respect do exist though. You have to remember that when people bully you the only person who looks bad is them. It speaks to their character and theirs alone. Let that be a reason to feel better about yourself. How does another person's opinion actually physically or materially affect your life? It doesn't. Their opinion doesn't matter. Your opinion is the one that matters. Feel free to add me if you would like another friend and more encouragement. Good luck!
  • MSam1205
    MSam1205 Posts: 439 Member
    You have come to the right place! :bigsmile: :bigsmile: Yes, sometimes there are snarky people who troll the threads, but 99% of the folks on here are super awesome! That being said, you do get out of it what you put into it, so start logging and start making MFP friends and you will find success at your own pace and within your comfort zone:flowerforyou:
  • dkrudop
    dkrudop Posts: 3 Member
    it's a cool place..good folks. good chat, lots of encouragement........just holler when you need some good words!
  • Cyngen
    Cyngen Posts: 557 Member
    Welcome to a great life long journey of healthy living :)
  • angie007az
    angie007az Posts: 406 Member
    Hey there, I am losing all alone too but I joined Dietbet. It's not much to join a game. You can join for as little as $10 and some games are $30. I joined a game on Sept. 24th, it cost me $30. I lost 10.8 pounds and won $49.00. So in reality it was free, fun and I made money too. Check it out. I think you will enjoy it.
  • Inshape13
    Inshape13 Posts: 680 Member
    Hi and welcome to MFP. I was the fat one in my circle of family and friends so I can relate to going at this "alone". I am currently in college for physical therapy...after losing this weight and gaining a love for fitness it lead me in this direction. Feel free to add me and I would love to support you along your weight loss.
  • 40andFindingFitness
    40andFindingFitness Posts: 497 Member
    Hi there, you may be new and shy but once you joined MFP you were no longer alone.

    I've sent you an add request, new friend. :0)
  • CompressedCarbon
    CompressedCarbon Posts: 357 Member
    <<snipped>>
    all you need to understand to get started is to understand what your BMR/TDEE are, how to calculate them, how to choose a proper calorie deficit from TDEE, and how to set your macros (i only track fats and protein, but others also track fiber, sodium, etc.). once you've got those basics down, it's just a matter of logging everything honestly and accurately. meet your goals more days than not and the weight will start to come off.

    start your education here:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    i'd also suggest joining that group and reading everything in there. IMHO, it's the best "derp free zone" on this whole site.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/10118-eat-train-progress

    Hi - What the above poster said... ^^^

    When I finally understood what BMR/TDEE was all about - yes.. .it is tough at first. It made all the difference in the world.

    Also..there are many good groups here you can browse. Also.. I try to read as many success stories because they are positive.

    To be honest there are so many ways to do it. People here will be fanatic about their approach... step back, read, learn and you will find a good way! Good luck :smile:

    What they said. There are some idiots here. There are some crazies here. You'll discover them soon enough. But there are also some amazing, generous, and utterly fabulous people here too. Seek these people out.

    You've got this, because now you want it. Just keep after it and you'll get to where you want to be. And a year from now, you'll be wondering why you were afraid.
  • Bama56
    Bama56 Posts: 101 Member
    welcome to MFP!

    There is no reason to feel shy, scared or alone here, MFP is full of people that are experiencing / have been through all the things you are facing. There are numerous people that will be glad to provide you with any assistance possible and provide support along the way. Send me a message if you ever have any questions.
  • SnowWhiteFanatic
    SnowWhiteFanatic Posts: 129 Member
    Welcome!! You completed the first step by starting MFP. We all need encouragement and support. I'm here if you need me. Add me if you'd like.
  • Zibberroo
    Zibberroo Posts: 31 Member
    Welcome to a wonderfully supportive group of people. I am actually just now getting acquainted with this site as well. I have had the application for a long time, but did not really start using it until this month. I glad that I finally took the time to organize my life and do so, as it is proving to be a very valuable tool. Between the knowledge that you will discover and track in your daily life, to the help, advice, experience and support that the other users provide, this is the place to come if you have a goal that you take seriously.
  • aftonslater
    aftonslater Posts: 69 Member
    Welcome :) myfitnesspal is an awesome awesome place! you can totally reach all your goals. feel free to add me if you want :)
  • duanepuddin
    duanepuddin Posts: 4
    No need to bescared or shy. Everyone on here has the same goals and understands what you are trying to accomplish. Dont worry about others think. There are all kinds of people on here that are only a message a way for support and friendship! :)
  • rides4sanity
    rides4sanity Posts: 1,269 Member
    You are not so different from the rest of us. Many of us have always known what we needed to do, but lacked the courage and cofidence to do it. I was very shy early in my life, but as I've gotten older I've realized that I missed out on a lot because I was afraid. I was afraid I'd fail, afraid I'd look foolish, afraid some one would laugh, etc... Learning to let yourself live is tough, but living a full life is so rewarding. Glad you are here. Feel free to add me. I'm 5'1, my max weight not pregnant was 186-19?, fitness got me down to 140-150, finally adding nutrition has me in the 120's most of the time. I back slide occassionally, and mess up frequently, but that is just life. Take care!

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