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RRwife1011
RRwife1011 Posts: 1
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1. While making the bed this AM I realized that I no longer fit in that space between the bed and the wall.
2. My favorite pair of size 18 jeans will not button (and to me it's sad that I actually have a favorite pair of size 18s)
3. I can no longer paint my toenails w/out having to come up for air.
4. It has dawned on me that I am the "fat wife" amongst my husband's friends/coworkers.
5. My ability to do anything is diminishing by the second.
6. My 60+ year old father has starting working out, has lost 40 pounds, and is now in better shape than me.
7. I'm tired of people asking me when I'm due or referring to me being "in my condition".
8. I don't recognize myself in pictures. I saw a recent pic of myself and had to concentrate on the fact that I was looking at myself.
9. I can no longer walk and talk at the same time w/out having an episode that mirrors cardiac arrest.
10. WHICH SHOULD ACTUALLY BE #1...My husband fessed up over the weekend that when we first got together some 13 years ago he actually thought then that I could stand to lose a few pounds. This is a shock to me because I was a size 8, which isn't a fit size for my body shape, but one I thought I still looked pretty good at.
I love my husband's honesty. It's one of my favorite things about him but this shook me to my core. I had no idea, and even though I knew at the time I was overweight I still thought I was very attractive. The scary part is trying to figure out what he thinks of me now when I'm really a size 20. I know he loves me more than life and I him but DAMN IT ALL TO HELL I wan my husband to think I'm hot.
I know my profile is incomplete and I promise to complete it soon, but this is what I'm looking for. Support. I need women who are in my shoes or who have been in my shoes to help me along the way, and I hope that I'm able to offer up some help as well. I'VE GOT TO DO THIS!!! I have no choice. I have a wedding to go to this summer that I want to debut at as smoking hot. The last weddings I attended I was the fat wife and I just don't want that anymore for myself or for my amazing husband. So, if you like please send me a friend request so we can do this together. Thanks!

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  • CassarahW
    CassarahW Posts: 93 Member
    This is the place to be if you want support! The people here are amazing! Just remember to take it one step at a time and for every step backwards you take (we all have them) take two steps forward. I remember after I had my first son I saw a picture of my skinny husband sitting next to me and my tiny baby in my arms and there I was a giant blog at 284 lbs! I actually yelled at my husband because he never said anything about me gaining weight. I had no idea how big I had gotten. The picture will forever be burned into my memory. Sadly, I had lost 100 lbs after that and then proceeded to go up and down and up and up after each child. At the beginning of this year I was back up to the 280's. :( I'm at 253 now so I'm working on it and excited to see my progress. I'll add you as a friend. I'd love to motivate each other.
  • ranchmimi
    ranchmimi Posts: 111 Member
    If you don't mind an "older" friend you can add me. I'm 76, on here daily, started out at 237 in Oct. 2011 and am now at 201.8 just anticipating one-derland! I had many of the issues you are now having - and many of them are gone already! Not the husband issue because he passed in 2006. Really wish I had done this when he was alive - I tried many times (I've lost at least 100 lbs at times - but it was the same 20 pounds over and over and over again)! I think - and am praying - that I finally have this new way of life figured out and can stay on it the rest of my life! Not a diet but a healthy way of eating!
  • Villalobosy
    Villalobosy Posts: 1
    I'm in almost the same boat RRwife1011.....
    1. Only difference is my bed is against the wall.
    2. Also a size 18 in jeans....tight on the belly. It sucks.
    3. I barely change the polish on my toes, for the very reason you described.
    4. I used to be the, if you want to say thinner one...but now I am the fattest of my friends.
    5. Second that. I just have no energy whatsoever.
    6. Your dad is rocking it! Congrats to him!
    7. No one has asked me that yet, but if it did happen, I'm sure I'd cry.
    8. We just took family photo's yesterday. I hated every picture I was in. You think you look good when you're at home, then you see the pictures. I look like a big fat monster. I refused to look at the rest.
    9. I smoke, which I know I need to quit doing. But I know what you're talking about.
    10. My hubby did something like this also, but it was when I was in the FXB program. I had a love/hate relationship with it. I wanted to quit. But my husband told me he didn't want me too. I took that as, you're fat. You need to keep doing it. (and I did quit, ugh)

    So if you want someone to help on your journey, I'm here. If you'll help me on mine. :) Yvonne

    My stats"

    5'6
    SW: 218
    GW: 200 (I'm going to lower it as I go!)
  • KatrinaGrey
    KatrinaGrey Posts: 101 Member
    I feel your pain. I hate not being able to do things without stopping to take gulps of air etc. When I go to school events, I'm "the fat mom." Feel free to add me and we can support each other. This is a great site for information, support, and friendship.

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