Out of Control!!! (warning: ranty)

My husband loves to cook and when we first got together he would get offended if I didn't eat ALOT of what he made. So I ate ALOT and gained 30 lbs. I told him that I loved him but I had to quit eating like that. So now he eats what he wants and I eat a salad & one night a week I cook fresh wild caught fish of some kind and things have gotten back on track. You can do it, you just have to figure out a compromise that works for you both. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Lol. I can relate. Smh. I really want to get back into the gym again and get sexy for him. Lol. I'm just uncomfortable with myself. I feel the better I feel about myself the better my relationship can get with him.

Hey there!! Feel free to add me bc we are DEF in the same situation and I can relate! :happy:

My boyfriend and I are having our 4 year anniversary in a few days and here's how it's been so far.

First year we drank like thirsty sailors, and ate like little piggies at fast food places at all hours of the day and night.

Second year, we had gone on a health kick (he started p90x and I rejoined the gym for a month during the summer). We were both vegan mostly (great for me...not so much for him) and got pretty well-shaped up quickly. Nothing long term or long lasting...just for the summer.

Rest of second year and third year, being college students, we went back to drinking and eating almost entirely fast food. I mean, I lived there...they knew me my name...it was bad. Finally, his mom starting nagging us that we got "really fat together" and how ugly we were. It broke my heart...I only had gained 20 pounds. I have no idea why someone would be so cruel to us...and all the while my boyfriend always said how hot I was. However, I did notice my thighs were becoming somewhat absurd and a double chin was appearing.

To prove that I didn't give two $hits what his mother said, I purposely continued to gain weight until I hit about 140 where I hadn't been since a little awkward 6th grader.

Finally, January 1st of this year I decided to do it for myself and screw her...I started exercising, I started eating right, and I became (and continue to be) super healthy now. My boyfriend started the journey with me, ended it VERY shortly afterwards. He just loves his crap food...and I don't want to do that to myself (though everything can fit into the diet within reason...I still enjoy a good bowl of mac and cheese once a month!) My only hard and steadfast rule is we will NOT eat fast food. I don't care what he orders when we go out, or what he makes at home, just NO fast food. I refuse to even eat in an establishment like that...not even the salads are healthy.

Overall, he isn't ready to change (though he gladly does Couple's Yoga and Spin with me at my gym- It's all women so he can't come the rest of the time) but he's more than willing to support me. And over time, I've rubbed off on him a bit. He asks a lot of health questions and seeing how far I've come has made him want to be healthier, even if not ALL the time. He makes BETTER decisions usually and I can't be too mad.

In the end, you are you. They're boys...and unless they want to do something- they probably won't. You can only hope that him seeing your healthy self will inspire him and perhaps make him eat better too. They'll always want their wings and beer, but you can have one yourself and not worry. It's all about not binging. I tried one of my boyfriend's nachos last night, but then finished my salad and buffalo burger instead. A little is all ya need sometimes

What's good is that he doesn't sound detrimental to your weight loss. Some boyfriend's get worried their girls will leave them, or get offended when they refuse certain meals (especially home cooked ones from Mamadukes). As long as he isn't doing any of that to you- I'd say keep rolling with your plan and hopefully he'll follow one day

Hey lady! congrats on getting back on track! I'm going to echo what everyone else said - you have to do it for you, regardless of whether or not he's with you. I've been married for 13 years, and at my worst was over 200 pounds. My husband has continued to gain weight during the marriage, even as I've lost. We both work, so he eats what he wants during the work day, and I eat healthy. Since I"m mostly in charge of food preparation at home we make healthier choices, and he's good with it. When it comes to snacks, he has his and I do mine. BUT, I've learned that I can have the same snacks he has, so long as I do it in moderation, and it doesn't derail my fitness-trek.

omg this is me. lol i LITERALLY gained 50 lbs in 6 MONTHS when i met my boyfriend (we've been together 6 years now). It's still super hard because he eats everything that i LOVE. I think that's the biggest reason i haven't been successful in my weight loss it's cause most of our going out would be to eat. But what i'm trying now is meal prepping i take one day out of the week to make meals for the whole week. ( i just started doing this but heard of many people doing it ) So whenever he wants to eat something we pick up for him and then i take my lunch and we eat at his house. I still pick off his food sometimes when i really want it but it's better than having the same huge meal he's having! Or another thing is wherever he wants to go eat i google healthy choices before going there and figure out EXACTLY what i'm going to eat before going out if that place has nothing healthy you can ask for them to put half the meal in a to go box for you so you won't eat it all. Those are just some tips that i'm learning to implement in my life ! Hope it helps ! Good luck and you can do this!!!