Damned if you do, damned if you don't

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One of the great things about this site is that you can find a LOT of support here. As far as at home, try explaining that you're changing to better your health for yourself and for your family. It's okay to be selfish if that involves nipping the diabetes in the bud! Change is hard, and it may take awhile for your loved ones to get used to the new you. Hopefully they'll see the positive changes you're making and begin giving you help and support.

Kudos to you for starting your journey to better health!

Change is tramatic to those we love (and spend lots of time with) they can be freaked out by our ability to switch things up. Plus is we change the way we live that must mean the potential illness is REAL that for those who love us that is pretty scarry.

Try hard to be kind and understanding of his fear, but do NOT let it impact your new smart choices! See where you can include your family/friends with walks etc... and try to make it fun for them.

Sometimes the new energy we get from exercise can be a plus - if you know what I mean If you give those in your life a reason to want to encourage you it can help.

I've been married so long that the biggest turn on for my husband is my new found energy being used to do the dishes every night. Whoot. But none the less he's pretty happy about it.

KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!

I think it may be less to do with the time spent on the Wii and being picky and more to do with your family's feelings towards the fact that you are about to lose weight. A lot of people, particularly partners can be unsupportive or sabotage diets because they are scared of what it will mean for them. It might be that they are scared that you will change or be different, that you won't want them any more when you're thin and confident, perhaps that you will attract other people or perhaps it just draws attention to their own insecurtities and the fact that they are doing nothing to help themselves.

If you think this could be the problem I'd suggest talking to your family, asking if they have fears or concerns and trying to make them feel better about it. If it's your partner, reassure him that nothing will change except that you'll be more healthy for him and your kid/s. Or think of all the things that will benefit him.

Hope this helps xox

if youre pre diabetic, and youre able to change that status, it may be to your advantage, both physically and financially

Ever know some ones whos diabetic and then applied for medical insurance? Its a bear, you literally are always turned down, or your rates are going to be sky high..........

Deal with the drama, but get well.........Youre not that overweight that you need to spend years on it. Good luck Lloyd

I don't have any advice other than do what's best for you!!!! Your family will eventually "come to terms" with the new you!

Also, CONGRATS on the new you!!! Good Luck and we're here to listen whenever you need us!


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I think what I may do is try to go to bed a little earlier and then get up around 5am and exercise then. I hope I don't wake anyone up. Apt is kinda small lol. Yoga is quiet.. I could do that .. now that I think about it.

Ok.. now I just need to get my tired behind out of bed! That's going to be a challenge in itself hahaha

Typically I find when stuff like this is occurring, that there are other underlying issues that are bothering the person. Not to get all "counselor" on you, but is that REALLY what is bothering your loved one?

Just making a very broad suggestion. Are they also unhappy about the way they eat and their body image? Sorry to pick any wounds...but just a thought from someone who used to do the same thing herself.

First of all I just want you to know that it very possible to reverse your medical issues before they become bad. Last December my doctor told me I was pre-diabetic and my blood pressure and cholesterol were very close to the “danger zone”, and said I was 3 – 6 months away from being put on medication for all three. As of my visit last month, my blood work has never looked better and I am no longer in danger of needing medications. Please don’t give up!!

It can be really hard for our families to adjust to changes in our lifestyles like that. Maybe if you explain to your family that you’re doing this for your health they might be more supportive. Make sure they know all the health issues you will face if you don’t make this change. You can also try to make your workouts into “family time” activities. My husband comes with me on my walks/jogs and if you have kids who like sports, playing and running around with them is great exercise.

Best of luck!!! Don’t let this discourage you from getting healthier.

I would not call my family unsupportive but my kids are scared about me changing. "but mom, you're pretty the way you are" is sweet but what it's saying, I think, is "don't change too much, mom"!

Man my kids are like "when are going to lose the fat", my kids want me to lose weight, they do not like that i am fat.
yes they use the word "FAT" a lot. Its not we have not had a talk about saying that word, but they are like tell it like it is, any other way is a lie.
I think my weight affects my 6 yr old daughter the most, she wants me to be skinny like her.
Out of my family i am the one with the weight issue, everyone got daddy's skinny gene. eat anything you want and don't gain weight at all.

STAY FOCUSED AND DO WHAT IT TAKES TO BETTER YOUR HEALTH ...I DONT MEAN TO BE AROGANT BUT THEY ARE NOT THE ONES WHO WILL HAVE TO TAKE SHOTS AND MEDS ALL THE TIME AND THEY ARE NOT THE ONES WHO WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH ALL THE ISSUES THAT COME WITH DIABETES......SO INCOURAGE YOURSELF AND STAY ON TRACK AND IF YOU HAVE TO GO TO THE GYM OR GET UP EARLY SO YOU DONT HAVE TO HEAR THE COMPLAINTS DO JUST THAT BUT WHATEVER YOU DO JUST DONT GIVE UP ON YOUR FITNESS GOALS...... GOOD LUCK............

If you don't get yourself healthy you may really have your family life in shambles because you may not be here. You need to sit them down and explain how important it is that you do this. My aunt/uncle/and cousin all have diabetes and it is really sad because they struggle with it daily. My cousin (who is only 15 btw) could have prevented this had she had a good example to go by, don't be that bad example for your family. Keep doing what you are doing!! In the long run when you are here for them and healthy and strong then they will understand and be appreciative.

lilttlemo78 -- I most certainly feel your frustration. (been there done that). First off, I want to tell you a little about myself: I am an insulin dependent diabetic. Have not always been. Was not until I was in my 30's. My doctor always called me ''pre-diabetic" and when I started on oral medications, I was considered Type II. Later, (in my 40's) and my blood sugar kept elevating EVEN THO I WAS DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT, I went to an Endocrinologist who diagnosed me as LADA (Latent Autoimmune Diabetes in Adults) which is primarily same thing as Type I but did not manifest until adulthood.
I went thru the same thing with my family. I married a 'good ole southern boy' - you know, the kind who grew up with biscuits and gravy and everything fried. I took over where his mom left off and that's the way I cooked for him and the kids. Well, when I found out about my diabetic problem, I started to change the way I cooked around here. COMPLAINTS you would not believe. I went to diabetic classes and did a lot of research. There are so many recipes out there - fast and easy ones - that are soooo good, you would be amazed. Many, I'm so sure, your entire family will like. You really do not have to give up your favorite foods. Carbs are NOT the enemy. You just mainly have to be a better shopper and choose products more wisely, change around the way you cook them - and of course, reduce your portions.

Exercise is so vital. You are doing right with the Wii or even going to the apartment gym - you're lucky to have one. One hour a day really is not so much to ask your family to consider for your time. How about, maybe, taking a brisk one hour walk around the neighborhood and maybe inviting them to join you?
You should also explain to them that diabetes is a silent killer!! This disease will attack every single organ in your body from your eyes all the way down to your toes without you even being aware of it. High blood sugar and cholestoral which go hand in hand, landed me in the hospital a few years ago with a stroke and my kidneys shutting down --mainly because I passed things off and did not take care of myself as I should have. Talk about a wake up call. I am so fortunate to have been able to come back from that. Won't happen again. I cannot take care of my family if I don't first take care of myself. I am my number one priority.

Please take that attitude! You are number 1. You cannot be there for your family if you don't take care of yourself. Do some research. YOU can control your diabetes and/or ''pre-diabetes' condition. Do not allow it to control you. It is manageable, and in many cases will go away with a healthy lifestyle change. :happy: